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#26 kay11

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:54 PM

I'm in the same position at the moment. The hardest playgroups to break into are ones that started out as Mother's Groups. I was a part of one in my previous play group. We actually closed it to new members because we were too close-knit for outsiders. But I've now moved and I'm trying again in another playgroup - one that was previously a Mother's Group! So it's cliquey, they all know each other and meet up outside of playgroup and the kids are a bit unsettled. I'm giving it a little bit longer and also dragging my sister in law along but I find it difficult to get along with women much at the best of time.

#27 kiwimum2b

Posted 21 November 2012 - 06:59 PM

Just came back into say that I tried the other playgroup and it's great!! My son and I both enjoyed it..the mums were nice, there were kids around his age and we had a good morning original.gif
On a side, they asked if I'd tried the other playgroup and all said they'd had similar experiences there!! Seems like its not just me they ignore wink.gif does make me wonder why, if they're like that, they don't just close it off instead of having open days saying people are welcome (when really they're not!)
So, as you all said, not all playgroups are like that...thanks again for all your advice original.gif

#28 CCABW

Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:15 PM

QUOTE (kiwimum2b @ 21/11/2012, 07:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just came back into say that I tried the other playgroup and it's great!! My son and I both enjoyed it..the mums were nice, there were kids around his age and we had a good morning original.gif
On a side, they asked if I'd tried the other playgroup and all said they'd had similar experiences there!! Seems like its not just me they ignore wink.gif does make me wonder why, if they're like that, they don't just close it off instead of having open days saying people are welcome (when really they're not!)
So, as you all said, not all playgroups are like that...thanks again for all your advice original.gif



Wonderful news OP.  Enjoy!  I remember playgroup as some of the happiest times, and myself and my kids have made some real lasting friendships from them.

#29 Velvetta

Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:21 PM

I was in an established cliquey group and welcomed new ones. It was a nice change. I am pretty confident and usually assume that everyone has only been there two weeks - often it's true - I just chime in and love new ones.

#30 BRB

Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:42 PM

I would also try another play group. I was in a similar position as ou and never joined a mothers group. When DS turned 1 I felt like he needed to be arond other children and I tried to join a play group but the 2 I went to had been together since their babies were born so I couldn't break into the group and I dont think they were open to new comers. I gave up and 6 months later tried a different group and they are so welcoming and its been very easy to fit in.
Good luck original.gif

#31 kay11

Posted 28 November 2012 - 11:10 PM

Feel inspired to try a new playgroup.. Feeling very underwhelmed at the idea of going back to the cliquey one again.

#32 Wildence

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:40 PM

wow.

I am surprised to read some comments, cant believe it is so tough to get into the playgroup.




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