DS3 is 3 months old. He used to feed to sleep at about 7-8pm. It has been gradually taking longer and longer and now he often will wake when I put him down or wake after 10 minutes and need feeding again. Once he's asleep he generally sleeps 7-9 hours and then has a feed and back to sleep, so that's great. To cut down on how many times I have to resettle/feed him, I'm trying to teach him to go to sleep in the cot.
For day naps this has meant 15-30 minutes of crying with me there rocking and patting etc. I was ok with this although it was a bit annoying as he only ever sleeps for 40 minutes. But recently its gotten worse, to the point that he is now taking up to 40 mins to settle and then only with rigorous body rocking etc. Sometimes he doesn't settle at all, or settles but is awake again 20 mins later.
Nights have also been getting worse. This last week it has taken me 2 hours of settling every night. Sometimes 3. He seems desperate to suck but won't even fall asleep on the boob and won't take a dummy. I can rock/wobble him to sleep some times but not others.
Tonight I got him to sleep at 7.30pm after much crying/rocking etc and he woke again at 8.30pm and has been crying since then. I stayed with him for over an hour but nothing was working so I gave up and am having a sanity break because I am at breaking point. He is currently screaming hysterically.
I have two other kids and my husband is never home before 8.30pm . I have been reading all the no cry stuff and its all great, but seriously, how long am I meant to sit with him each night? And its not as if me being with him stops the crying. He still cries just as much, its just that I feel better because I have not "abandoned" him.
I know he has wind right now because I can hear and feel it but I can't get it out. I have tried the bicycling, putting him over my knee etc, nothing works.
I try to get him to bed within 2 hours of waking, watch for tired signs etc and try not to let him get overtired. I aim to have him in bed at night at about 6.30pm. What am I doing wrong?? He has now stopped screaming but he's still awake.
Edited by Kay1, 25 November 2012 - 09:05 PM.