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#1 Chelli

Posted 23 May 2005 - 09:46 AM

Hi ladies,
The other thread is getting long, so here's a new one original.gif I'll lock the other thread.

Here's a link to the last thread

http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/CFForum/vi...74&Topic=131154


Good luck with pregnancies and upcoming labours. I can't wait to read how you went.

Rach

#2 Shebee

Posted 23 May 2005 - 03:39 PM

Thanks for the new thread!

Kylie - first place to go is www.maternitycoalition.org.au they are THE homebirth group to suss out in Victoria. Scroll down the menu on the left hand side and you'll see a heading for "Midwives in Private Practice". Check this out thoroughly and follow the link to the list of independent midwives practicing in Victoria. Many of them have their own homepage with info on their philosophy and the services that they provide. From what I can tell there are a number of fabulous midwives practicing in Melbourne.
Check out Annie Spragues homepage, it is good place to start.

Good luck and lots of fun checking it all out!
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#3 ruthieroo

Posted 24 May 2005 - 06:38 PM

Hi all! I've been missing in action for quite awhile...I've come on to read a few times but never seem to find the time to post! Thanks for thinking of me, though!original.gif Anyway, for my news! I DID IT! Heehee! I had my homebirth. My little guy (5 weeks old already!) was born on the 17th of April: exactly 8 days before my EDD. I was psyching myself up to go past my due date since I knew that most people didn't go ON their date and it seems pretty common to go at least days "over". I think because of that it took me awhile to actually be convinced that I was in labour.Tounge1.gif My entire labor was 16 hours long. My contractions started out at 5 minutes apart and they were all in my back but  "back labor" really wasn't as horrendous as I had heard it could be.Actually the first 10 hours of labor went really fast. I'll have to put my whole birth story on here sometime soon. But for now...let's see...as you can see by my ticker we had a boy and named him Malachi Lance. He was 7 lbs 5 oz, 20 inches long and was and is very healthy. I love him to pieces!:-) Having him at home was wonderful...it was so nice to be able to spend that first night in my OWN bed with my husband and new little boy. Speaking of my little boy...he needs to eat so I better run. Hopefully I'll be back soon.original.gif



#4 Chelli

Posted 24 May 2005 - 10:23 PM

Hi, just popping my head in to say congratulations on your birth. It sounded like a wonderful experience, and how nice to spend the first night in your own home with your new family.

I love his name too original.gif.



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#5 Shebee

Posted 24 May 2005 - 10:24 PM

Ruthieroo - YAY!!!!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS on the safe arrival of Malachi!!! Well done!

I bet you are just on top of the world after having having done it!

Cant wait to get some more detail, when you have the time of course  original.gif!

Take care and hoping you're able to get plenty of rest!

Shebee
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#6 Kaohmie

Posted 25 May 2005 - 10:07 AM

Oh congrats on your birth!  Lucky that you were prepared!!  What a wonderful first night you must have had.  

Congratulations and welcome to Malachi original.gif



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#7 ruthieroo

Posted 25 May 2005 - 05:10 PM

Thanks for all your congrats, ladies!!:-D Real quick: I just posted my birth story over in the birth stories section. (Titled "Malachi: a wonderful home birht".)



#8 Kaohmie

Posted 01 June 2005 - 04:41 PM

I was just responding on another thread about kids present during birth and this has started me thinking about things.

We haven't started to really gather our thoughts about everything yet - but as I realise that I am suddenly 13 weeks (I know - I know - a very long way to go) - and it feels like just yesterday that I was 8 or 9 weeks - I know that I have to start thinking clearly about who we are going to have at the birth.

We are going to need two other support people for the kids (one for Miss 20mth old and 1 for master 4 and miss 6 wink.gif).  My mother isn't particularly helpful in this sense - she hasn't ever changed any of the kids nappies and prefers to drop round presents and go rather than stay and get into it with them IYKWIM.  She wouldn't be offended in not being asked! LOL

So my question would really be about preparing children/support people that you have used/are going to use?  

