Am I being 'that' parent?: father upset about teacher mispronouncing daughter's name

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At the end of the day, nobody wants to be that pushy school parent.

From the amount of homework your child gets to the choice of venue for the school dance, there are some things we know we just need to let go of.

But when it comes to your child's identity, how far is too far to push?

One Reddit user took to the social media platform to ask just that question when she noticed that his daughter's teacher had refused to say her name correctly for the entire year.

"My 7 year old daughter's doing virtual school in our living room recently. I heard her teacher address a girl named Kelly a few times," the poster said.

"My daughter's name is Keeley, pronounced Kee-Lee," he added for clarity.

The father added that he had asked his daughter about the mispronunciation, and she had told him that while she had corrected her teacher at the beginning of the year, she still hadn't been able to pronounce Keeley properly.

"So class starts and sure enough she gets called Kelly again almost immediately. I just walked over and said 'hi, this is Keeley's Dad. Her name's not Kelly. It's
Keeley. Hard E. Sorry for any confusion'," he said.

"A few hours later I had an email in my inbox 'inviting' my wife and I to a parent teacher conference with the vice principal."


At the meeting, Keeley's parents were confronted by the principal, as well as the teacher in question. The poster was told that the teacher "feels I challenged her authority by correcting her in class and that the names were 'similar enough' for it to "not have warranted such drastic action," according to the post.

"I can't tell if I'm being that annoying 'my kid matters most' parent that my grandmother the schoolteacher always complained about or if the teacher should just learn her damn name because that's a basic part of her job," he wrote at the end of the post.

Many of the commenters on the post agreed with the original poster, saying that it was most definitely the teacher's responsibility to learn a student's name.

"What a good, well-moraled person the teacher is to need to power-trip a child. Way to show your kid how to speak to people and resolve issues both now and as an adult, we need more parents like you," one Redditor said.

"Incorrect authority doesn't have authority. And honestly if teacher's authority is fragile enough that being gently corrected over something damages it, teacher has bigger problems," said another.