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#51 reesan

Posted 25 March 2013 - 01:39 PM

So impressed with Alex, I think i was terminally irritable from 33 weeks (and just VERY irritable before that). Since being post partum I am still finding plenty to be irritable about!

We are going pretty well, thriving over barely surviving due to having the night nanny twice a week which just helps us so much.

The girls are on four hourly feeds now and having a routine is working very nicely for us and them. We are hoping to move one of the night feeds to a five hour stretch this week if they are amenable.

I am staying very organized so that we get lots of time for cuddles and rest and my husband and I get time to hang out together and watch tv. So I find I at all times I am either working extremely hard or taking it very easy, with nothing in between.

Life is almost universally easier when there are no visitors, but we must see some people to still have friends when it's all not so hectic, so we are trying to find the balance.

My girls are one week and one day adjusted now and growing really well and feeding really well and not giving us too much trouble with crying or sleeping just yet, so we are counting our blessings while we have them.

Sending best wishes to all

#52 Jo-Anna

Posted 26 March 2013 - 04:47 PM

Wow Alxeen you are now officially my twin pregnancy idol. I can't believe how far you have made it and still seem so up beat! I know what you mean about not wanting to wish away the time too much. Before we know it we will certainly have our hands full.
Reesan 'terminally irritable...' is a perfect way to describe me right now. I'm glad to hear you are settling in well with the help of the night nanny. Do you know how long you will be able to keep her for? Sounds wonderful!
MAandM I bought a mountain buggy duet with a buggy board. I looked at the options that would have a seat for DS (valco zee two I think or the ABC adventure buggy) but they seemed either too enormous or too flimsy. DS is a really good kid, not a runner at all, so I think we will be fine with the buggy board. Im not sure about your LO though as she is a fair bit younger than DS. The ladies at the baby shop said that they thought DS would be too young. I have everything set up for the babies now. Which I am so glad of, I am in pain all the time and can't even do the supermarket shopping, so I highly recommend getting ready early!
MJCplus1 CONGRATULATIONS! What lovely weights too! Hope you are settling in well at home. Please come back and update us when you get a chance.

AFM, 33.5 weeks now. Miserable, tired and grumpy most days, but I have occasional bursts of energy where I feel quite optimistic and lucky to be doing so well pregnancy wise. OB said today that twin one is engaged which explains the belly drop and increase in pressure down there! The plan is no to wait till 38 weeks before we discuss inductions again. I am super keen to go naturally so we will see! I have an ultrasound tomorrow, and I am looking forward to seeing the babies and finding out how their weights are going.
Hope everyone is well. Look forward to hearing your news when the babies arrive Alxeen, all the best!

#53 Alxeen

Posted 27 March 2013 - 04:28 PM

Still cooking!!

Can't believe it.....I am 40 weeks tomorrow. I get false labour in one way or another nearly everyday, every time I go to bed I'm expecting to wake up in labour, but then the next morning I wake up and I'm still pregnant. Sometimes I do wake up with a contraction but after a trip to the toilet it goes away and I go back to sleep. I have a dull back ache all the time now due to twin 1 being very low and firmly locked in my pelvis. Fundal height has cracked 50 - I'm now 51.5cms oomg.gif Surprisingly I'm doing well physically though, of course I'm taking it easy, but still managing to walk DD to school and back, and to local cafe if I feel like it. The ob I have been requesting to see at the hospital has been supportive of the pregnancy progressing as I'm in perfect health and all monitoring (it's nearly every day now) has come up looking great, however he was away this week and I got another ob who was none too impressed about me reaching 40 weeks. I know there are standard models of care for a twin pregnancy, and there are 'norms', all of which say to carry no later than 38 weeks, however everything is indicating that at the end of this I will have two healthy term babies of great birth weights.....can't really argue with that. I'm still soooo hoping to go into spontaneous labour, however will probably end up booking an induction if I haven't delivered by later next week - then I'll be 41+weeks....surely....SURELY I will have delivered by then!

Jo-Anna I feel anything but an idol (but thanks original.gif) I mostly just feel large and harassed (by well meaning but seriously irritating family and friends). I feel held hostage by my hormones and my moods go up and down a lot at the moment. The smallest thing can have me in tears for most of the day! A wonderful support for me has been the 'Birthing Multiples Naturally' group on facebook. If you're on fb and you want me to add you just send me a PM. There are some amazing women on there and they are a wealth of knowledge and very supportive of informed choice regardless of what the choice is.

