This is what it's like taking my child with ADHD out in public

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 Photo: Facebook: Taylor Myers

"Oh, for Christ's sake, give her a cookie so she'll shut up."  These are the words Taylor Myers heard from  a stranger while trying to deal with the supermarket meltdown of her four-year-old daughter Sophie, who has ADHD.

The outburst devastated the stressed single mum who works hard to care for Sophie. After leaving the store, Taylor took to social media to share the reality she faces every day when taking her young daughter out.

"She's relentless. I know this. I live with it," Taylor wrote on her Facebook page.

"Her ADHD and obsessive little heart gets on these subjects of things she finds unjust and wrong and it doesn't stop until she eventually falls asleep or something very dramatic happens to snatch the attention away."

Taylor wrote that she and Sophie were in the queue at a supermarket waiting for pay for their groceries when Sophie started "whining over a bag of crisps" that Taylor had taken away from her.

Taylor waited in the queue, ignoring Sophie, refusing to give in – which is what so many of us would do in that situation.

But then Taylor heard the woman's voice shout from behind her, "Oh, for Christ's sake, give her a cookie so she'll shut up."

Already feeling pushed to the limit, that was enough for Taylor. She wrote on Facebook, "I could've responded in a nicer way. I could've explained that my four-year-old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I'm doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries.

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"Instead, I heard, 'She's four-years-old and you need to mind your own f**king business' come out of my mouth."

Taylor was so upset, she walked – with tears rolling down her face - with Sophie over to the self-serve checkout so she could avoid having to face any further comments about her parenting.

"[At this point] I've lost it," she wrote. "I'm angry, my feelings are hurt, I'm offended, and I'm just freakin' sad that I can't have one good experience in a store with my children.

"As I scan my things, a woman walks up and begins talking to Sophie. She asks her questions to distract her, and backs me up when Sophie begins to go on about wanting the crisps.

"Honestly, this woman could've been the antichrist and I [couldn't have] had more appreciation for her kindness and compassion than I have for anyone else I've ever encountered.

"It only takes one comment to break someone down. You never know what someone's going through. Mamas have to stick together."

Taylor's post has clearly struck a chord with parents, being shared nearly 150,000 times on Facebook, and attracting dozens of supportive comments.

"You're a wonderful mum," one woman wrote. "Not to mention a wise young woman. Ignore the ignorant haters. They are the ones with the problem."

Another wrote, "Oh, I've been there. Don't let her get you down. You are doing an amazing job – us mums need to stick together."

So next time you're in a supermarket and someone's child is acting up, remember you have a choice: you can be the woman shouting at the back of the queue, or you can be the woman who had the compassion to step up to help out. Which will you choose?