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Posted 03 October 2013 - 12:25 AM
Oh Mumabug, I'm so sorry to hear xox. Is there anything I can do to help?
Posted 03 October 2013 - 06:40 AM
Oh crap, Mama... Just one foot in front of the other and it will be okay.
To quote the Indian guy from 'the most exotic marigold hotel', "everything will be alright in the end.. And if everything is not alright, it is not yet the end".
Posted 03 October 2013 - 09:37 AM
CL I'm clad they've been able to rule something out for Oreo, now to find some more answers. yay for a weight gain!
Mama I'm so sorry. We're all here for you, just ask & we'll do anything we can xxxx
Posted 03 October 2013 - 02:01 PM
Mama - Sorry you are having such a rough time. Hope things start to look a little clearer soon. Please vent as needed and take care of yourself.
CL- I think that is good news at least you know something is ruled out. Hope she continues to gain weight.
Dino - how are you all going.
One of our friends has again made me realise how lucky our family is. 2 years ago this month her father passed away suddenly and last week one of her girls aged only 3 was diagnosed with leukaemia. She is such a strong person she is facing it with such a positive attitude. Times like this you need a magic wand.
Posted 03 October 2013 - 03:09 PM
Mama call any time, we can cry at each other. You have all my sympathy, I am pleased you have very good friends looking after you. xxx
I am also reading along but have stuff I would rather not post going on. In medical news oliver has the all clear and I have been referred to a neurologist - seeing them at the end of the month, will be away for a week from next thursday and am having gastro surgery again next wednesday. So I'm busy
Love and hugs to all of you, you are all so wonderful I hope I can get back into my groove soon. xxx
Posted 03 October 2013 - 09:46 PM
Mamabug - So sorry to hear that. Glad that you are getting looked after and truely hope that it all works out how you want it to. Please vent and cry in here as much as you need to. We are all here to support you. Take care
CL - great news about Oreo, progress finally, what a relief
DinoJen - my brother insists that we should call this baby Matthew after him, regardless of the outcome of boy or girl
TNMN - Not good about your friend, that's awful
Please feel free to offer up name ideas everyone, boy or girl, please.
AFM: I've had a really really bad week. Have spent most of it crying and stressed but think that a solution has been made tonight that will turn everything around, Fingers crossed.
Take care lovely ladies, great to hear from you xx
Posted 03 October 2013 - 09:52 PM
Just reading quickly and felt I couldn't go and not post to mama bug. Sending you a huge hug. Glad you have come to a decision, sorry you had to. Please vent or cry away to us. Look after yourself. Xxxxxx
And dinojen, good luck for the operation.
Also hoping mbs that things are ok with you.
Sending everyone good vibes xx
Posted 04 October 2013 - 12:58 AM
Sigh. Sorry mamabug Please take care of yourself and allow others to do so too.
Posted 05 October 2013 - 08:00 AM
Thank-you everyone. The biggest two bugs come home from a week with grandparents today.
Himself has come out of hiding and is a broken, broken man. We will tell the babies tomorrow, which also gives us Monday to try and help them before school starts on Tuesday.
We have a good friend whose parents divorced when he was young who has said he's happy to talk to the kids in a "I know its sad, but everything can work out okay" way.
I have been to Centrelink and as long as we don't eat, we can keep the house! Not entirely true - my budget was made without taking 'single mum pension' concessions into account. Apparently my $330/week childcare bill for two kids for two days will drop significantly.
I'm just trying to think of the practical aspects. Have made child psych appointment for biggest two at end of month in case they need a bit of help to process everything.
I know within myself I have done the right thing for me, but I feel so terribly sad that it has come to this.
PS: Dino (puts on best Arnie voice).... It might be a tumor...
Posted 05 October 2013 - 09:30 PM
Mumabug; sending hugs and thinking of you xox
Dino; glad it's not a tumour.
Posted 06 October 2013 - 07:27 AM
Me too but I'd also likie the pain to stop now - not for a tumor, but, you know, something easily explained and fixed!
