Nov 12 Parents
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, Dec 02 2012 11:44 AM
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Posted 02 December 2012 - 11:44 AM
Hi, are the mums from Nov DIG coming into this area now? The old thread 14 is closed now.
Posted 02 December 2012 - 12:59 PM
Well I'll come over
Wow my little boy is three weeks old and has gone from settled and gorgeous with wonderful feeding and sleeping routines to sleeping for an hour or less at a time very infrequently and screaming the rest of the time. As a result I have gone from calm, patient and happy new mum to losing my sh** at a complete heart broken loss of what to do new mum
Praying this passes eventually so we can both start enjoying life and each other again. Hoping everyone else is having a much easier time xox
Posted 02 December 2012 - 01:43 PM
Omg, mine is only 8 days old and same. I cannot get enough milk up to him, he is feeding every hour or so rather than the 4 hour blocks we got into last week. And on top of that, I feel like I've lost my daughter. I'm a mean and highly strung mum to a beautiful little girl. She's now taking a back seat, I feel gutted as I'm not able to do ANYTHING but yell 'dont touch him' 'dont touch that' put that down'. Far out I'm so angry at myself.
What have we done...
Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:42 PM
Well I like our new home here in the parents lounge
TJ I'm glad that you are having a cruisey time even if your cuddles are the only winning ones lol! I can only remind myself that most babies cry some more than others and that it should peak at six weeks and then get better! I have found the period of purple crying website to be really helpful in coming to terms with the helplessness I feel at times.
Suz, be kind to yourself, it must be really tough, I know I have my moments with only one lol! You will find your groove and kids are remarkably forgiving and adaptable so do what you can and know that you are doing your absolute best ok!
My boy is sleeping and I know I should be too but I'm never sure if it's just going to be a catnap and to be honest I actually hate being woken up after just twenty minutes more than sleep deprivation. He is looking peaceful though so might go take my chmaces and hoe this is a long sleep!
Good luck all
Posted 03 December 2012 - 06:25 PM
Oh, I found you guys
Thought it was just my computer being funny in the old DIG thread...
Suz & Tanglez, I know how you feel. It's poor DH that is copping my moods at the moment though, and he's as sleep deprived as I am. And we probably don't even have the right to complain coz she's actually really good compared to a lot of newborns. But it seemed we'd gotten into this great routine, she was feeding and sleeping brilliantly then this week bam, she's fussy during the day and sleeps restlessly on and off, and is spitting her milk out while she's feeding (I'm bottle feeding EBM full time too TJ) - we're experimenting with different bottles and teats, I tried a little formula to see if it was my milk upsetting her but nothing seems to make a difference. But nothing else is wrong, no temp, gaining weight... They are spectacular little enigmas huh?? Today she's slept great but not wanting much milk, but at the same time she's laying awake in her rocker quite happily. I just can't work this kid out
TJ, it's kinda touch and go with the expressing isn't it? I had a bad day where I thought my milk was on its way out then suddenly it was ok again. I keep wondering how long I'll be able to keep it up. It's hard work but I want to go as long as I possibly can, it makes me feel better about not breastfeeding (man, the midwives at my hospital really messed with my head about all this, it's taking some time to get over). I have mixed feelings about going to full time formula, but ultimately if it has to happen, it has to happen. No point beating myself up over it, I've seen 2 lactation consultants and have been full time expressing for 4 weeks now - I think I've done all I can.
Hope some more mums join us, but yep, it's nice to be in this group now
Posted 03 December 2012 - 09:40 PM
hi guys - I'll join you all here when I'm in a bit of a better headspace
Posted 03 December 2012 - 10:00 PM
yay found you guys.. I put a message to mods about how it wouldnt let me post and they said it was working fine and must have just been me.
Isabella is doing ok. Pretty settled into a routine. No morning sleep ( or a very small half hour one if we get lucky) then asleep by 12, awake again 3:30, cluster feed till 8pm then asleep till 12, and usually a wake for feed at 3am and then up for good between 5 and 6am. After a slow start she is finally starting to gain some weight.
