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#1 Expelliarmus

Posted 15 December 2012 - 06:47 PM

You are the bride. You've planned the day down to the nth degree .... And your bridesmaid gives birth 8 hours before the wedding. What is going through your mind?!?!?

You are the bridesmaid. Do you do your hair and make up, pop on the dress and go to the wedding ceremony, cry because you miss the special day, or can't/don' give a toss about the wedding anymore?



#2 Bendigedig

Posted 15 December 2012 - 06:50 PM

If bride, I would be super excited for my friend and work out when I could visit before the honeymoon.

If I was bridesmaid, wouldn't give a toss about wedding until the next day.

#3 GoBack2Bed

Posted 15 December 2012 - 06:52 PM

As the bride - assuming the baby was expected around this time I would think yay how exciting and already have a fallback option as I planned to the nth degree so I of course had a contingency. If the baby was VERY early then I would personally be thankful that bridesmaid and baby are doing ok and get on with the wedding.

As the bridesmaid - I had a baby 8 hours ago and I don't feel up to hair, makeup and hours of standing around and getting my photo taken when all I want to do is hold my beautiful baby.




#4 nowhere

Posted 15 December 2012 - 06:55 PM

Well assuming the baby was not born very early  then both the bride and brides maide have had ample time to think that this may occur  and if the wedding is planned to the nth degree then that would of been considered.

If i was the bride i would be ok with what ever the lady that has just given birth with decided as i think having a pregnant bridesmaid then there is always a chance it wont go to plan,  If the baby is serverly prem i would be really concerned about my friend and the baby

If i was the bridesmaid, well if  she is well enough and up to getting her face on and beng a bridesmaid then good luck to her if that is the case then if i wsa the bride i would be absolutely amazed at her generosity to put my wedding above her first day led in bed cuddling with her bub

IF the baby is prem and still in hospital then it would hope that the mother would stay with her and the bride be suportive of this

#5 Missy Shelby

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:01 PM

Bride - Be excited for my friend and possibly have a back up who could fill in for her if need be.

Bridemaid - TBH a wedding would be the last thing on my mind if I had just given birth to my child.

#6 Guest_LeChatNinjah_*

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:18 PM

ROFL, I could barely walk 8 hours after all my births, so no way would I be attending wedding, but would try and skype or something during the ceremony.

Everyone involved would surely have known this was a possible outcome, and birth trumps wedding, lol!



#7 Fr0g

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:25 PM

As the bride, I'd be happy for my bridesmaid - you'd surely have a contingency plan with a pregnant bridesmaid!?

As for the wedding 8 hours after birth..... What wedding...? ssleep.gif

#8 libbylu

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:27 PM

If I were the bride I would have planned for the possibility.

If I was the bridesmaid.....let me think.....after 3 days of labour, an emergency c-section, no food allowed until the following day making it four days without keeping any food in and after major abdominal surgery.....? Well, 8 hours post surgery I would still be a delerious mess and would probably just give a quick call to say good luck.

#9 Aribika

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:31 PM

My niece was born 12 days before my wedding where my sister was one of my MOH.  She was 5 and a half weeks early and required special care.  My sister was still in hospital with her on the wedding day.

I certainly didn't plan my wedding to the nth degree and it was a very casual affair.  I was happy that my sister came and joined in for some time before she went back to the hospital to be with her daughter.  If she had have chosen not to do that I would have been disappointed that she wasn't there for the special day but would have understood that she didn't want to leave DN.

Lorraine

#10 Isolabella

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:34 PM

I didn't even make it to a wedding 5 days after DD was born (I was still in Hospital). She arrived early at 36wks.

Bride - I would be wishing my bridesmaid all the very best.

Bridesmaid - I would be sleeping. Well I had c/s anyway so 8hrs later was only begging to be allowed out of bed.



#11 adl

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:37 PM

Randomz...you love fascinators don't you?????

As Pp posted...be happy for each other.  But understanding...go to plan B

Randomz...you love fascinators don't you?????

As Pp posted...be happy for each other.  But understanding...go to plan B

#12 ~Sasquatch~

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:41 PM

As the bride I would be so happy for my bridesmaid and not angry at all. I mean it's not like she got trashed the night before and just didn't show, she had a baby lol the bride clearly knew she was pregnant and due somewhere in the vicinity of the wedding. if it was that much of an issue she should have told her bridesmaid she loved her, but maybe it was better to not have her on the bridal party due to the impending birth.

