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my baby hates the car AND the pram
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Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:19 PM
My 8 week old son HATES the car and the pram making it absolutely impossible for me to leave the house. We have tried certain music in the car but that doesnt seem to help and ive made his pram super comfy using lambs wool and a blanket (even id love to lay in it) but it turns into a scream fest whenever we go anywhere we try his dummy but that works for about a second then he spits it out the only way he stops is if he is being held which is impossible as he is a heavy baby PLZ HELP
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:22 PM
What about getting an Ergo carrier? Then you can just carry him everywhere.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:33 PM
I was also going to suggest a sling. My 12 week old is much the same and needs to be held all the time (completely different from my first child who was happy to be wherever she was placed). Plus, unless you plan on trying on clothes, I think slings are SO much more convenient. I personally have one similar to the Hug-a-Bub and it's great.
Hope your bub settles for you soon.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:41 PM
Yes for sling. I didn't purchase a pram for my little one till she was 14mths old and I was pregnant with #2. I used the close baby carrier, it's so easy and comfortable.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:48 PM
Definitely recommend a carrier of some kind. My boy hated both as well, but now is happy enough in the car and loves the pram. He will most likely grow out of it soon.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:50 PM
I agree with the sling/carrier.
Do you have a capsule or a rear facing convertible car seat? Two of my kids hated the capsule but were happy when I switched them into a convertible and I have heard of many others who have found the same thing.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:55 PM
All my kids have been the same. DS (now 4 months) has slept twice in the car last week YAY! I hate leaving the house.He even hates the carrier after 30mins, just an unsettled bub Makes live very difficult with 5 kids!
I'm hoping by 6 months mine will be more settled. No answers but you're not alone
Posted 03 August 2012 - 03:58 PM
Some babies need to be held more than others. My first slept gloriously is his pram but it fell apart so I bought my second a beautiful bugaboo with the bassinet - hated it. The ergo has been a lifesaver. He also has all his naps in it as he refuses to nap in his cot even though he sleeps like a trooper overnight (this seemed problematic but is now awesome because you can keep going about your business).
Finally at 3.5 months he's decided he likes the pram but only when awake - but he's now awake for 1.5-2 hours at a time so it's ok. If I go out for longer, I take both the pram and the ergo - he'll have a sleep in the ergo, wake up, and put back in the pram. He's also ok with car trips now, as long as its not near nap time (again, being awake for 2 hours at a time makes this easier).
It'll get better - promise! He will grow put of this phase. But for now, either you can fight your babies need to be held or just embrace it. Get a good quality along like the ergo (SO much better than a Bjorn, even though it's slightly more expensive).
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:28 PM
I feel your pain, it is just horrible to have a baby who hates the car (mine has always been okay in the pram).
We used to have our DD scream during car trips and I joined EB desperate to get some help when she was four months old.
This is the thread from then http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/forums/ind...=978364&hl=
It may help you with some tips. I found radio static was the thing that settled her best of all and I still use this when she is tired.
It has been anout 6 weeks since her last bad trip (touch wood!) and she now sleeps really well in the car.
I am sure he will get there but it is a tough place to be. Hope this helps.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:43 PM
My son was the same; HATED the car and the pram. I used a carrier everywhere (even in the house) for months. Once he was old enough I got a new pram where he could sit up and see the world and life got a lot easier. He just wanted to be held.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:47 PM
Oh and also I used the hug-a-bub wrap. Much more comfortable then the usual carriers. (well for me anyway!)
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:51 PM
I feel your pain!! Both of my kids hated the pram and car seat. They would scream as soon as I put them in and would not stop until they were out. Both my kids had reflux so that may have something to do with it. DS grew out of it at about 7 months. DD is now 7 months and showing no signs of improvement.
I manage by minimising/avoiding car trips where possible and using a baby carrier when going out/shopping etc. I am sooooo envious of all those mothers whose babies snooze away in the pram while they go or a walk or go shopping! It's probably just a phase OP, a frustrating one though!
