3 is easier thread has given me goosebumps
Any GOOD experiences of 2 to 3?
, Aug 08 2012 07:13 PM
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Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:13 PM
I am 17 weeks with my 3rd - the age gaps are really small: DS will be not quite 3.5 and DD will be not quite 2 when baby arrives. It was a bit closer than originally planned but there you go!
I am already FREAKING out and wondering how the hell I am going to cope. I had resolved just to be come really really organised but reading the other thread about how so many people were 'pushed over the edge' with number 3, has sent me into an absolute panic!
I don't want to spend the remainder of the pregnancy and the next several years regretting that we didn't stop at two.....PLEASE tell me that it worked out ok after the initial 18 months of expected craziness??
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:14 PM
Cant help you as I'm in the same boat
absolutely terrified. will be watching this thread!
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:20 PM
I have 3 and yes, there are days they do my head in, but all in all I wouldn't change it for anything. You find a way to cope. You will find you have days that are tough and days that have been fantastic, just as you do when you have 1, 2, 4 or more kids.
I was terrified when pregnant with my 3rd, but it's been far better than I thought it would. She has just fit right in with the family. It's like she has always been with us.
You will be fine
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:21 PM
I'm awaiting number 3 to OP, with very similar age gaps to yours. At the moment I'm exhausted and the idea of throwing another one into the mix is scary! I'm watching too...
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:24 PM
I love having 3. I didn't find the transition all that hard. I just noticed quite significantly how much busier our family life has become in general. But that's par for the course.
3 is great. We're up for number 4 so it can't be that bad.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:25 PM
I had the same gaps, DD1 was 3.5 and DS has just turned 2 a few days earlier when DD2 was born.
I was nervous but it's been easier than I expected. yep, you are super busy, but #3 really has fit right in to our family. DH and I often say thank goodness we had her, she really has completed our family.
The hardest thing for me has been the guilt. I am always worrying that I haven't paid one of them enough attention (but I think most mums get that).
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:26 PM
well, i have a 4 year old, a 3 year old and a 1 year old.
Life has been actually been fine. The first year i actually found the easiest, its when my baby (who is almost two ) has started wanting her own way. So begins the fights.
Its been great though, my older two have a built in playmate at all times and i find are very happy and content on playing little games together alot.
Next year my son wll be at school and my middle child at kinder so just the baby at home, i will miss all the fun we have had together.
There is moments of intensity like with an children but having an out (whatever that is for you) is my savour, we go for alot of walks and stop at parks. Its just a matter of tiring them out and giving them space when the day just wont end.
life is hard with 1 child and cant really get much harder
(apart from washing
we are thinking about no 4 so cant be that bad
Edited by ~(˘▽˘)~, 08 August 2012 - 07:28 PM.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:26 PM
That other thread was very alarmist, I thought. A lot of the posters who talked about being 'pushed to the edge' were actually quoting friends who had three, SIL with three etc. Those posters with three mostly said they enjoyed the bigger family in amongst the chaos.
I am SO unqualified to respond to your post as I only have one 10 month old but I just wanted to reassure you. I don't want you to spend the rest of your pregnancy worrying because of something you read 'on the internet'!
Mum and Dad have told me that 'One was a shock, two was chaos, three was absolute anarchy. We surrendered to it and loved every minute. We never wished we hadn't had three'. They thought that sentiment of 'regretting a child' was bizarre in that once you have a child, you just embrace the change and get on with it. Good luck OP!
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:31 PM
I had 3 boys in 3 years and 3 months. It is fabulous!!!!! There are hard times but I also had hard days when I had 1 and 2 so I was expecting that. My number 3 is only 18 months now and it definately hasn't been crazy this whole time. I think it's mainly just getting through the first 3 months then it gets so much easier. You'll be fine.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:31 PM
Just wanted to say I'm in a similar position OP, my twins will not yet be two when our last little one arrives in feb, and I'm feeling quite nervous as well! But despite whatever difficulties we face, I knew I wanted them close in age and I hope they will love having similar aged siblings to play with (fingers crossed haha).
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:37 PM
Embrace yourself ladies...I have pretty reasonable gaps between my kids 9, 6 and 23months. I think it was a real shock for me starting all over again or was it that this child is like no other!! I am run off my feet with him. I think I had him when I was really comfortable in my life and it was a real shock and he is like no other child of mine!! But I am so glad I had him and wouldn't want to imagine my life without him.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:40 PM
22m between DS1 and DS2
26m between DS2 and DD
I was one who said going from 1-2 was hard but 2-3 was easy because you already had the skills but life was definitely busier though.
TBH DD was WONDERFUL PERFECT #3 child until she hit about 20m and went into the 'terrible twos'. She is 2.6yrs atm and OMG I am ready to trade her in. She has just hit that 'rough patch'. I know it will settle down within the year.
Each child goes through their 'good' and 'bad' stages.
