Jump to content

To have another child or not?
your advise please

  • Please log in to reply
3 replies to this topic

#1 manda-n-elvie

Posted 24 March 2013 - 09:18 AM

I am already a mother (32yrs old) of a healthy Mr 5 yr old and Miss 2.5 year old, after a misscarriage in the middle.  Since having Miss 2.5 I have studdied and gained great employment howver I've always wanted more and now Husband (48 yr old) is bringing more children into almost every conversation even using that look.... I haven't got rid of any of the baby equipment or clothes - i knew I wasn't ready however I don't think it is a wise financial decission with childcare and the thought of ever buying a house.

I just want to throw the thought out their, my friends are all work collegues and i'm not ready to discuss this with them and as my job is so rewarding i don't want to jepodise that, i am in need of advise to have a third or to get councilling?

#2 axiomae

Posted 24 March 2013 - 09:23 AM

No advice - I'm in this boat with just thinking about a second!

#3 w-emma

Posted 27 March 2013 - 04:18 AM

I highly recommend counselling: it was great for us.

#4 PinkCherryBlossom

Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:41 AM

I guess it comes down to priorities and what feels right for you both.  

Perhaps you and your partner could each make a list of your goals for the next few years (buying a house, holiday, another child etc.) and then you can sit down together and compare them.  Work out which goals you share, which ones you don't, and then have a discussion about how you can prioritise them and make up a basic timeline.  E.g.  Work for 2 more years to save money for house deposit, then try for baby.  If you find it difficult to discuss this with your partner, then a neutral third party in the form of a counsellor would be a great idea.

We are only now having our third baby (5 years after DD was born) because we agreed that our main priority was to finish buidling our house before we tried for another child.

0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users


Top 5 Viewed Articles

Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.