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#1 Funwith3

Posted 18 January 2013 - 03:39 PM

My daughter is turning 8 in a few weeks and wants to have a sleep over party. I've said she can invite four friends. She's chosen her cousin, plus three other girls from school. Two of those little girls I know very well, and I know their parents very well too. But one of the girls is not REALLY my daughters friend. They play in the same sporting team at school but have never really hung out at lunch time, they've never been in a class together - except this year (so starting term 1 in a few weeks).

I think my daughter WANTS to be her friend. I know her mum to chat to, but have never socialised with her away from the school grounds. The little girl has never been to our house and my DD has never been to the little girls house. She seems like a lovely little girl so I don't have a problem with it.

I'm just wondering (and yes, I do tend to overthing things) should I encourage DD to invite one of her REAL friends (she has A LOT of them). Or is it ok for DD to invite this little girl in the hope that a friendship blossoms?

Also, if you were the little girls mother, would you think it's weird? Would you let your child go for a sleepover at a family's house that you didn't know very well?

WDYT about this?

#2 MoonAndBack

Posted 18 January 2013 - 03:55 PM

If you do sleepovers, I would let her invite who she wants....after all its all a part of growing up....having choices original.gif

No sleepovers here nor do our kids go to any sleepovers wink.gif

Our daughter was invited to a sleepover party last year (she was 8.5yrs at the time) and was happy to only stay still 11pm (another girl also left at this time)......its an arrangement that our kids are happy with.....better than not going at all wink.gif

Edited by MoonAndBack, 18 January 2013 - 03:57 PM.

#3 Riotproof

Posted 18 January 2013 - 03:56 PM

I don't think it's a huge problem. If she thinks it's weird, she'll decline.

What you could do is invite the mum and daughter for a coffee beforehand.

#4 snuffles

Posted 18 January 2013 - 04:01 PM

Let her invite who she wants to, I wouldn't worry about it.  DD invited three friends to her sleepover party whose parents I had never spoken to before, they all came, they were all nice and I met some new people too.

#5 HRH Countrymel

Posted 18 January 2013 - 04:16 PM

At 7 my nephew went to a sleepover party of a girl from school.

Not only did my sister not know her Mum, she wasn't even sure who the girl was!  My nephew hadn't done any after school play dates, and they weren't in the same group of friends.. plus (without stating the obvious he was a BOY!)

He had a great time. Wasn't weird.  

(although he didn't sleep over - he hadn't done a sleep over at anyone's house apart from family and 'sort of family' before and his Mum thought that it might be a bit much for the host Mum who was a single Mum with an only child to have to try and deal with little boy homesickness if it did happen.)

#6 Aribika

Posted 18 January 2013 - 09:52 PM

I would probably try to get together with the child and mother before the party.  I am not comfortable with my chn (nearly 8 and 10 years old) going to someone's house if I don't know them at all.      

My Ds 1 has been invited for a sleep over at a neighbour's house.  His friend has been over here lots during the holidays and my DH and I have both met the Mum briefly. Ds 1 has only ever slept over with family and he has asd although I would feel the same with my other son. We have invited the family over for a BBQ so that we can all get to know each other a little before hand.


#7 2bundles

Posted 19 January 2013 - 08:05 AM

My dd had a sleepover 8th party. She had 4 friends - 2 of which had never done a sleepover before!  They all had a ball. I texted the Mums a photo of the girls and their beds all together in the lounge room.

There was too much squealing for my liking, but the girls had a ball.

Let her invite who she wants.

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