Reesan You will be in your groove in no time with those babies, sounds like you are almost there! Plus I hear six weeks is a big milestone. Of course any children and twins in particular are a challenge, but I guarantee there will be a moment coming up soon where you think to yourself "I can do this...and do it WELL!" Seeing friends can be a strain but they will so love being a part of the twins lives, and may even be great babysitters once they're a bit older wink.gif Have you gone along to your first mother's group yet?

Ok well I'm off to the hospital for some more monitoring.....

#54 reesan

Posted 28 March 2013 - 11:56 AM

Oh, I can totally do this and do it well - I hit that in week 2 (again, thanks to night nanny for letting me getting a proper nights sleep which helped a lot). I am doing amazing! (Though it would be totally fine and reasonable if I wasn't, I have just been very lucky)

And mothers group starts next week, I'm looking forward to it (Though I'm more looking forward to my local multiples group new parents morning tea the week after!)

I do however have the flu.. Boo.. But nothing feels as bad physically as late in twin pregnancy!

#55 Wickl

Posted 30 March 2013 - 08:51 AM

Hello ladies, I'm hoping to join as DH and I found out this week that we're expecting twins-was over the moon at first but now some of the anxiety is setting in....wow it's going to be hard work as we live interstate and have no family support here sad.gif

#56 Alxeen

Posted 01 April 2013 - 08:39 PM

Welcome Wickl, and congrats on your twins! You've obviously had a long road to travel to be finally blessed with them. There are others going through first trimester worries just as you are so you're not alone. So much about a multiple pregnancy is challenging, but I'm told the rewards are worth it wink.gif

Well we didn't get Easter babies, so hopefully I can get a S&S tomorrow and will discuss induction. Scary and exciting to think my next post could be a birth announcement!

#57 Jo-Anna

Posted 02 April 2013 - 06:55 PM

a little update from me. I started contracting last night at 34+2. Got to7 minutes apart and hospital told me to come in to be checked. Low and behold i'm 4 cms without barely any contractions. I was given steroids and admitted. Contractions have now slowed. But i'm still at 4 cms with some very slow progress so I am stuck in the hospital. Not quite sure what elm happen from here. I am feeling very nervous.
Also wanted to say good luck to Alxeen :-)

#58 Wickl

Posted 03 April 2013 - 05:42 AM

Thanks for the welcome Alxeen-seems like this is a quiet thread?!

Good luck with your delivery if it happens soon-look forward to hearing how it went and the good news!!! original.gif

#59 MAandM

Posted 03 April 2013 - 08:12 AM

Good luck Joanna and Alxeen, looking forward to reading baby news very soon! Joanna you might beat Alxeen!
I'm passed the 12 week mark now, having Nuchal scan this week just for peace of mind. Currently in hospital with my DD 1 year old with bad tonsillitis sad.gif poor thing, no sleep last night for either of us. Feeling it today!
Best of luck ladies and babies xxxx Welcome to the twin gang Wicki, daunting but very exciting xx

#60 Wickl

Posted 05 April 2013 - 07:21 PM

Good luck for your scan MandM

#61 MAandM

Posted 06 April 2013 - 05:07 PM

Scan was amazing! Two babies growing beautifully. Definitely identical ( mono -di) They are measuring spot on 13 weeks and doing well xx

#62 Jo-Anna

Posted 10 April 2013 - 01:00 PM

Congrats on the scan MAandM! How did it make you feel? Excited? Daunted? Does the fact that they are mo-di make much difference to you care?
Welcome Wicki  waves.gif  It is a bit daunting at the beginning isn't it? Feel free to ask as many questions about the pregnancy part. Can't help much with the once they are here part because....

I am still pregnant  ssorry.gif  Everyone keeps telling me how happy I should be that I am still cooking away but I just feel miserable. Alxeen I don't know how you went so long. The OB is pushing an induction at 37 weeks, which I once was really against but now I can't resist. I just want these babies OUT! I think it doesn't help that I am already 4cms, so super uncomfy down there, and have barely slept the week since I got out of hospital and I can't drive so am stuck at home trying to take it easy while looking after my 2yo. Not to mention that everyone keeps saying I could go any day, which has me on edge.

Sorry for all the whining. This last part of twin pregnancy plain old sucks. On a positive note the false alarm forced my but into gear and I have the hospital bag sorted, car seats installed and the freezer stocked with meals. Super ready now for these babies!! 36 weeks on Saturday, bring it on I say!