My first appointment with my midwife isn't until 17 weeks (which really isn't that far away now!!!) and I know that a lot of the other more mundane issues will be covered then.

BTW I just had to say that Malachi's birth story is just wonderful - congrats again!



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#9 Shebee

Posted 04 June 2005 - 09:03 PM

Hi Kaohmie, I just saw my midwife (for the 4th time) on Thursday. I had told her that I was starting to draw up a description for the roles and expectations that we have of our support people. I thought it would be wise to do this so that people do know what their roles are, it is clear and so they have an idea of what to expect when they come.

My midwife said it was a great idea and that one of the best births she had attended was where the mother had done this for the support people AND had also done it for the midwives as well, so that everyone knew what they were expected to do, with some flexibility of course. She said that it worked really well.

So now I am working on one for the midwives as well and discussing with DH what roles and responsibilities he would like to take on and what we would like the midwives to take care of. I think DH is feeling a lot better about it this time too, having a clearer plan of what he will "do" (as a typical fella he likes to be "doing" things).
My midwife also suggested, depending on the ages of your children, that they have "roles" assigned to them too. So that they feel an important past of the event and are able to contribute as well. They might be able to bring you some special socks to put on after the birth to keep your feet warm, or might be able to wring out cold facewashers for your face and neck during labour. Just something/s that they are able to do to help.
I thought that was a good idea and am now racking my brain for ideas for Sebastian. At 3yrs he loves to help and be in the thick of the action!

Hope this has given you some other ideas. I'd love to hear of anything that you discover or come up with!

Hope everyone is having a great day,

Shebee
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#10 Kaohmie

Posted 05 June 2005 - 05:49 PM

Hey Sheebee,

Love the idea - my DH will be the instigator of it all - you should have seen the spreadsheet of tasks/times that he allocated people for our wedding! LOL

One thought popped into my head as soon as I read about Sebastian - well two actually - could he and his carer bake a cake - a birthday cake for the new baby - with making it and decorating it - it could keep him entertained for alittle while - and give him something specail to give to the new baby.  During labour I needed icecubes a lot of the time - maybe he can be in charge of restocking the ice cube jar for you???  He could also make a card to welcome your new little one as well . . .

These were just spur of the moment ideas - I will have to think a little more about them though.

Chat soon,


Kaohmie

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#11 Shebee

Posted 06 June 2005 - 02:15 PM

Kaohmie, great ideas! If his grandma turns out to be his support person then the cake idea is perfect!

LOL, it would seem that your DH already has his role sorted - organising everyone elses! Have to admit that I am a bit the same way. I am feeling mush better now that I have a 2-page "Birth Support Role" handout to give unsuspecting victims  wink.gif.

I just didnt think I'd find it so difficult finding people that I would actually feel comfortable having here while giving birth. We still have to ask my MIL, who I am now thinking I would most prefer (though still not entirely comfortable), but I have no idea if she will be interested or not. I'm sure she will be flattered that we have asked but I dont know how she will react. If she says no, I'm not quite sure where we'll turn next!

I guess its all part of the whole homebirth adventure! It has all come together really well so far, I am sure the rest will fall into place as well  original.gif.

How are you basing your decision or who to ask?

Ciao for now,

WOOHOO, 23 weeks already!

Shebee
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#12 Shebee

Posted 29 June 2005 - 03:21 PM

Gee, where is everyone? I had to search back a few pages just to find this thread!
I guess everyone is busy just being a Mum  wink.gif!

Well things are going well here. Although last week we all got a vomitting bug and I had to spend a night in hospital attached to IV fluids because I'd become dehydrated. Its ironic isnt it, that I'm planning a homebirth and end up in the maternity ward of the local hospital at 25 weeks?!

As I was leaving all the midwives called out, "see you in a few weeks". I just smiled thinking "hopefully not!"

It was very strange being kept awake by crying babies and midwives coming in and out to check on me.

