ESSENTIAL CONFIDENTIAL: My husband helped my daughter cheat on her maths test

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Photo: iStock 

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We were at the pub having dinner with friends the other night when my husband dropped an absolute clanger.

"I haven't even told you this yet," he said mid conversation about our kids.

"Told me what?" I asked

"The test that *Steph had this week. She saw the questions before the exam. One of her friends texted her photos of the test".

Wait, what? My husband continued.

"She was having real trouble with it, so I told her to check with her friends to see if they could help her. I just wasn't expecting THAT kind of help".

At this point my eyes were bugging out of my brain like one of those cartoon characters. She had the test. She saw the test. Our daughter was a cheater!

"What happened? What did you do? What did she do?" I stammered.


"I told her to get rid of it. To tell her friends to delete the photos and to never mention it again or we'd all be in strife," he said.

Okay. Breathe. Breathe. It's all just an innocent mistake. But was it?

I think we'd all be kidding ourselves to think that the photos were deleted without my daughter looking at them. My husband says he checked her phone to make sure they were gone, but I reckon she would've read through the test. That's an almost irresistible temptation to have that kind of knowledge and power in the palm of your hand.  I don't know if I could've resisted the pull as a teenager.

So now we have this circle of (mis)trust. Me, my husband, our daughter and the friend who sent the test. Conversations have been had. Hands have been wrung and hopefully lessons learnt.

As a footnote; Steph's test came back with a mediocre score. I don't know whether to be happy or sad about that!

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