A Michigan dad has shamed his four-year-old son for hitting a girl.
Father, Rob Devine said that taking away his son’s toys wasn’t working, so instead, he made him stand on a busy intersection holding a sign saying, “I hit girls.”
In an interview with HLN, Devine said he had no regrets with his choice of punishment.
“I’d do it again, honestly,” he said.
Devine shares joint custody of his son with the boy’s mother, Brittany Tweed.
When Tweed found out that her son was shamed on the side of the road she called child protective services, according to HLN.
“I feel degraded for him, she said.
“I don’t think it's right for a four-year-old to go on one of the busiest intersections holding a sign.”
But Devine isn’t the only parent to resort to shaming.
Similarly, Kira Hudson posted a picture of her daughter, Amia, on Facebook holding a sign dated 18/03/14, saying, “Mum is trying to show me how many people can see a picture once it’s on the internet.”
The photo was edited to say some offensive comments. Soon after, Hudson took the photo down and said that she also learned something from the experiment.
In her article, Don't Shame Children In Pursuit Of Discipline, Peggy Drexler says it can be difficult for parents to know how to address disappointing behaviour.
Discipline is important she says, but “it’s not about getting even, inducing guilt, or even punishing – all of which are forms of shaming a child.”
“Instead, discipline is about correcting and guiding children to more appropriate behaviour.”
While shaming his son may not have been the best response, Rob Devine said that “kids don’t come with an instruction manual.”
“I’m not going to lie. If it persists then this doesn’t work, then I’ll figure out something else.”
“You know, trial and error.”