I think someone has been hacking Dr Google because my pain review to help further self diagnose keeps telling me the most likely outcome is that I have a cold. I thought Dr Google started with cancer and worked back from that?
Anyway, I don't have a cold. Or a tumor. Something in between maybe (like small children - this will all pass in 18 years or so...)
Posted 06 October 2013 - 10:02 AM
Dino: I understand fully, while its good to have things ruled out, its better to have the full diagnosis so can be treated etc. xox.
Posted 06 October 2013 - 09:05 PM
DinoJen - I will 3rd the sentiment it's better to know than not
Mamabug - How did you go with the kids?
AFM: I've had some pretty crappy weeks. We moved the boys into the same room and it was a complete disaster so have now separated them again. On tuesday DS2 fell out of his cot and ended up in emergency with 2 very large and scary lumps on his head. He is ok, no concussion, but was observed for a few hours. Then on friday he has blood all over his face cause he head butted DS1 in the back. All that with no one in the house sleeping properly for 3 weeks was a bad build up of emotions. Getting better now and more sleep for everyone, thank goodnes.
Posted 06 October 2013 - 09:42 PM
MBS: hope the sleeping improves. Glad DS2 is ok, but what a week for you :-(
Filly: Hoping you are doing well xox
Mumabug, Dino, TNMN, Shadowess, JDU, Aphraell, key4 and all I missed: sending xox and thinking of you all.
AFM: can't believe weather starting to heat up, planned a day at the beach....but I've been stuck in bed sick as, for most of the day. Chest/head sore as and nose a broken tap. Oreos first beach experience has to wait :-(. Tho she's developed a temp and unsettled tonight, so probably good we didn't go.
Posted 07 October 2013 - 10:28 AM
If anyone else wants to play my symptoms are as follows:
Headache approximately 3 weeks, constant low grade pain in temples which is worse when lying down, worst upon waking and flares up with stress (usually late-afternoon feral hour). Headache is not treatable with pain medication. MRI shows no tumor!!
Along with headache is accompanying nausea, also worse when headache is worse but at it's worst immediately after eating anything - although noticably worse after sweet food (damn it!)
Low grade dizziness which is worse in obvious situations (suddenly standing up etc)
All of that goes with the onset of headache 3-4 weeks ago.
Along with that - symptoms which may or may not be related in any way shape or form include overall fatigue (I'm talking absolutely exhausted from minimal activity), sore shoulder (I'm pretty sure this is a muscle strain), occasional incontinence (mostly wees), outbursts of anger which surprise even me, outbursts of crying which surprise me (less than the anger) and which are totally stupid (ie can't find a tissue, burst into tears), other possibly normal post-baby brain, possibly early onset dementia or something (mixing up names, forgetting stuff etc)
At the moment I am waiting to see a specialist who is an expert in both migraines and MS, my money is on the latter but I am kind of hoping for the former.
OR It could just be that I am very fat!!!
Any more suggestions welcome
FTR - I have had every blood test known to man and all is perfect except a slightly low Vit D count, I have had a clear ECG and Chest x-ray so there is just the question of sub-corticol degeneration in my brain. Yay!
Posted 07 October 2013 - 03:58 PM
Geez. I hardly know where to start. Such a lot of poo happening around here.
Jen - well, I am glad it is not a tumor as well. But beyond that glimmer, that all sounds perfectly horrible. Especially when coupled with two children and a husband. Fingers crossed for some answers. I am sure you have considered this but it is not connected to your antidepresents is it? Are you even on antidepresents or did I make that up.
MBS - wow - your poor son. For what it is worth, room sharing is not working for us either. That is the one thing I am looking forward to when we move to the Embassy - we will separate the kids. I wish it worked out because I love the idea of them sharing but Elise is truly awful at bedtime and keeps Owen up. Which in turn makes him become awful. Except for last night when they snuck out of their room and I busted them playing on Derek's ipad at 9:30pm!
Mamabug - I have also been thinking of you and your children. I hope everything is going okay. How's the cow?
CL - I decided this year that I get sick going into summer more than going into winter. It does not seem to make much sense to me. I hope you are feeling better soon and get to the beach.
