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Advice needed on "Cake only" party
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Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:09 PM
DS 3yo has been invited to to a "party" in a few weeks. Its the first party he has been invited to where we don't really know the parents (I know them to say hi to at drop off). the only parties he has been to so far are of kids of my friends so we have known the expectations.
The party is a cake only thing, ie not actually a party, the invite said "we are having a cake for x"
Has anyone been to anything like this before? Do the parents stay? As he is only 3 and I dont know the family, I think I should stay, but I also have a baby and need to take her. I have seen things on EB about siblings not usually being invited, but as she is only a baby she wont eat any food and I cant exactly leave her at home.
Also re a present. I assume you still take a birthday present even though it isnt even a party? What would you spend on a present for just a cake?
Thanks, I am new to all of this,
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:14 PM
I have never heard of a cake only party, but I also wouldn't drop off a 3yr old. When you RSVP, mention you will have a baby and is that ok. I think it will be fine. 3yo is very different to primary school parties.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:15 PM
Yes I would stay and of course bring your DD. your son is only 3, you don't know the parents and it sounds like it is only going to a short duration anyway. I would still take a present and would probably spend $20.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:16 PM
I would expect parents to stay with 3 year olds (and 4 and 5 year olds too actually). I think taking the baby is completely fine and I would buy a small gift.
I am having a very low key party for DS2 in the park in a couple of weeks - I have a newborn so am letting people know it is a very low key thing.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:17 PM
I have never heard of a cake only party. But irrespective, I would stay with a three year old at any party and take the baby with me. It is probably courtesy to tell them you have a baby, but I don't think it is even compulsary.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:18 PM
I've had a "cake only" party for my DD when she was 2, just a few friends and a cake/coffee, and parents stayed, which I expected/invited. I didn't call it a "cake only" party, I just invited a few of my besties and their kids for birthday cake!
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:27 PM
I think this sounds like a pleasant, informal get-together. The invite, from what I can gather, doesn't say "cake only"; it says "we are having a cake for X". I would take that to mean a low-key, friendly couple of hours and that babies and toddlers were welcome. I'd take a present and enjoy the opportunity to meet new people.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:28 PM
I guess what they mean is, you are invited to come over, sing happy birthday, share some cake, and head off in about half an hour. There won't be party games or general running around play. Yes I would still take a small gift, and I wouldn't bother letting them know about your baby if you can wear her for half an hour in a sling. If she is old enough that she will insist on getting down and playing on the floor etc. then it is courtesy to let them know.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:40 PM
Sounds like a 'play date'with a birthday cake for afternoon tea. I would stay and also take the baby.
Edited by *Alisa, 21 August 2012 - 08:41 PM.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:42 PM
I agree, it actually sounds like a really nice low key idea. I might even copy it for DS's 4th birthday.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 08:47 PM
I take this as being a party but the kids are too young to really party games etc so it's cake and a play, rather than traditional kid's birthday party. I'd rsvp and ask if it's OK to bring bub along. I'd take a small gift and stay the entire time.
Posted 21 August 2012 - 09:54 PM
What a great idea! Is it a weekend or weekday? Morning or afternoon?
Actually, I wouldn't spend $20 on a gift. If they are only feeding you coffee/cake then $10-$12 would be ample IMO. Unless it is a very good friend.
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