As the bridesmaid - I would be thinking of the bride and sending lots of love and well wishes but no way I would be attending 8 hours after I gave birth! lol and any bride that expected me to would garner the title of bridezilla wink.gif

Edited by ~Sasquatch~, 15 December 2012 - 07:43 PM.


#13 seayork2002

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:42 PM

To either of them...was it that much of a surprise?

#14 GoBack2Bed

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:43 PM

OK so now I'm curious to hear the ACTUAL reaction from said bride and bridesmaid and the fallout lol

#15 Expelliarmus

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:53 PM

There was no fall out, LOL

Bridesmaid had #2 8 hours before the scheduled start of the wedding after an 'easy' 8 hours or so of labour, no stitches and frocked up, fronted up and witnessed the wedding and smiled for the photos before going back to the hospital where baby was being worn in a sling by the nurses for an hour. Bride is rumored to have had kittens Tounge1.gif

Edited by howdo, 15 December 2012 - 07:54 PM.


#16 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 15 December 2012 - 07:59 PM

As the bride
Super happy for my bridesmaid. If she wanted visitors I may be a little late to the wedding after a quick stop in at the hospital.

As the bridesmaid
Tired, but would still go if I was able - me and dd ok. Any excuse to get out of hospital personally lol

#17 GoBack2Bed

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:00 PM

Wow! That's an impressive effort by the bridesmaid. I had great labours but there is no way in hell I could have managed that.

#18 Goggie

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:02 PM

QUOTE (howdo @ 15/12/2012, 08:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There was no fall out, LOL

Bridesmaid had #2 8 hours before the scheduled start of the wedding after an 'easy' 8 hours or so of labour, no stitches and frocked up, fronted up and witnessed the wedding and smiled for the photos before going back to the hospital where baby was being worn in a sling by the nurses for an hour. Bride is rumored to have had kittens Tounge1.gif


That bridesmaid is a friggin saint. I would not be going anywhere for anyone 8 hours after giving birth!

#19 snortle

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:02 PM

Wow that's one dedicated bridesmaid!
My face looked like a blown up beach ball after giving birth. No amount of makeup or nice clothes would have convinced me to go out to a wedding lol

#20 Feral_Pooks

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:16 PM

As the bride, I'd be thrilled, mention it in my toast and ask everyone to drink to their good health. If welcome to, I'd come visit in my wedding kit for 5 minutes with a big chunk of cake for mumma.

As the bridesmaid, I'd be too busy thinking about the human skull that just forced its way through my vagina to worry about a wedding.

#21 Yomumma

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:42 PM

QUOTE (Pooks_ @ 15/12/2012, 09:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As the bridesmaid, I'd be too busy thinking about the human skull that just forced its way through my vagina to worry about a wedding.


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#22 casime

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:44 PM

As a bride - make the limo driver take a detour via the hospital and walk through the hallways in my finery to greet the new baby and hand deliver their very first fascinator.  Make sure that there were plenty of happy snaps of me in my wedding dress with mum and bubs.

As a bridesmaid - Eight hours after giving birth I would send my best wishes to the bride and groom and resume gazing in wonder at my new child.  That said, I left hospital 24 hours after giving birth and had it been the day after, I probably would have done my best to put in an appearance, at least for the ceremony if I was feeling up to it.

#23 Velvetta

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:52 PM

There was no planning to the nth degree if  the wedding took place around about the bridemaid's date of delivery, early or late.

#24 CherrySunday

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:55 PM

If I was the bride, I'd be thrilled for someone who I would presumably be quite close to, considering they were going to be my bridesmaid.

If I was the bridesmaid and the birth was like DSs birth, I'd do my best to get dressed up & make it there, just for the ceremony & photos. DH would wear said baby in the sling, and I'd smile & celebrate with my friend (Bride). I was on such a high for 24 hours after having my babies, I'd have loved it!

#25 Expelliarmus

Posted 15 December 2012 - 08:56 PM

Oh trust me. There was planning to the nth degree, god bless her lil heart biggrin.gif

I think there was just naivety about the actual length of pregnancies - 38 weeks is full term wink.gif

It was a lovely wedding. No fascinators in sight - although I was tempted!!




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