I just want to know if I was over reacting or not.
A big well known restaurant. It's very family friendly with a playground and permanent jumping castle, Play Station 2's, little cinema, etc.
I take DS there once a month for lunch if I can afford a small kids meal for him. He loves the jumping castle and always has a ball when we're at that restaurant.
Today, unfortunately, things didn't go so well.
A 7yo girl went onto the jumping castle with her skipping rope. Her parents were sitting at the back of the restaurant and could not see/care what she was upto.
I was sitting at the front so I could keep an eye on everything. I just turned around to ask the waitress for some water when I heard DS crying out a heartbreaking cry. The kind that you instantly know he's really hurt.
I got up and asked what happened. Another little boy said that the girl had scratched DS.
I asked the girl why on earth she did that. "He tried to grab my skipping rope". The other little boy said that the girl had been throwing the rope around and it had hit DS and him in the face. So I assume that DS tried to grab it before she hurt him again.
I told her that he's only 3 and was probably trying to defend himself. Plus skipping ropes don't belong on jumping castles.
"SO WHAT?! IM 7! HE SHOULD NOT TOUCH MY ROPE!!!!"
"Well, can you at least say sorry? He's got blood on his ear, neck and cheek".
"IM NOT YOUR DAUGHTER! I DONT LISTEN TO YOU" *Sticks fingers in her ears and starts to do the "na nananana* sing song cr@p.
I asked her where her mother was, but ofcourse I got ignored.
So I kept watching her and soon found out who her parents were. I walked upto them and asked if they could get their daughter to apologize. Her mum looked at me and said: "Sorry!".
Yet the girl said it wasn't her fault so she was not going to say sorry. Mum just shrugged and dad said: "Ohhhh he's a big boy! He's tough and will get over it!"
Anyway, I sat down thinking nothing will happen anymore and I can eat my lunch now. Yeah right!
Im watching the girl getting back onto the jumping castle. She immediately gets in DS's face and hits him. He hits her back and she hits him again. I witnessed the whole event and jumped up to talk to her.
She said DS hit her first, yet she wasn't going to get away with it that easy as I saw the whole thing happening and I told her this.
She yelled: " I TOLD YOU IM NOT YOUR DAUGHTER. IM NOT LISTENING TO YOU SO GO AWAY!"
I thought to myself she was lucky to not be my daughter because she would've been in serious trouble right there and then.
So I went to the mother and asked her to please try and keep her daughter away from DS and I would try to keep DS away from her daughter. Mum gets up and tells her daughter to not hit again. That was that.
*SIGH* I didn't want her to hurt him again, so I spent the next hour running after DS making sure he didn't get near that little girl again. She seemed to be carrying a grudge, even though she did not even get into much trouble with her parents for scratching and hitting DS.
I considered leaving the restaurant, but DS nor I had finished our lunch yet and I didn't think it was fair for him to have his fun cut short while he isn't to blame.
Other people saw what had happened and saw the scratches on DS's face and they all reckoned I should tell the manager. Well, all he did was give me alcohol wipes and I can't blame him. He isn't the parent, so what can HE do about it?
This whole thing has left a bad taste in my mouth. How would YOU handle a situation like this when your child is the victim? How would YOU handle a situation like this when your child is the instigator?
I know kids will be kids and so I usually let things slide, but this wasn't a little scratch. Plus the girl was twice his size and profoundly refused to apologize and also had a very big mouth
Do you think I overreacted? Should I have just let it slide with the "kids will be kids" motto instead of speaking to the parents?
When I see/hear DS pushing, hitting or just hurting another child, I make him apologize first and then he gets a stern talking to followed by "time out" which is the closest chair I can find. I then look for the parent and apologize for my son's behaviour as I know he can get a bit carried away just like any other child.