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#1 becpretz

Posted 10 September 2012 - 11:48 AM

This is so embarrassing to even have to write but my 9 year old son will still do a poo in his pants if he is occupied playing or at sometimes at school. He starts it in his pants. Not the whole poo but enough to make a mess and to smell it. It is so disgusting and like I said embarrassing. I have NO idea what to do about this as it is a laziness thing.  Any ideas please.

Edited by becpretz, 10 September 2012 - 11:49 AM.

#2 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 10 September 2012 - 11:54 AM

That does not sound like a laziness thing. Laziness is more little kids (2y-4y) that can't be bothered stopping what they are doing to go to the toilet. I would take him to the doctors to see what's going on.

Edited by holy_j, 10 September 2012 - 11:55 AM.

#3 protart roflcoptor

Posted 10 September 2012 - 11:55 AM

Not laziness in a 9yo.

Off to the docs for him.

#4 CalEliKat

Posted 10 September 2012 - 11:56 AM

Agree, that it is not a laziness thing.  Please take your child to a doctor

#5 jill1972

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:04 PM

It sounds like he might be lacking with his control to stop it when the urge hits.  Yep, I'd take him to the doctor.


#6 winkywonkeydonkey

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:05 PM

Your poor son! Take him to the dr please he is not lazy .

#7 Milly Molly Mandy

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:06 PM

I agree, not laziness. No child that age would rather poo their pants than stop what they are doing to go to the toilet. Google encopresis. See a doctor.

#8 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:08 PM


2 kids with virtually identical issues and even uses the same language. Hmmm.

Edited by holy_j, 10 September 2012 - 12:09 PM.

#9 CalEliKat

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:10 PM

I truly hope you do not tell your son he is disgusting an embarrassing.  The wording in your OP suggests that is how you feel about the situation.

#10 becpretz

Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:25 PM

QUOTE (holy_j @ 10/09/2012, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

2 kids with virtually identical issues and even uses the same language. Hmmm.

Hmmm let me guess, you and your kids are perfect. was looking for help not to be critisim but thanks for making any already upset mother feel even worse bout herself. Hope you got your kicks for the day.

#11 Lifesgood

Posted 10 September 2012 - 02:04 PM

That's a bit rough holy-j!

Enuresis/encopresis has a strong hereditary link, so it would be more than likely to have a pattern of these issues in the family.

OP - your son sounds like he may have a bowel problem (encopresis) so you should see your GP and/or a specialist in this field. It is often caused by constipation/holding on for too long/dehydration. Same with your DD's wetting issue. It often runs in families and the two types of problems (wetting/soiling) are sometimes linked. You can get a referral to the enuresis/encopresis clinic in your area or you can contact the Continence Foundation of Australia and ask them to put you in touch with an appropriate specialist.

#12 Alucard

Posted 12 September 2012 - 09:45 PM

Just to let you know that it may be a harmless thing so u dont stress, still take him to the Dr tho, to rule out a medical condition original.gif

My 10yo DSS still does this every other day, its called a sneaky poo and he may not even realise its happened. We did all the dr stuff, all good and normal.

Give "sneaky poo" a google original.gif

#13 Mum2NE1

Posted 12 September 2012 - 10:32 PM

I am having the same issues with my daughter at the moment, she is 5yrs old & I too thought she was beng lazy as she would say no I don't need to go when clearly she did.
Having looked into Enuresis/encopresis & explained sneaky poo to her & we are making progress now.
Sneaky poo

Good luck it really is hard, on you & the kids.

#14 DM. 2012

Posted 26 September 2012 - 02:16 PM

My 9 year old step son still poos his pants a lot.  Mine will walk around smelling like poo until my husband or I say 'have you pooed?' and he will say no all the time. Eventually he will say yes, so this makes me think that he know when he has done it but he chooses not to do anything about it. Sometimes it is a little bit and other times it is a lot. We have taken him to plenty of doctors about this. He has had a barium enema to see if there is anything wrong with his bowel and that showed nothing. The most recent doctor said that because he doesn't go to the toile his bowel may be desensitised to the what it feels like to need to do a poo. He also just focuses on whatever he is doing, whether that is running around outside or just watching a DVD and not what is happening to his body. The doctor told us to give him Microlax (I think) and to make him sit on the toilet about 20min after meals. Unfortunately this hasn't worked.

My step son has ADHD so this is probably something that contributes to the problem

I don't think you should be criticized for thinking it is disgusting because it is pretty disgusting. I really understand how frustrated you are.

Edited by Dylan's Mummu, 26 September 2012 - 02:51 PM.

#15 Mummy Again2

Posted 31 January 2013 - 11:50 PM

Hi,My 9 year old also has this problem, it's called encopresis ( which is basically any 'accidental' pooing in older children).  It's most common in boys and to be honest once he gets to 9 and still has the problem, it's something you have to manage and accept rather than being able to cure.  Basically it starts a lot younger when for some reason they are reluctant to do a poo, they start holding it in and get constipated, they then end up with a blockage which enlarges their bowells and they will have 'leakage' a lot and they become desensitised. I am absolutely sure that your son does not know that he is doing it at the time, and the worst thing you can do is to tell him that he is disgusting, you need to accept together that there is a problem and work together on it.I'm pretty sure that my sons problems were caused by things that were done early on, he was quite late to toilet train and my husband often expressed his disgust at things, in a way that looking back I think was over the top, I think that from then on he considered poos to be disgusting and tried to hold them in, the more he did so the more he was told he was disgusting and it never got better, I did speak to some doctors who told me that he'd grow out of it, and silly me believed that they must be right, it wasn't until he was nearly 8 that I finally accepted that he had a problem and we started dealing with it properly.  I recommend first talking to the doctor and if they try to tell you it's not a problem find a different doctor.  You first need to flush out his system and then make sure that he is pooing regularly and eating well (fibre etc, possibly limit dairy but best to speak to dr before doing that, my son was a BIG milk drinker and we have found cutting back helped). Once that is done then you need to keep managing it, my son has to go sit on the toilet 15 min after every meal religiously, some months he's happy to do this as he knows it helps, other times he gets frustrated with it.  Often we now go for months without any problems but still we have accidents, and they usually come several together.  Sometimes he can now realise whenhe has had an accident, but other times he doesn't notice at all and needs to be told.Well, that's a long answer to your post, I hope it helps hearing our story, I think most of all, do not tell him he's disgusting, talk to a doctor and work with him to help improve the situation,Mb

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