#63 reesan

Posted 10 April 2013 - 04:48 PM


It is so absolutely awful and you are doing an amazing job. I went at 36 4 and found it so annoying how people kept saying things like 'better out than in' when I was wishing my caesarean could be booked for a few days earlier.

But one thing they didn't tell me was that the hospital would make you jump through lots of hoops if they were technically prem (even if only by three days like me) and that's hassle you don't need, so hopefully you can go that extra week and a bit.

#64 Jo-Anna

Posted 10 April 2013 - 04:52 PM

thanks Reesan, they are very wise words. I would love nothing more than to be able to take our babies home with us, so that is a very good point.

#65 DG+4

Posted 11 April 2013 - 07:49 AM

Hi ladies!
I'm a newbie on here but this looks like the right place to be. Found out last week that we're pregnant with twins! W were seeing a specialist to help me ovulate bit this is still a shock as there was only one follicle this time. Having a more formal u/s tomorrow as the doc thinks it could be momos. Crossing our fingers that they find two amniotic sacs!

Good luck to those almost about to meet their little ones. Exciting times!   original.gif

#66 Alxeen

Posted 11 April 2013 - 10:05 AM

Hi all! My twins arrived last week on the 4/4 original.gif hheart.gif

Please welcome my two girls: Emmeline Mary and Frances Barbara.

The vital stats:

Weight: 3086 g (6 lb 13 oz)
Length: 51 cm
Head circumference:35.5 cm

Weight: 2722 g (6lb 0oz)
Length: 48.5 cm
Head circumference: 34.5 cm

I ended up being induced at 41 weeks as fluid was reducing. Went in early morning, they broke my waters, nothing happened, started up the syntocin drip, laboured beautifully. I handled the pain SO MUCH better than with DD1. My DH and doula were amazing support and I just moved around and moaned a bit. Then half way through they told me twin 1 was posterior. The labour was already taking longer than with DD and I was getting pushing urges too early. I continued to breathe through it, vocalise and move around. Then I really needed to push but it wasn't feeling right, I couldn't feel the head moving down. I was examined and a small lip of cervix was in the way. No problems...just continue to breathe until it moves away and then we will have babies. Over an hour later nothing had changed. Ob had a serious chat with me - we can wait for a few more hours and something could happen, but it was very unlikely. It would mean risking rupturing the uterus or babies going into distress, or we could decide now to have a c-section. I chose c-section almost straight away as I knew something wasn't right. The next contractions after that were absolute hell and the spinal soon afterwards was total bliss. The surgery was quick and before I knew it two little girls were lifted from me and not long afterwards DH and I were cuddling them! As soon as I was done in recovery we had our first bf - twin style! It was heaven.

The girls are an absolute dream.....not giving me any sleep of course, but they feed exceptionally well and are generally settled little babies. I found the hospital experience (after the birth) to be very challenging. Bossy midwives demanding that I feed on schedule, checking nappies religiously, constant interruptions (daytime naps impossible), gross food. My tipping point in the end was a paed telling me I had to give them formula while I was still colostrum feeding and then threatening me with holding Frances back in special care (eve though she was never in special care, or was showing signs of needing to be) and discharging Emmeline and I. Let me point out that the babies were in no way unhealthy. Frances had lost 13% of her birth weight but this is normal before the milk comes in. I largely put it down to the fact that they are twins and for some reason they just expect things not to be right and can't resist getting their hands all over them. Don't get me wrong, there is most certainly a place for intervention and treatment where required, but there is also a place for common sense. Anyway, I discharged against medical advice and have had two follow up visits, both times the babies and I got full points as we are all doing exactly what we should - the girls are stacking on weight, their small amount of jaundice has disappeared and my wound is healing really well. Both midwives have left raving about how well we are doing. So I feel somewhat vindicated  happy.gif

Being home is the absolute best place to be for all of us. I get so much more support with DH being with us 24/7, and I'm getting much more rest too. Friends and family have been gorgeous with meals and I'm eating better than ever! I am finding I wish I had an extra set of arms, but I have a nurture sling (thanks for the hot tip Reesan!) and that's been invaluable. My girls are just SO adorable and I am SO in love!

Will catch up and post pics later.

#67 Jo-Anna

Posted 11 April 2013 - 01:19 PM

Wonderful news Alxeen! Must be great to be home safe and sound.
I look forward to hearing more stories and seeing some photos.