We are mixed feeding. Breast and EBM and formula top ups. Strangely some feeds she wont stop until she has about 20 mls of formula which she then throws up and promptly goes to sleep. However if you dont give her that 20 mls she would stay awake for hours.
Isa has her child health appointment tomorrow and then early intervention with the physio and OT next week. They are being really good about getting things sorted in case she has inherited the EDS from me.
My countdown is on only 4 more days of work!!! Then 7 glorius weeks of holidays.
Posted 04 December 2012 - 05:17 AM
Yay I'm glad more have come across! Lozzylots I was so pleased to hear things are on the up after the awful time you had! TJ that is incredible gains, wow, good on you for sticking it out! I also found the website confusing but took only from it hat his increased crying is normal and will pass, plus a cpl extra soothing tips! Charlottesmum I too get puzzled by my LO but I guess that is the joy, things are always changing! Sounds like a great routine you have anyhow!
Joseph seems to be back into a better night sleeping routine but things have been rough with dp. He made som choices about where he dedicated his time over the weekend which devastated me, it left me feeling so so hurt and like the least priority in his life. We have also had some issues with me feeling like I have been the only one to compromise on he big decisions, and although it is only a small thing I was adamant about not using a dummy and he went and used one whle I was sleeping. When I brought up how I felt h responded by saying that I got to give birh and hat is something he will never get. Wtf, so that means he gets to make all the decisions from now on? I'm really sorry for my vent, it has just been a tears and hurt filled weekend.
Wishing everyone well xox
Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:24 PM
Tanglez, my DH is the same. After his lack of support with DD I should have learnt my lesson, he's worse this time around as we've got more financial pressure to run the business, which means he's working 7 days a week and stuffed on getting home. People with loads of support make me sad about my own situation. I just take one night /day at s time
Charlottesmum, my little fella also in spates of routine. Had our check Monday and he's gone from 3.3kg on discharge to 3.82 one week later! No wonder my nipples hurt!!!! I'm also feeding to settle...to which I'll pay shortly.
Narelle, its so disheartening to take the time to express and lose it for any reason. I remember expressing and spilling the whole lot once and DH found me sitting on the kitchen floor crying. I really only get enough milk to express once a day. So its so hard to think its been wasted.
Emnut, hugs to you. Hope Henry has gone over the 1kg mark for you now.
Lozzy, one month is huge when each feed takes that much work!!
Asf, had our newborn photos today. Daniel was good but wouldn't nod off. I'm still trying to figure out how to manage DD. I doubt my patience and parenting skills daily. Cannot keep my cool. Going to start phrasing the good behaviour and see if that works.
Posted 06 December 2012 - 02:22 AM
Still gave a cranky baby but he at least went down for three sleeps today and things are much much better with dp so lots to be grateful for, fingers crossed sleep comes again soon
Wishing well to all, remember we are all doing our very best, kids included so give and take credit where it's due xox
Edited by tanglez, 06 December 2012 - 02:25 AM.
Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:48 PM
Tanglez (& anyone else having sleep issues) - hope you get some sleep soon. It is so hard on both mum & dad adjusting to the new addition - glad that things are better between you & DP now & hope the coming weekend is better than last.
Suz - I can so relate - finding it so hard to be calm with DS1 atm & he is constantly in trouble for not much really.
T.J. - great weight gain - more than our Henry has gained in his whole life so far.
Lozzy - you've done well to keep going as long as you had. I found the decision to stop with both boys gutwrenching - there is so much pressure that comes for not switching. In the end though I know at least with DS1 it was the right choice (still on the fence about Henry).
AFM - Henry seems to have finally turned the corner. He has actually gained small amounts of weight every day for the past 10 days & his vent settings are getting right down now. Hoping that within a week or so he will be having a go on CPAP to see how he goes. Still not up to 1kg but TMI coming up) seeing him with something more substantial than a hole for a butt gives me some hope that he will get there. I'm still in my completely not coping mode & over the past 3 weeks have only been to see him 3 times. Have had many many really rough nights where DH has been worried so having to work hard to get over it - hard when most days getting out of bed is all too hard let alone anything else.
Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:11 PM
Finally found time to pop back in here and type.. So much i can read but cant type. Isa finally managed to get back to her birthweight at exactly 3 weeks old. In the roller coaster of unsettledness, multiple gassy runny poo's ( sorry for the TMI) and poor weight gain we have discovered that she is probably lactose intolerant. Now we know that we have a mostly settled baby and no more days with 20 dirty nappies.
had my proud mummy moment today. My oldest son got awarded a position on his schools student council for grade 7 next year.
he also got to play Joseph in his special ed christmas play. Baby Isabella got to play Jesus but she fell asleep before i could change her so she was a very feminate jesus in a pink tutu dress.
I finally got to finish work today!!! As of 4pm this afternoon i am on 7 weeks maternity leave!! Not that i am having any more kids but i have told everyone if i am ever stupid enough to consider trying to work through having a newborn again to remind me of this time and how exhausted i have been juggling it all.
Tomorrow is the start of the christmas lights craziness. Just got my entry in the competition in on time yesterday. Now i just have to find the time to get the last minute things sorted out tomorrow to have time to be out there meeting everyone and handing out the candy canes to everyone who visits. Time to enjoy my favourite time of the year.
Emnut that is such good news, glad to hear things are getting slightly better ( no matter how slightly things are moving forward)
Posted 08 December 2012 - 02:04 PM
Emnut I am so pleased Henry has finally turned a corner, hopefully that is the news you need to help you find a corner to turn around. It must be agonising and I'm not surprised it is an effort just to get out of bed, at least in bed you can be blissfully unaware. Thinking of you and sending much love and light. I hope you have extra support just for you.
Charlottesmum you crazy woman working like that, I tip my hat to you, what a trooper
happy maternity leave! Wow, lactose intolerant, thank goodness you know, that much make life so so so much easier. I wondered if Joseph was but he has been gaining like crazy so more likely it was a lactose overload, have been treating it as such and there is improvement.
Thank your for all the supportive comments, I guess having a baby is up there with the most stressful life events so of course it is going to have an effect on relationships.
Suz I hope you are having more luck with dd, it is such a big adjustment for everyone, hope things get better soon
TJ I hope things are going well for you and issues are resolved, as for not breast feeding I think you are remarkable with how you are feeding, don't let anyone judge you for doing what is right for you and your bubs. I think you rock
Lozzylots you rock too! I have just started expressing to keep my supply up and stock pile for a rainy day and it is not easy so can't imagine what it's like to do it full time. You can truly hold your head up high and be proud of what you are doing! I hope bubs is more settled for you too, they do like to baffle us lol
Afm things are up and down, Joseph still hard to settle but we are getting there, been reading.baby on board by dr Howard Chilton, I don't know if he is good but I decided to pick a method and just follow through until one of us breaks ha ha ha, so far I have had some success with getting him to sleep earlier in the day and not taking as long to go down. Nights are ok, but he is waking more frequently than before. Trying to keep stimulation to a minimum still especially in the lead up to crazy Christmas period when it will be harder to do. On a positive note, I have been given the all clear to drive so feeling less trapped!
For those I've missed, best wishes, sorry for the essay and may the baby angels smile down on you all
Edited by tanglez, 08 December 2012 - 02:22 PM.
Posted 11 December 2012 - 06:05 PM
Tanglez - hopefully you will find something that works for both you & Joseph. Yay to being able to drive instead of stuck home.
Charlottesmum - congrats to your son. I don't know how you've done it working through this period - enjoy your 7 weeks off.
Hi Suz, T.J. & Lozzylots - hope things are going well & you are getting some sleep.
AFM - Henry is still taking his baby steps forward with no major setbacks atm. Still can't tolerate feeds but at least is coping ok otherwise & hasn't needed a transfusion or antibiotics for a couple of weeks now (that has to be a good thing right). I've been really slack going to see him - just finding it all too hard. I'm frustrated with work too as I wanted to go back a couple of shifts a week to see if that helps but work have said a big fat no while my head is where it is- with good reason due to the nature of the work I do but it's really screwing with my mind.
Posted 12 December 2012 - 09:14 PM
sharing some very exciting news - Henry has been on CPAP now for 10 hours & is apparently doing very well. Finally it really feels like he is going to be ok even with some issues.
