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New baby - which sibling gets to hold first?


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#1 ~~~

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:08 AM

Morning original.gif
We are due with no 3 and DP and I were having this discussion the other day. With DD, she was the first one allowed to hold her little brother when she came to the hospital, but now, we weren't sure if there was a natural family hierarchy or not.... does DD (8) get to hold bub first or does DS (4) get to?

There is already a whiff of competition in the air with SILs new bubba (apparently she loves each cousin "more" laughing2.gif ), so I'm just putting it out there to see what others did. We were very aware of making it special for DD to include her last time around, and I kind of felt it would be good to let DS have that too this time around.... probably overthinking the whole thing laughing2.gif

Thanks!

#2 Persnickety_

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:14 AM

Definitely over thinking.  Who ever asks first at the time.

#3 rolandsmum

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:16 AM

havent even thought about that lol they are both going to be in the labour ward with me, so whoever asks first i guess original.gif

#4 GoneWithTheWhinge

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:20 AM

over thinking. What happens happens and it will all be good. As for competition babies love every brother and sister the same.

I can't remember which one of the terrible twosome held the little witch first!

#5 Feral_Pooks

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:38 AM

Easy. DD can be the first sister to hold baby, DS can be the first brother!

#6 R2B2

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:40 AM

Whoever asks first I guess! our kids both reacted very differently to seeing their new baby sister for the first time, so we went with what was happening at the time.

#7 miinii

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:41 AM

You are waaaaay over thinking it. Whoever asks first IMO.

#8 ReadySetRace

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:41 AM

My DD2 did, with Nana's help. Not planned, she was standing next to Nana when Nana had her first cuddle. They'd both had lots of time to greet first as DD3 was asleep in her hospital bassinet when they arrived.

Both my girls gave presents and were given presents - that helped them bond too....and defered any competition about holding (there was none here). And lots of time for the first visit helped.

#9 DenimAngel

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:49 AM

Lol.  We never even thought about it.  I guess it was who was there at the time.  I couldn't even tell you which sibling was first to hold bub.  Depending on circumstances, school, babysitting that day, certain sibs may have seen bub before the other.  There was no competition.

#10 ~~~

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:49 AM

QUOTE (Pooks_ @ 13/12/2012, 07:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Easy. DD can be the first sister to hold baby, DS can be the first brother!


Love this!!! Thanks original.gif

For those that are saying the child who asks first.... laughing2.gif they will probably both ask at the same time wink.gif if they don't then we don't have to worry about it and will just go with the flow biggrin.gif

#11 lozoodle

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:51 AM

To be honest, the thought hasn't even crossed my mind. I'll just see what happens.


#12 Epitome

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:52 AM

I wasn't concentrating when I read this heading.... I thought it read
"New baby, which sibling gets sold first"

So... this isn't what I expected

#13 ~~~

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:55 AM

QUOTE (melbelle @ 13/12/2012, 07:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wasn't concentrating when I read this heading.... I thought it read
"New baby, which sibling gets sold first"

So... this isn't what I expected


roll2.gif Well, I have some days where I would consider this...... wink.gif

#14 kpingitquiet

Posted 13 December 2012 - 07:07 AM

Easy, both! The 8yo can help the 4yo hold the baby. have them sit next to each other and bolster the 4yo with pillows on one side and the 8yo on the other. Would make a great family photo too original.gif Pose it as "Ohhh let me get a photo of all my babies together for the first time."

#15 ~ky~

Posted 13 December 2012 - 02:18 PM

Whomever is sitting sensibly and showing a willingness to comply with instructions at the time.

#16 ~carmen~

Posted 13 December 2012 - 02:46 PM

I sat in the middle with DD2 & had DD1 on 1 side & DS on the other side & they forgot that they had even wanted to hold her first, as agree with op everything is a competition at these ages, & were both just happy & infacuated to stare at her & kiss & pat her for awhile then DS 4yo lost interest & DD1 6 yo got first real cuddle but it didn't matter by then! Was a lovely family moment x

Edited by ~carmen~, 13 December 2012 - 02:47 PM.


#17 Copacetic

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:20 PM

QUOTE
probably overthinking the whole thing



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#18 sophiasmum

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:33 PM

Have never thought about it, but I guess oldest gets first dibs.

#19 Julie3Girls

Posted 13 December 2012 - 05:01 PM

Hmm, when the girls came in, DD3 was asleep in the bassinette, and the girls were happy to have cuddles with me and weren't stressed about holding her.

Visit later that night both of them were sitting on the bed, with the DH supporting the baby. They were close enough that both were touching the baby, and we swapped them pretty quickly. It was kind of a pass the parcel with the baby for a little bit LOL

Don't overthink it, just let them be, and see what happens on the day. Worst case if both are demanding first cuddles, just give them a quick cuddle each. You might find your DS is happy just to cuddle in with someone else holding the baby.






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