Conversations I never had with my mother

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Not one of us can deny that parenting has changed over the ages. From the expectations we place on ourselves as parents, to the dynamics of how a family works and even the conversations we have with our children.

Perhaps these conversations are one of the most striking, if not entertaining, aspects that have changed from the yesteryear days of parenting to today. Some of the conversations I have with my children are conversations I would never have had with my own mother. Here are 11 examples of recent conversations.

"Mum this dish could win a competition." My five-year-old's response after eating his home made linguine at a restaurant the other day. Thank you to Master Chef and My Kitchen Rules for a whole new culinary vocabulary.

"Mum when can I have Facebook?" The request is almost weekly, maybe my seven-year-old thinks that time will change my mind. At the moment my answer is "35-years-old", I figure it is a good age to start negotiating from.

"Mum when can I have my own YouTube channel?" Despite the answer always being a firm no, my son has worked out his YouTube name and narrates almost everything he does as if it is a video.

"Mum when can I have my own mobile phone?" I still don't know what the answer is to this question and until I do the conversation seems to be on repeat. I tried to explain that Mummy didn't get her own phone till she was 18, but for him the story of Santa is more believable.

"Mum can you play (insert video game console name here) with me?" I must admit this is a conversation I hand ball to Dad as he is much better at Skylanders than I ever will be.

"Mum can you take a photo and put it on Instagram so Aunty can see?" My kids not only understand that social media is one way we connect with others, it is something they want to be actively part of.

"Mum can you please download this app?" As if toy stores were not enough in the way of temptation for children. Now a phone or a tablet is a gateway to many interesting conversations and negotiations at our place.


"Mum we need to go to the internet to learn about it," said my friends little three-year-old daughter when they were outside looking at butterflies. Once upon a time learning about anything happened while sitting immersed in a book in the non-fiction section of the library.

"Mum can you Google this for me?" My boys think that Google is the answer to anything, especially if they are not happy with the answer I have given to one of their questions.

"Mum can you take a photo so we can email it to Santa?" Conversations about Santa seem constant at the moment, along with photo requests of toys or pictures of toys in catalogues. "So Santa knows exactly what it is on my list."

"Mum can we Facetime or Skype Grandma?" One conversation I am truly grateful for. Whether it is Grandma, Daddy while he is away for work or their cousin who lives interstate, connecting with the ones they love happens on a whole new dimension.

While some of the conversations may have changed, the connection between a parent and a child is resilient through time. That connection is universal and withstanding. The details of what we say and what we talk about with our children will always change, but their significance will not falter.

Josefa Pete is a freelance writer and mother to two boys. You can follow her on Facebook or on her blog ~ always Josefa.