Posted 13 December 2012 - 09:30 PM
Finally found you all.
Well baby boy Asher decided to make an appearance 5days late. I'm sure it was talk of being induced at 7 days overdue that made him hurry along.
He is a big boy weighing 10pd 1oz at birth. It's been just over a week and its only now just comfortable to sit down. We are finding our feet being a family of five but don't know how we will go next week when dh goes back to work.
Will have to come back later for personals, must go and get some sleep.
Emnut- so happy to read your latest update on Henry.
Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:33 PM
Posted 16 December 2012 - 03:43 PM
Hi all, sorry I haven't been around for a while, have had no internet for a bit (eek!). My dear Nanna also passed away unexpectedly last weekend so has been a very rough week for us. Myself, my mum and her have always been very close so it's going to be very hard adjusting to her not being here anymore
I'm just glad she got to meet her latest great grand daughter before she died.
Had DD in hospital the week before last after a few days of reflux issues, but she's doing wonderfully again now without needing medication or anything. And in even better news, we've had our first real smiles for the last week or so and they are just gorgeous!! Now DH and I do all we can to make her smile - it's amazing how alert and responsive she is, I'm so excited to see her little personality developing already
Pleased to read the good news on here, congrats Malibu Zoo on your healthy baby boy! And emnut, that's the news we've all been hanging out for, I'm so happy for you.
TJ, sorry to hear you've been having a hard time, especially with DH's Dad, that's so young to be having such serious health issues. Really hope he comes through ok & doesn't need the transplant. And charlottesmum, that's sad to here about DD's condition. I hope at least it's something that's better caught early.
That's all for now, just wanted to say a quick hello and catch up. Hi to everyone else if I've missed you this time. Hope Mums and bubs are all doing well!
Posted 24 December 2012 - 03:40 PM
Hi all, just mainly popping in to wish everyone a merry christmas and hope you all enjoy the day.
Lozzylots - sorry to hear that DD spent some time in hospital - hope she is still doing well. Also really sorry to hear about the loss of your Nanna.
Charlottesmum - sorry to hear that Isabella looks like having the genetic condition you have (I remember early on that you were concerned about it). Yay to the chiro making her happier
T.J. - how is things going with your FIL? I remember how scared I was many years ago when my mum had a major heart attack (it was a scary week or so until we knew she would be ok). Hope that Lachie & Henry are both feeling better now too.
Maliboo Zoo - congratulations on the arrival of Asher.
Henry is very up & down. Switching between the vent & CPAP regularly but his drs have said they are happy with this at this stage since they really didn't think he would ever be off the vent. He was weighed this morning & came so close to reaching 1kg for christmas - he is now 970g. He now has short cuddles every day & DH had his first cuddle last week. Still struggling to go see him & living in the depths of despair & feeling very fortunate to have the colleagues I have at the moment who are a huge help. Trying hard to make tomorrow as special a day as we can for DS1.
Posted 10 January 2013 - 03:53 PM
How are all the November mums and bubs going??
Posted 17 January 2013 - 04:02 AM
Hi I'm from the Dec DIG and wondering if there was any mums from Central Qld??? If so could you PM me
Posted 18 January 2013 - 09:08 AM
Only just found this thread
Emily is 9 weeks old today and thriving well
She has found her fist and is constantly sucking on it and drooling and she loves to smile and is a daddys girl
After her set back at 8 days old in which she lost over 400g due to a urine infection she gained it all back plus more by 6weeks and 5 days and weighed in at 4.51kgs(was born 3.4 and dropped to just under 3kgs).. Not sure how much she weighs at the moment though..
Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:24 PM
Just found this thread also,was wondering where everyone disappeared to. Our fourth daughter and six child was born on 1 Dec (due 28th Nov) her name is Sophia. She was 8p 12oz and 53 cm long. I was induced a day after my due date due to GD however my induction was 44 hrs long
with a 45 minute labour
. She is absolutely gorgeous and a very welcome addition to our family (her bro's and sisters think she's the best thing since ice-cream!) She is now 7 weeks old and thriving. She has breast fed fantasticaly since birth and sleeps really well. She is just so cruisy and easy to keep happy. Or maybe I am just an old hand now and have finally got it right
. Congrats to all the other ladies who have had their babies, I hope they all continue to grow and thrive without and issues.
