Just wondering why DS (19mo) isn't interested in having a lovey/comforter to comfort him when upset or trying to sleep, when other toddlers seem to? I'm at home with him full time, we breastfeed and co-sleep.
We only started co-sleeping at 6 months, when he stopped sleeping through the night. I tried giving him a lovey before then, but he wasn't interested and only started becoming interested in cuddling soft toys at 12 months, but only for a few seconds at a time.
Whenever he's upset or needs to go to sleep, he comes to me for a cuddle or a breastfeed.
Anyway, was just wondering if this was common in co-sleeping babies? I'm not worried, just curious!
I always thought a lovey was essentially a substitute attachment that children develop to comfort themselves when their mum isn't around...but if you are always available, then your DS probably hasn't had an impetus to establish an attachment to such an item. Not sure if this theory is right or not, but it seemed to describe our situation - DD only developed an attachment to her comfort item when I went back to work and stopped co-sleeping.
Haha you are the comforter! If you have that body heat beside you, why would you need one? Maybe look into getting a down comforter down the road as you can get combi ones which have different togs on different sides. That could ease your little one into sleeping with a duvet
Mine haven't, although DS developed an attachment to a bear after I weaned him at around 2 and a half. As others have said, comforter tend to be a stopgap for when Mum's not available so if you are available you'll be the preferred comforter!
DS1 had a dummy until about the age of 2 years old and needed some form of soft toy but it didn't matter what it was. he could take it or leave it though!
DS2 also had a dummy but he has a favourite toy that he must sleep with. He got it at about 12 months of age and it was a cheap ikea soft toy. He actually had 2 that i switched between. he still has it at 4 years old. he isn't allowed to take it out or to school but if i am sneaky and want him to fall asleep (on couch or in car) i give it to him and hey presto - sleep! funny thing that i thought it would have to be an old smelly one but last week i bought 2 new ones to give to his best buddies who are moving away and he decided the new ones were heaps softer than the old one and chucked the old one in the bin.