I couldnt help wondering if it was the universe helping to prepare me (and ds) for what lays ahead. Or perhaps it was just an opportunity for me to become even clearer about my desire and committment to birth at home.
Either way, I came away from my night there feeling more confident that I would cope better this time around (if for some reason I do have to go there) but feeling quite peaceful about not needing it.

I have to admit that for the first time I have questioned myself about whether I am really up to this. When the going gets tough will I really be ok knowing that there are no drugs, technology and gadgets available, even if I did want them (which I dont). I guess it is just part of my own process with preparing for this. Questioning myself and going even deeper to find the answers.

Did anyone else find they went through something similar to this?

Hope to hear from some of you soon.

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#13 Kaohmie

Posted 01 July 2005 - 01:04 PM

Hey Sheebee,

I'm MIA - it is the school holidays here and things are a bit (a lot!!) hectic original.gif  

Wow - what an experience - I hope that you are alright now.  I'm glad that it did give you time to think and meditate on the ways of the world though.  

I believe that questioning is always important - even questioning yourself - but your belief in yourself is paramount.  I am glad that your confidence was boosted - some things are sent our way for a reason.

I haven't yet experienced a homebirth - but I believe that the questioning cycle for my first VBAC is perhaps a little similar.  I had so many doubts thrown my way - so many reasons to doubt and question my abilities.  Each time I doubted (or had doubts put in my way) I seemed to be able to go a little deeper into my own self belief.  It seemed to make me stronger - and more determined.  

One time I was rocked though - I was confronted by an Ob who was determined to do a CSec and didn't give me a hope of a VBAC.  I was 36 weeks at this stage and had been fairly well supported by all thus far - and to have just struck this Ob was unlucky (I was in the public system - so we got whoever we got).  But that incedent spurred me on to visit a homebirth midwife who I consulted and she gave me such a lift - my spirit literally soared as I left her house.  It was the final piece of the puzzle - that I hadn't even known that I was missing - and had I not had such self doubt following the appointmnet with the Ob - I would never have found that extra bit of belief and faith that eventually led to a successful pain and drug free birth.  

Now I am in the same boat about homebirth - I have some questions to address as yet - my first appointment is next week original.gif  But my belief in my ability to birth my baby safely is still very strong.  

Take care of yourself,


Kaohmie

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#14 Shebee

Posted 03 July 2005 - 09:26 PM

Hi Kaohmie, thanks for your reply it has given me a boost. I think it is all becoming very real for me now. The inevitability that this precious bub has got to come out sometime, somewhere, somehow.

If bubs were to arrive the same time that DS did then I only have another 10 weeks to get everything here organised.

Sometimes when I am thinking about having a new baby it feels so right and so natural but occasionally it just seems so strange.

I am worried about how DS will cope and how I will cope. I can see that my relationship with DS is changing already. It is a good time for it to happen and natural too, I think, at his age that he is spending some more time with his Dad and is not as reliant on me. I am really proud of how he is becoming so grown up, LOL, but it makes me sad too. For three and a half years it has just been the two of us (with DH working) we spend everyday together and do everything together and I guess a part of me is mourning that this "era" is coming to an end.

I have a feeling that the relationship that I will have with this child will be quite different. I guess it always is. I am a different person/mother now than I was when Sebastian first entered this world. This is a different child, coming into a different family arrangement, so it really cant be anything but different. I just hope that I can still give as much of myself to this child while still giving to Sebastian. I guess that too is something that many Mums worry about.

Deep breath, this really is such an amazing challenge, the whole motherhood "thing". And I really wouldnt change it for anything  wink.gif.

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#15 chant

Posted 04 July 2005 - 10:08 PM

This week is my DD's 3rd birthday so I'm having a lot of feelings coming up as I always do on my kids' birthdays. Also she has been asking me to tell her her birthstory repeatedly so it's feeling really fresh in my mind! It was a 3 hour labour waterbirth at home.

