We have 2 girls that live next door they play well with ds and ds like playing with them so it's good in a way.
But it seems like every second afternoon they are here (we live in a set of 3 villas so we share a driveway) from 3:30/ 4 - 5:30 when i tell them we have to go inside for dinner I am usually fine with it but I never see their Mum come out or ask them to come in I know the mums home but she never really asks me to look after the girls I just do as we live on a busy Rd so I don't want the girls to run onto the Rd.
It was the same at our last house we lived at 2 kids from next door would Pop over without my knowledge and stay all afternoon and play with ds.
I do offer them drinks and food which sometimes they do take sometimes they don't.
It's just really starting to feel like I am a door mat and free babysitting service with afternoon tea supplied.
I just don't want to say anything negative as we live so close and we see them everyday.
So what would you do in my position say something that may offend or just let it be?.
well, if you are happy enough with the situation, let it continue. If you are not, do something to change it. It's not rocket science.
If you don't want to feed the neighbourhood kids, just say "Snack time for DS now. How about you girls go home and have your snack while DS has his?"
As for the supervision, if you don't want the "responsibility" then you need to talk to the mother.
Sounds like this situation is of your own doing , unintentional as it may be. And if the other mum is unaware that you have this growing seething resentment towards, how is she supposed to know?
Personally, I would let it go, mainly because I doubt it would register that I might feel like a door mat and a free babysitting service. But if you are getting jack of it, change what you are doing.
Maybe invite the mother to sit out with you and have a chat while the kids play?