Mum outraged over teacher’s extreme birthday party rule: 'Abuse of power'

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Invitations to parties are hard at any age — and throwing parties with school age children is always hard work.

Wanting to avoid an over-the-top party, one woman decided to let her son, who is in year one, invite five friends over the celebrate his birthday.

The mum sent the invites out over social media, saying her son was "super excited" about it. However, the plan was soon put on hold after his teacher heard his friends talking about it and sent her an email demanding all 25 students in the class be invited,

"I told her there is no way I'm hosting 25 kids in my small apartment, and she suggested I move the party to a nearby park instead," the woman wrote in a Reddit post

"I told her that there is no way I'm watching and feeding 25 children either, and that I'd never heard of this rule and we certainly hadn't been invited to every other child's birthday party."

"She replied that it is indeed a rule even if others had skirted it, and if he didn't bring invitations for the whole class the next day (yesterday), he'd have to turn his behaviour card to "double red" and miss recess," she recalled in disbelief, coming up with a solution to show her how she feels about her rules.

"Instead, I took him out for the day and we had a blast getting ice cream, getting a happy meal, and picking out a small early birthday present," she said. "And I explained in a simple way why we were doing what we were doing."

However, her husband doesn't agree with her behaviour, calling her a "Karen" for being "so petty" and making their son miss school.

"Basically telling me that my feelings are right but that all I did was hurt my child instead," she said with concern. "I'm worried he has a point. AITA?"

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A young girl celebrating her birthday as she is blowing out the candles on her cake (shallow DOF with focus on candles and top of cake).

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Reddit users agreed they felt the rule was ridiculous, confirming that by not handing out invites at school she wasn't in the wrong. 

"It wasn't the teachers place to say anything. And moving a kid on a behaviour chart to double red is NOT an appropriate consequence for not inviting the whole class. At all,"one user responded. "That's just an abuse of power."

"Behaviour systems like that should only be based on the child and their actions," they continued. "Not anything to do with parents or outside of school activities."

"That stuff is really wild to me," said another. "I grew up in the 90s, invitations were given in class and it was clear that not everyone would get invited to everything. Did it suck? Sure. But we've dealt with it."

"How can a school possibly dictate whom you invite into your own home?," another remarked. "Is this a public school? I would pursue it with the principal, and if not, with the school board. If your child is penalised, I'd see a lawyer."