I'm in need of some help!
Ok so i'll start with letting you know i'm not an able bodied parent these days, i have a lot of health issues going on ..Fibromyalgia, womens issues and a hopefully-soon-to-diagnosed-condition-in-both-knees...it's very painful and debilitating to the point i cant walk very far at all, to the point where i have just had to buy a mobility sscooter to get around outside the house, inside everythings a struggle, houework, stairs...you get the idea!....I just wanted to put that out there as it does affect my parenting, especially when it comes to picking kids up etc....i simply can't.
on another note:I have shared care 50/50 with their father. Which works for us all. the kids enjoy spending equal time with us both. this is set in conrecte and will not change anytime soon..no matter who wants it changed (not that anyone does)
Ok so now to the kids....really it's two of them Miss 5 and the ringleader master 6.
Stealing is the biggest issue, no matter what time they go to bed they get up early sneak downstairs and steal anything and everything, they bring it upstairs and share the loot with miss 2, who doesnt understand it's wrong, so it's affecting her as well as now she expects it. No punishments have worked and believe me i've tried everyting From basic lunchboxes, grounding, taking away everything and even not giving them breakfast, when they have taken more than what they would have had anyway for the morning meal.
I have tried talking it out, explaining it's wrong etc etc and ive tired the cranky route...NOTHING is working.
What they steal all depends on what they can get their hands on....from real food (fruits breakfast cereal etc) to lollies and chips (left over from xmas as i refuse to bring anymore treats in with this behaviour) to sugar and sprinkles. I have gone to the extremes of cable tying the cupboard handles togerther (have only ever used high cupboards -not that it's stopped them) the other day they somejow managed to get the cable ties off. I have stashed any treats in my room but they sneak in there too.
Apart from putting a padlock on the fridge (which i planned on doing as soon as this rain lets me out of the house) Theres nothing else i can do to secure the food.
I'm so sick of the mess they create doing it as well...like i said cleaning is a hugly painful experience for me.
Hunger causing it ? ...well maybe for master 6 when he refuses to eat dinner....tough luck.
I have asked why they do it and miss5 cries and master 6 says he doesnt know.We've had dicussions about what he can do to stop himself when he feels the urge but he's not even trying.
Also while im here i do want to bring up that i'm not happy in general with their behavior. I have never known kids to have the lack of repect for parents that they do.
If it was just in one or tow areas i'd chalk it up to kids being kids, but this is ridiculous, EVERYTHING i tell them i have to say no less than 20 times and they still dont do as they have been asked. They are rude and disrespectful to the rest of the household in the mornings, instead of playing quietly they yell and carry on and purposley wake everybody up EVERY MORNING . It really is in every area. They refuse to pack up, they swear at me when i punish them.
i'm tired, i'm tired of yelling of banning them from living because they will not behave.I'm tired of fighting what feels like a losing battle. I live with pain everyday, im trying to have a house that runs semi smooth, i want to have quality time with them but i cant when all my time is spent trying to deal with unacceptable behaviour.
They have a routine, they know the routine so it's definately not that they don't know what expected o0f them.
Edited by Manda, 26 February 2013 - 09:30 AM.