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Told not doing gifts... What to do?


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#1 TopsyTurvy

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:31 PM

Friends daughters b'day party in a couple of weeks and I have been told they aren't doing gifts.

Obviously I will respect the parents wishes....

But... But... But....

I don't feel right turning up empty handed.

What shall I do???

Please help EB'ers!

#2 Chelli

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:33 PM

How about a balloon or a small posy of flowers for the birthday girl?

#3 Silver Girl

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:35 PM

Make a donation to a children's charity on their behalf?

#4 Lokum

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:40 PM

Packet of crayons? Packet of seeds to grow something?
Mr Men book?
Nice little tokens that don't cost much or add to clutter too much either.

#5 seepi

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:43 PM

Make a really lovely/elaborate card.

#6 beebsoferal

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:51 PM

Bring a plate of food. A really nice homemade card.

#7 ekbaby

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:52 PM

Offer to bring a plate?

We have had "no gift" parties before, and I can assure you that we really did mean it, and would not look badly on people turning up without a gift at all- in fact we appreciated it. Our place is too small and DS too overwhelmed by mountains of gifts in years before.


#8 the wudges

Posted 02 January 2013 - 09:56 PM

I would give a book as a gift in this situation, as I would feel odd not giving a gift and figure most parents appreciate them.

#9 Chelli

Posted 02 January 2013 - 10:04 PM

QUOTE (Silver Girl @ 02/01/2013, 10:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Make a donation to a children's charity on their behalf?


I would love this!


#10 DS1979

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:43 PM

I would just pop some money in a card and write that this is a small contribution towards the childs savings account.



#11 Camizebra

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:46 PM

QUOTE (Chelli @ 02/01/2013, 10:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How about a balloon or a small posy of flowers for the birthday girl?


Love both these ideas!  Very sweet...

#12 Espoir

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:50 PM

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I would just pop some money in a card and write that this is a small contribution towards the childs savings account.


No, I personally would find that incredibly odd.

#13 Starrydawn

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:53 PM

Do nothing. Take child to party and don't bring a gift as requested.

#14 PatG

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:56 PM

Just take a card. At 3 the child isn't going to feel slighted at all and the parents will be happy to not have extra "token" stuff to deal with.  Have fun!

#15 ubermum

Posted 03 January 2013 - 03:58 PM

QUOTE (Chedasha @ 03/01/2013, 04:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do nothing. Take child to party and don't bring a gift as requested.


Exactly.

#16 DS1979

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:02 PM

QUOTE (Espoir @ 03/01/2013, 04:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No, I personally would find that incredibly odd.



Really? Maybe it's just because I come from a culture where it isn't uncommon to give money as gifts that I don't see anything wrong with it. Anyways, I have done that before for my close friends children as I know what it's like to receive lots of "stuff" you don't need and it has always been grateully received!

#17 ali-song

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:04 PM

I'd usually do card + stickers for "no gift" parties.

#18 imamumto3

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:09 PM

at this time of year the child has probably received so much at Christmas that they really don't need any more toys.  my nieces birthday is next week and I feel have to bring her something being her aunty, so I'm going to buy her a dress or outfit.

#19 sarachris

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:21 PM

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at this time of year the child has probably received so much at Christmas that they really don't need any more toys. my nieces birthday is next week and I feel have to bring her something being her aunty, so I'm going to buy her a dress or outfit


I find this doesnt sit right with me. My daughter's birthday is 4 days after christmas, and I feel that she should get what she would have received had her birthday been in July!!! She always receives clothes off aunts and uncles ( which is 10 sets) because they beieve she got so many toys at Christmas. I feel for her when every present is clothes, its just not exciting when you are 4.

For the 'no present' thing, I just put stickers and a little note book inside a card.

#20 Jekaho

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:26 PM

A personal card - drawing by your child etc.

#21 imamumto3

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:27 PM

QUOTE (sarachris @ 03/01/2013, 08:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I find this doesnt sit right with me. My daughter's birthday is 4 days after christmas, and I feel that she should get what she would have received had her birthday been in July!!! She always receives clothes off aunts and uncles ( which is 10 sets) because they beieve she got so many toys at Christmas. I feel for her when every present is clothes, its just not exciting when you are 4.

For the 'no present' thing, I just put stickers and a little note book inside a card.

we were told no presents, but I feel bad!  her parents aren't going to get her a present because they don't want more toys, they are going to rewrap some of her Christmas presents.

#22 sarachris

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:32 PM

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we were told no presents, but I feel bad! her parents aren't going to get her a present because they don't want more toys, they are going to rewrap some of her Christmas presents.


Thats just wrong.
Ok, I understand the no present thing, so yes I think its good to give a gift to family, I would take a gift. Cant they give her books, cool sheets/pillow case, dress ups, pencil....the list is endless without having to buy toys and clothes. This is just a cop out on their behalf!


#23 imamumto3

Posted 03 January 2013 - 07:39 PM

QUOTE (sarachris @ 03/01/2013, 08:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thats just wrong.
Ok, I understand the no present thing, so yes I think its good to give a gift to family, I would take a gift. Cant they give her books, cool sheets/pillow case, dress ups, pencil....the list is endless without having to buy toys and clothes. This is just a cop out on their behalf!

that's what I think, I can't imagine not giving my child a birthday present, just because their birthday was close to Christmas.




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