A couple of thoughts: some people thought I had "a lot" of people at the birth. But I felt like each one was indispensable. My husband, my doctor and midwife, my birth attendant and my student midwife friend (who had both been at my first child's birth as well), a friend to look after Michael (2.3 years at the time) and a friend who had had a wonderful quick birth at home and I just wanted that energy that she symbolised to be present. I had jobs for them all!

In the end they were the most wonderful circle of support. I felt like I had concentric circles surrounding me. The pool was a circle, my partner, birth attendant and student midwife friend were another circle and then yet a another circle beyond. At the moment of crisis not long before the baby emerged I looked up and just felt so supported and honoured.

Having my son present was wonderful, but his carer did have to work pretty hard. They kept blowing out the candles in the room and relighting them, saying "happy birthday" to the baby. She also kept taking him in and out as necessary. Now at 5 years old, he cannot actually remember it!

I think having it as a "family" event that totally included him helped me with the transition away from the "love affair" we shared when he was the only one. I remember at one point when the baby was a few days old, my mother taking Michael out for a walk and I felt like we were the 2 lovers at the end of Casablanca being torn apart but all for the best.

Sorry so long!

#16 ruthieroo

Posted 07 July 2005 - 08:51 PM

Hello!

Shebee, I think I know what you mean about that questioning of yourself. When I was I think 24 weeks pregnant (I can't even remember anymore! Ha!) I came down with an upper UTI/mild kidney infection. It hurt like crazy and that night all I could think was, "How am I going to handle labor if this pain is bringing me to tears!?" I was also feeling really insecure because the doctor I saw was a super jerk when he found out I was seeing a midwife and planning a homebirth. He made really snippy comments like, "Well we'd like to do things naturally but sometimes we just can't." and his follow up phone call was so intimidating ("You need to go get kidney ultrasounds." *I make a non-committal 'mmhm'* "Well? Are you?") and condescending that it made the idea of having to go to the hospital downright terrifying for me. Anyway, kind of getting off on a tangent...wink.gif So anyway, I definitely questioned my ability to have a home birth at times. It's hard not to when "professionals" are making unhelpful comments. My antidote was to get on the internet and read all the positive homebirth (and unassisted birth! I had no intention of going unassisted but it did wonders for me to read of women who did. It affirmed the fact that our bodies really were made to do this quite naturally, regardless of our situations and support.

Oh yeah, and having that horrible back pain with the UTI made me go, 'Gosh I hope I don't have back labor!' HahaHA! All of my contractions were indeed in my back.Tounge1.gif But honestly they were much less painful than the UTI. I felt very prepared to deal with them and I knew the end result would be wonderful...I truly think attitude is so important in how we 'interpret' pain, ya know?



#17 Shebee

Posted 08 July 2005 - 03:39 PM

Chant and Ruthiroo, thank you so much for sharing and for your support. I dont have anyone IRL to discuss this with, because I dont know anyone who has had a homebirth. I think as things are progressing, I am needing some support from people who have "been there and done that", so thank-you for responding!

I am seeing one of my midwives next week so will ask if she has women nearby who might be happy to speak with me. It would be lovely to just sit down and chat with someone about it.

Again, thank-you  original.gif.

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#18 JicyJac

Posted 08 July 2005 - 08:55 PM

Hi Shebee,
Where in Vic are you.  I attend a homebirth support group in the Dandenong Ranges in Melbourne's outer sth east.  

There is a mix of homebirth mothers, pregnant women planning a homebirth and midwives. The next meeting is next Wednesday actually.

PM me if you would like more details.

Or if you can't make the meeting I'm happy to chat to you about my homebirth.

Jac

#19 chant

Posted 09 July 2005 - 11:03 PM

Hi Shebee,

And I know of a great prenatal "class" which usually attracts a lot of women planning homebirths - in Fairfield.

When I was planning a homebirth I felt really confused and underconfident until I heard a few firsthand homebirth stories. Firstly it was reassuring, but more importantly it was inspiring. Especially as I was comparing my first child's hospital birth with their stories.