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:53 PM
I feel for you DD2 was like that in the car and it was awful. The only thing that helped us was when she was old enough (6-7 months) giving her snacks in the car and you are a way off that.
I tried everything and nothing worked except trying not to travel long distances (easier to do here in Canberra)
If this is your only child buy an Ergo or sling and occassionally use Public transport.
FWIW DD2 is now 3 and suffers car sickness on trips longer than 30mins she also has ear problems/glue ear (which we are having fixed) so I think that affects her too
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:54 PM
Yup my DS1 was the same, DS2 while I wouldn't say he totally loves the pram (I still keep a sling as back-up), he is much more happy to go in it that DS1 who screamed the second he was put down. So be reassured it's probably nothing that you are doing wrong
A good sling or baby carrier is your friend head over to the buying for baby section to get some tips?
Also with DS1 I used public transport a lot as I could just keep him sleeping or happy in his sling on the bus or train.
Edited by ekbaby, 03 August 2012 - 08:55 PM.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 08:56 PM
I dont know how good of head control your baby has, when my dd was littler she hated the capsule til I took the headrest out
Posted 03 August 2012 - 09:08 PM
My DS also went through this stage. I found singing to him in the car helped a bit. I learned to drag out Old McDonald for a good 10-15 mins.
The thing that helped the most was putting him in a forward facing seat but you've got a long time to go before you do that.
Edited by Preg_in_RSA, 03 August 2012 - 09:09 PM.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 09:24 PM
With dd, she screamed in the pram and the car from about 3 months onward and never slept in the pram after that, she did have reflux at the time (treated) so I wonder if that was making it difficult, I had a pram that faced outwards so I wonder if she had problems not being able to see me.
Also she has suffered from motion sickness, that was quite a problem in the car.
Who knows, it may have been a combination of things including being a baby!
I couldn't carry her for long as I had major back problems so it was nightmare time, I ended up quite house bound and isolated.
I really think a sling would have helped but I didn't do it because of my back. I regret not holding her more.
Posted 03 August 2012 - 09:35 PM
Feel your pain from here! Mine is 8 months and still hates a pram for longer than 10 mins - he likes to be held. Till 4 months we used a hug a bub and now the ergo.
Re the car, he just hated it from birth but is getting a tad better. I think it's a combo of he knows I am there now, plus he is now in a super comfy convertible instead of capsule, and he is just more settled these days.
No answer re the car seat except have someone in the back where possible, if it's a longer trip aim for nap time so they can snooze..... Other than that I am afraid you just need to wait it out.
Posted 04 August 2012 - 03:13 PM
My DD hated the car and pram too! I found if I laid her down in the pram she'd scream so I properties ed a few blankets and a pillow behind her so she could kind of sit up and look around and she loved it. As soon as she had good head control I got rid of the bassinet and changed the capsule to car seat, no more problems.
Posted 04 August 2012 - 03:21 PM
DS1 hated the pram. We ended up borrowing a convertible pram from a friend and turns out he liked facing us, but hating facing away. So we ended up buying one.
I also used the ergo which he loved.
Posted 05 August 2012 - 09:34 PM
My DS hated the car but DD loves it (well so far at 12 weeks). The only difference is that we have used the wrap me up for her which allows for the seat belt, she is so snug and think her hands being secure is half the battle.
Posted 05 August 2012 - 09:40 PM
I think all of mine have been the same OP. My pram was only ever used to carry my bags.
I discovered the Moby wrap and my life became so much easier. You just have to ignore the screaming in the car and know that you can comfort the baby when you stop.
It does get better, but it's quite hellish.
Get out, but just ignore the screaming in the car. I never travelled far, for that reason alone, but I tried to ensure I got out plenty. It's far too depressing to stay home.
Oh and the old fashioned blue capsule was the worst. We got rid of it and got a reversible chair and that make a slight difference.
Seems many babies hate the capsule. Biggest waste of money that thing.
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