I was wondering if anyone knows if there is an ongoing chat thread for multiples? I know there is the twins section but that just seems to be for asking questions etc. It would be nice to keep on chatting with twin mums after the babies arrive.

#68 MAandM

Posted 11 April 2013 - 01:40 PM

Alxeen congratulations! I have been checking daily to see if we had any news from you! Welcome nautical girls! Good on you for sticking up for yourself in hospital, so nice that you are all home together. You did such an amazing job going so long! My hero!
How is the twin feeding going? D you use a pillow or sit on couch supported etc? Good tip about the sling I will look into one, with Macy being only about 19 months when the twins arrive these are the kind of tips I will need! What is absolute necessity!
Can't wait to see pics of the girls, so excited for you! And jealous they are here! Feel like I have or ever to go!
Welcome DG+4, very exciting news for you! My twins are monochorionic (identical) with just a thin membrane separating them, sounds like your twins may be the same? Hope your next scan brings more positive news.
Baby pics soon Alxeen!
Love to you all xxxx Alxeen you made my day with this news original.gif

#69 MAandM

Posted 11 April 2013 - 01:42 PM

Nautical is meant to be beautiful! Haha

#70 reesan

Posted 12 April 2013 - 08:41 AM

So exciting Alex! I look forward to meeting them when we're both a bit more settled!

To the first timers, here is some unsolicited advice that I was too tired to post at the beginning that Alex has reminded me of  : that's Alex and I who have both had great prenatal care and the care we needed for the births and then absolutely rubbish post natal care - I wish someone had told me to plan for the worst there.

I was a bit lost being a first timer and recovering from my c section and in hindsight feel really bullied. I argued back but never escalated issues to the senior midwife or patient advocate and wish I had.

If I didn't have such a bad experience we wouldn't have left on day 3 and went home grossly unprepared (since we didn't have any help from family and neither of us knew what we were doing!).

So what I'm saying is - make a plan for if you get bad care and how you will deal with it, so that you only have to rush off like Alex and I did if you know that will work out ok for you!

Also people told me to see a private lactation consultant before the birth and I didn't see the point - but if I had I would have known about my 'flat nipples' prior to the birth and been able to get a plan in place and not be so much at the mercy of the hospital midwives.

#71 AliGeo

Posted 12 April 2013 - 08:42 AM

CONGRATULATIONS Alxeen!! I've been stalking this thread waiting for your news biggrin.gif .

Welcome Emmeline and Frances. They are almost exactly the same weights of my two only mine were at 37 + 1. You did an amazing job keeping them in so long, I wished I had your strength and had held out longer too. Good to hear you're all settling in at home. Can't wait for pics!

Jo-Anna I think our own chat group would be awesome, I've really missed talking to you all but feel like I can't come in here cos I'm not 'expecting' multiples anymore. Maybe we could start one on the multiple board?

#72 reesan

Posted 12 April 2013 - 09:11 AM

QUOTE (AliGeo @ 12/04/2013, 08:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
CONGRATULATIONS Alxeen!! I've been stalking this thread waiting for your news biggrin.gif .

Welcome Emmeline and Frances. They are almost exactly the same weights of my two only mine were at 37 + 1. You did an amazing job keeping them in so long, I wished I had your strength and had held out longer too. Good to hear you're all settling in at home. Can't wait for pics!

Jo-Anna I think our own chat group would be awesome, I've really missed talking to you all but feel like I can't come in here cos I'm not 'expecting' multiples anymore. Maybe we could start one on the multiple board?

I would participate if there was a chat thread. I read AMBA forum a lot (didn't think I'd have time to get back to it after the first fortnight with the babies, but I do and am really struggling with the AMBA forum being down due to technical issues this week!).

I would DEFINITELY be interested in ongoing chats on things like routine, sleep, wonder weeks etc! And general chat of course!

#73 Jo-Anna

Posted 12 April 2013 - 10:31 AM

Ok, maybe I will see if I can get a thread going for multiples- once they have arrived. Not sure how I go about it though, I'm not a huge user of online forums. Any ideas?

#74 jess1980

Posted 13 April 2013 - 02:28 PM

I'd be interested in a group also my twins are now 7 months and its always move talking to other twin mums

#75 jess1980

Posted 13 April 2013 - 02:28 PM

I'd be interested in a group also my twins are now 7 months and its always move talking to other twin mums

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