Good morning all
Just wanted to put something out there that has been bugging me for a few days.
DD4 just randomly blurted out to me "gay is bad"
After the getting over the shock, I asked her if she knew what it meant, which was followed by "no - but that's what the other kids at preschool say". When I then asked her which kids say it she just told me the names of all her friends and that "my friends don't say that".
I then proceed to explain how the word gay can have more than one meaning: the first being happy! However, I am a bit worried about my explanation of the second meaning. It went something like this:
"DD4, you know how some people love each other very much?"
"Like you and daddy?"
"Yep, and you know we are a boy and a girl?"
"Well when, a boy loves a boy very much and a girl loves a girl very much, like mummy and daddy love each other very much, it is called being gay and there is nothing wrong with that. Mummy's friend (name) and Auntie V's friend (name) are gay and they are cool right?"
"Oh yeah, mummy I like them very much! So gay is not a bad thing? It's good because loving someone is good isn't it?"
"Yep - and if you hear anyone say it's bad again, just remember our talk"."
"So why do people say it's bad?"
"Because some people don't understand and to say bad things about something you don't understand is silly."
So what I'm worried about: I did not bring her initial comment up with her Group Leader at Kindy - I just put it down to kids being kids repeating what they hear from others, but FFS, these are 4 year olds!!!!!!!! I admit though, when it comes to my kids, I don't answer their questions with other descriptives (ie they know what penises and vaginas are etc) and I suppose just having to explain to DD4 that people think things are bad when they aren't concerns me a bit.
So do you think I handled it ok? What pearlers have your kids brought home from kindy?