Me - I am okay, actually compared to the rest of you lot I am bloody fantastic! My dad has been approved to take part in a trial of some new cancer drug and it looks very promising. The melanoma has spread to his lung but it has been caught early and is only a very small spot.
I went to a traditional chinese doctor re my PMS and fertility issues and she was beyond useless. It had me upset at the time but I am feeling more positive now. Maybe those nasty little balls of medicine are actually doing something to improve my Qi, whatever that means.
Otherwise, we went on an overnight road trip last week to a village on the outskirts of Beijing and then to the Great Wall. It was good. I need to get out of the city more. I tried to express to Ayi that I don't like living in cities (shicheng) but actually told her that I didn't like living in markets (changshi). Which I probably don't.
I am off to make some doughnuts now.
Posted 07 October 2013 - 04:33 PM
No, we already considered it being the ADs so we weaned off one and started another then stopped completely for long enough to guarantee it can't be them. It was a Very Tough two weeks without them, I'm only just getting back onto them now and am still pretty all over the place emotionally.
Luckily for me my neighbour has a 3 months old and is struggling like all brand new mum's with no support do (as in she's Ok but still tired, emotional and at the end of her tether) - which sucks for her but I find being able to help her out a bit with really inane stuff like a toy or a cup of tea is also helping me simply by making me feel human again.
Maybe I should be in a job that involves helping miserable people?!
Posted 08 October 2013 - 02:03 PM
Dino could it be post Mirena removal hormonal imbalance? I know I had a LOT of symptoms like that when I had mine put in. And may be facing it all again when I have it out next month. yay.
Filly that sounds promising for your dad, fingers crossed it's successful for him. Doughnuts - that's something I've never made. How did they go?
MBS that must have sucked, thank goodness for better sleep now.
CL I hope you make it to the beach with Oreo soon, feel better xx
Posted 08 October 2013 - 03:33 PM
It's been out a long time for me to suddenly get a headache, plus this would be my 3rd period since coming off it without any previous headaches. It's just the headaches that are so very, very weird for me - I never get them - not without a good reason and then it is always easily explained. This has been constant, increasingly painful and I can now say with certainty after a few experiments that exercise makes it worse, lying down makes it worse, it is worst in the morning when I wake up and in the late afternoon and it makes no difference whether i take any medicine at all or not. I have decided to stop altogether on the pain killers because there is such a thing as a rebound headache (essentially addiction to pain killers) - I am Very Doubtful it could be that as I don't take them that often and as I said, never for headaches, but hey - having ascertained the pain killers were doing nothing (the pain subsides mid morning with or without them) I am going cold turkey until I see the neurologist - it will be clear by then if I was addicted to panadol or not
Posted 08 October 2013 - 03:39 PM
Megan. The doughnuts were okay...
... the problem is, I grew up with a mother that made truckloads of doughnuts and hers were the real deep fried deal. I don't deep fry anything and a baked doughnut is just not quite the same. Still, they all got eaten (mostly by me) and I plan to make another batch this afternoon as Owen has a friend coming over after school.
We are in the preliminary stages of planning a birthday party for Owen but have found out that he is giving out (verbal) invitations willy-nilly to kids at school. I think we would have about kids coming if we really invite all of the people he's invited.
Posted 08 October 2013 - 08:48 PM
Thought I'd post a conversation I had with DS1 (4 1/2 years) today to hopefully make you all smile. We are sitting in the car about to leave the shops:
Me: Thank you DS1 and DS2 for being so well behaved at the shops, We got everything done, I really appreciate it
DS1: That's alright Mum, but DS2 did boot me in the pe#i$!
It cracked me up. I didn't expect that answer and the way he said it was so matter of fact, no emotion.
Posted 09 October 2013 - 03:37 PM
I have barrett's esophagus. Apparently he didnt need it any more. How much can happen in 3 months (since my last surgery).
Oh well - its not totally unexpected, just a bummer.
Posted 09 October 2013 - 04:16 PM
MBS: kids lol
Dino: What happens now that you know? Treatment etc. xox
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