Posted 24 January 2013 - 10:28 AM
Charlottesmum - how is Isabella doing? I know you've had some major issues with her & hope that you are coping ok.
Lozzylots - how is DD doing with her reflux?
mellmatho - sounds like Emily is doing really well
Abeautifullife - congrats on Sophia's arrival. Sounds like things are going really well for you
T.J. - what a sucky start to the new year, especially when you have gone to that much effort to help someone. Sounds like things are going well. Unlike you I'm looking forward to the end of the holidays - not so much because I haven't liked having DS1 around but because logistically it is so hard.
As for our Henry, he is not quite cruising along and still hasn't made it over to SCN rather than the NICU area but he is at least in the less intense part of NICU. At almost 6 months old he is still a lightweight - was 1430g when weighed yesterday & had his first bath (which he hated) last week. He finally doesn't crash every time he has kangaroo care though. Still on CPAP after cycling a bit between CPAP & the vent & still can't tolerate any feeds so stuck on TPN. But overall, considering where we thought we were going to end up with him, pleased with his slow but somewhat steady progress. I have not been close to coping and after what was a pretty scary night emotionally for me last night, along with my care providers and a long talk with Lifeline have decided that I probably need a hospitalisation for a week or two while in this hole I'm in so things are in progress with organising that today. Not what I wanted but I can't go through another night like that so will do what I have to stop it happening.
Posted 30 January 2013 - 09:59 AM
TJ, that's awful!! I'm so sorry that happened, what a terrible experience for you all. I think everyone has some 'family' that they are just better off without. Well done on losing all that baby weight, those last few kilos are a killer hey? I'm coming to accept that my body is going to be a different shape now, and some of those old clothes are going to have to go to the op shop even if technically I can get to the same weight as before. Pregnancy does crazy things to your body!
Emnut, you are so much stronger than I think you realise. Well done for doing what is best for you and ultimately your family, even though it isn't what you wanted to happen. Your kids need mummy to be happy and healthy, and while you have to take each day as it comes (and from a stranger these probably sound like empty words) - you will be again. All the best. TJ is not alone in thinking of you often and wondering how you and Henry are getting on. I'm really pleased he's made a little progress, and can't believe he's 6 months!
ABeautifulLife, congrats on the birth of Sophia, beautiful name. Glad she's thriving
Charlottesmum, how is Isabella doing? Did you get her in to the geneticist?
Mellmatho, pleased to hear that Emily is cruising along and progressing. Don't you just love all the dribble??
Leila has had a real battle with the reflux, and we've really struggled to get her treated. She seemed to be doing better, still irritable but not in so much pain. Then about 2 weeks ago she pretty much stopped feeding, she could barely have 20 mls without crying and screaming and thrashing. Our GP sent us back to the hospital - it took 6 hours of pleading and arguing with the doctors there to give her something for it, because the first doctor didn't want to prescribe her anything based on the fact her weight gain had been ok, even though she admitted DD was clearly in pain and her screaming wasn't right. Never mind the fact she had stopped eating so would start to lose weight very soon, never mind the fact she had been screaming in pain for weeks. In the end we asked for another doctor, and I just said to him if there's something I can give my little girl to ease the discomfort she is obviously in, what was the harm in trying? They eventually prescribed her Losec, and she has been a different baby ever since. She smiles more, she settles easier, she has been sleeping up to 7-8 hours at night (she was waking every 2-3 before). I can actually put her down without her immediately crying. It's such a relief to get to know my happy little bub.
That said, she's been irritable the last week or so, and I noticed she's got two little white ridges on her bottom gum!! 11 weeks and her teeth already worrying her - poor kid can't get a break!
Caught up with a friend on the weekend, her 8 month old still barely sleeps more than an hour at a time, her DH and her split the night into shifts so that each of them can get a few hours sleep. Poor girl is absolutely shattered, they're booked into Torrens House (sleep/feeding program in Adelaide) but are unlikely to get in before he turns a year when he'll be too old. Made me realise as hard as it's been with DD, there's always someone doing it tougher.
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