On Monday a group of us from work were meant to go to lunch for a friend's birthday lunch.
However, now I don't feel I'm in a position to go as we literally need to save every last dollar.
I've let her know that due to finances I can't come and she has offered to pay. I'm not comfortable accepting this as do not like people paying for me and I'm not sure when we will be in a position to pay her back. I already owe her some money for some items she purchased on my behalf have already budgeted and arranged to pay her back for ths).
She has said that I'm not putting in any effort for her birthday and am being selfish. I did get her a present prior which I will of course give her on Monday. To be frank I'm not really in the greatest head space as am stressed out and worried so I could quite possibly be being a selfish t*at and not know it.
Meals at the place we are going are all $20 and above and even though it doesn't sound like much, it's a lot to us at the moment.
So do you think I'm being selfish? My friend believes I should have accepted her offer to pay and because I declined I'm therefore being selfish.
Edited by Sunnycat, 10 November 2012 - 01:49 PM.