Abandoning a child who's out of control is contrary to helping them regain control. ....... Time out for being out of control is counterproductive.
This isn't always right. Some kids need to be left alone in order to calm down. My 3yo daughter gets to the point where any contact with the person she's grumpy with, including having them in her line of sight just makes her arc up further. Time alone is what she desperately needs and craves and when I initiate it it's not a punishment or consequence but a step towards helping her work towards control. I always leave her with "I've got a cuddle for you when you're ready for it" and she knows that she can call me or come to me as soon as she's ready. And after the cuddle we talk about the tantrum and how the situation might have been averted.
My son, OTOH, would have been very distressed by being left alone while out of control. Different strategies for different kids.
Edited by Eight.years, 22 December 2012 - 08:41 PM.