#20 Shebee

Posted 10 July 2005 - 02:24 PM

Hello, hope everyone is well!

Jac - I am about 1/2 an hour out the west side of Ballarat, so about half the state away from you  original.gif. So, really a bit far for travelling. I would love to hear about your homebirth and how it all came about! Especially the things that you felt were most significant, or stuck in your mind the most.
I'm sure the other EB homebirthers would love to hear it too, or I'm happy for you to pm me!

Chant - Again, Fairfield is further than I'm looking to travel. As for the homebirth, I'm not feeling confused at all. I'd done so much research, even before I'd met my midwives (or gotten pregnant, or even left the hospital with Sebastian for that matter wink.gif) and have everything prepared already, that can be prepared for.
I dont think I'm lacking confidence either. I think now that it is getting closer I'm having some natural anxieties about how it will all go and how I will cope. I'm really trying not to have any expectations.
Sebastian's birth was very painful (as it is), but straight forward and quite fast. I'm trying not to expect the same this time because it may be longer, or there may be hiccups along the way and I dont want to be too thrown out if that is the case.

I absloutely loved giving birth to Sebastian and was on the biggest high afterwards. I have been so excited, ever since, about doing it again. I've been very careful not to get too c*cky about things having gone so well and having coped so well last time. Every birth is different and I expect that this one will be too.
You are right about the inspiration that you get talking and sharing with others, you can always do with some more inspiration! I know I can!

It just seems to be going so quickly. I was thinking though that I would find it a bit confusing waking with contractions and giving birth in the middle of the night. Has anyone had this happen and did you find it disorientating? Just wondering  original.gif.

Again, thank you for your interest and support.

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#21 Shebee

Posted 16 July 2005 - 02:32 PM

Bump  original.gif.

#22 Kaohmie

Posted 20 July 2005 - 12:56 PM

Hey all,

Can't help with the middle of the night scenario I'm afraid Shebee - my two natural deliveries all started in the morning and were delivered in the early afternoon (bub #2 very first contraction was at 8.30am and he was born 3.30pm; bub #3 very first contraction was at 10.30am and she was born at 1.31pm!)  

I must admit I would feel a little out of kilter with a night birth! LOL  I'll be interested to see what others have to say original.gif


Kaohmie

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#23 XxLady_SarahxX

Posted 23 July 2005 - 10:49 PM

I just want to say a big Good on you ladys that you are doing what you want and not what others want original.gif

i think its verry impowering.
take care and safe vibes to you all.

Sarah

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#24 Shebee

Posted 30 July 2005 - 03:58 PM

Hello LovelyMum, I went back through the HB threads and pulled this up, http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/CFForum/vi...=74&Topic=45175
I remembered that Sallybelly was from QLD and spoke very highly of her midwives. I havent seen her around for some time but perhaps you could pm her and get some details. I'm sure she'd be very helpful if you can contact her. Otherwise I'm afraid I cant help with anyone in Brisbane. Have you checked with Homebirth Australia? They'd be able to put you on the right track.

HTH  original.gif.

Shebee
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#25 Shebee

Posted 08 August 2005 - 03:04 PM

Hello, I hope everyone is well! I am 32 weeks today and cant believe how quickly this pregnancy is going now! If this bubs has the same timing as their older brother then I've only got 5 weeks to go, yikes!

We've got most things organised now, our midwives, support people and are just getting the last of our "birth kit" requirements together. I still have to wash the baby clothes and nappies, clean the pram and bassinett and a few other bits and peices but we're nearly there. It is getting a bit scary now and very, very exciting!
DS is asking me most mornings "Mummy is the baby coming today?" "Not today" I say, but I guess it wont be long before I have to tell him "maybe" or "soon" or even "I'd better call your Dad and the midwives now!" LOL!

I'm just so curious to see if this bub is a boy or girl and how it all plays out on the day!

I really am looking forward to it!

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