I Love having 3 kids though.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:42 PM
I had 3 under 20 months. I did have some sleep problems and couldn't get the house clean or tidy but we ate, had fun, had clean clothes and got out the house. The sleep problems were partly having 3 under 2 but mostly having a baby that didn't sleep well until almost 2.5y. Furthermore, I had no support, moved to a new area and hubby lost the plot and didn't help with sleeping.
You'll be fine!
Posted 08 August 2012 - 07:53 PM
Another with 3. Same age gaps as Claireabelle - hi, think you were due the same time as me. 19 months between first two and then 25 between 2 and three).
Anyway, yes there are days when I am driven around the bend but that is moreso because of one of my children's temperaments. DD2 is an absolute dream and I love having her in our family. Yes I am sleep deprived and tired but she is such a lovely thing.
I make sure I have time for me and actually make sure that I get away from everyone to keep me sane.
You will be fine and remember that you will have days, as no doubt you do now, when it all gets a bit much.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:03 PM
I found going from 2 to 3 so much easier than 1 to 2. I found because I had to be more organised I was. My husband was also working 70-80 hours a week for the first 6 months of my youngests life and then had to move away for work when she was one so 14 months ago now. I prepared dinner in the morning so only had to cook meat etc at dinner time. Made morning tea/lunch at breakfast time etc etc.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:05 PM
It does depend very much on your current children just how your experience will be.
Our number 3 was by far our easiest and in no way pushed me to the limits. When she was born I had 3 babies born in 2.5 years so it was 'full on' but in a very rewarding way.
The benefit of having 3 'babies' was that I still had them all having day time sleeps and managed to get the 2 eldest to sleep at the same time during the day.
The down sides? Perhaps having 3 in nappies?
Please do not read too much into other people's experiences as yours will invariably be different.
Relax and enoy.
ETA---Things got a little hairy with #'s 4 and 5 also born with a very small age gap but they were much 'higher needs' children
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:15 PM
What will be will be. Number 3 rocked our family, but I wouldn't say to breaking point. You can't change it now, so sit back, fasten your seat belt and enjoy the ride
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:16 PM
I have 3 and had the 3rd one as a single parent and I found it manageable, but I do have a larger age gap.
The first couple of months are a bit of a blur, I admit, but overall it has been just fine, apart from messing with my ability to hold down a job.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:22 PM
Its funny because before I got pregnant with DS3 all I read on here was how easy the transition was from 2-3. It hasn't been easy for us, but maybe because our age gaps are bigger.
DS2 has only just started sleeping through at almost 4 years, DS1 is very highly strung, and they don't play well together, so it's been an interesting time.
You do get through it though, and DS3 is the most beautiful way to complete our family.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:25 PM
It is what it is. Like any number of children you have your easy times and times when it's a bit of a struggle. The age gap between DS2 and DD has been the biggest struggle for me because I got so used to the boys being independent and not being so physically (breastfeeding) attached to them. I know I've got a much bigger gap than yours but it hasn't been that hard and the time has gone so quickly too that the hard times are over before you know it.
Don't let other peoples horror stories scare you
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:31 PM
I have a nearly 9 year old, nearly 4 year old and nearly 2 year old.
Op it's been a hard slog that last three years. But I slept from 10.30 to 7.30 last night! Uninterrupted!
Things really seem to be getting better. Funnily it's the 4 year old getting better behaved that's making things easier.
So once your older kids get more mature and can act more rational you will see a difference.
For me it's the amount of washing that makes me want to cry in despair.lol.
Also remember your experience will be very different to anyone else.
Who knows you might breeze through it all and wanting a fourth by this time next year.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:31 PM
My 2 were 14 mths and almost 3 when no.3 was born. It really wasn't that big a deal for me
and because I can't relate, I just don't get the fear.
I found having 3 close in age to be fabulous
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:37 PM
I have three and we got to three kids in 2 years and 2 months - talk about a life change! But our eldest two are fostered so when the newborn arrived the elder two were 4 and 2 years old.
I'm a highly anxious, neurotic person who doesn't handle sleep deprivation and I coped - even with my third child being my first newborn experience!
There were hard days (still are) and the first few months of No.3's life are a bit of a blur but it gets easier very quickly. The 4-year-old was great and a good helper and the 2-year-old needed a bit of guidance as to why Mummy couldn't respond instantly to his demands but I was okay.
Now at 2, 4, and 6 years old its can even be pretty cruisy at times - mainly because I time school/child care so I don't often have 3 kids all at once, lol.
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:41 PM
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for these replies, I am breathing properly for the first time all day
Posted 08 August 2012 - 08:45 PM
My three have similar age gaps to yours. The third baby is easier in that the older two play together more so that you can hopefully feed the baby without a child climbing on you. All three have been sick this week and it has been foul, even in the midst of vomit and snot I wouldn't change a thing. There is something special about the third child, don't spend the rest of your pregnancy stressing because as soon as you set eyes on your little one you won't be able to imagine your life without them in it.
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