She has taken lollies and chocolates from the pantry when she knows she shouldn't, she has taken her younger bothers money. She has taken lipstick and lollies from my bag, she has taken my makeup and lipsticks without asking. She has snuck money in her pocket and bought stuff from the school canteen and she also took a schoolmates biscuits! She also took lollies from the teachers lolly jar and got caught.
Today I was helping her clean up her room and in her new handbag (which she got for christmas) I find $70 which she took from DHs wallet this morning!!!!!!! I can't believe it!!!!!
We have been down this path a lot lately and had discussions about trust, ie her actions make it hard for us to trust you, it's very wrong to take things that don't belong to you, when you do this it hurts the person you have taken from and also shows you dont have respect for their belongings and feelings.
When she has taken the lollies etc we have said she is not able to have treats for x number of days as a consequence. She was made to replace the teachers lollies and her school mates biscuits with a purchase from her own money.
I know she gets it, she is a very clever girl.
I asked her why she took the money and she said she wanted money for her new bag and said if she Asked us we would say no!!!! I said that is not always the case there are times when we may be able to and times when we can't and as her parents we are allowed to make those judgments. She needs to understand and respect our no! This is the same for a lolly etc, sometimes we say yes other times no ad she needs to respect our decisions.
It's getting to the point where we cant trust her at all. For example we cannot both be outside working in the yard and have her inside as she is sneaky and tries to get into things. If I am upstairs I cannot trust what she is dong downstairs etc.
I love her very dearly and I am at my wits end with this dishonesty. She really does not miss out and we are very fair all round.
I am floored that she she has taken this money and I am stuck as to what type of consequence I should give. I feel this is getting much more serious now and want to really get through to her.
So, what would you do with a child at this age? Does anyone have any advice or experience with this???
Would appreciate your help. Thank you.
Edited by Excited One, 27 December 2012 - 07:35 PM.