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#51 Kaohmie

Posted 02 October 2005 - 09:34 PM

Hey Niz original.gif  Good to see a fellow DID wink.gif

I found my midwife through the homebirth association here in Brisbane.  She was the only one (out of 5???) who was available to help us with our birth for December as a few had little kids of their own and were taking December off (or not taking on any more clients).

Good luck with your quest though!  

BTW We drove to WA last Christmas - and went through Kalgoorlie on the way home.  Amazing country.  

Shebee - how are you holding up??  original.gif  

Magenta - I am planning to have my 3 children at the birth - we have a support person for my older two and one for the just turned 2 year old.   Our midwife is very supportive and has provided books for us to read to the children and makes sure that she includes them when she can during her visits.  Ouch with the PUPPS - I must admit that I haven't ever heard of them before - though I am hearing you about the ankles and feet - I am currently doing circles to help mine.


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#52 sunbunny

Posted 03 October 2005 - 09:03 AM

Hi Niz

Will have a number for you soon, have had a reply from a midwife who has a friend in Kal who is attending homebirths.  When I get her details I'll post them here.


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DS Jake 30/07/01 10lb 3oz
Both born peacefully and safely at home....Babies are born, pizzas are delivered!

#53 wearethinkingof4

Posted 03 October 2005 - 04:01 PM

sunnybunny - I'm almost in tears here.. i really thought that our hopes .. albeit late.. of having a HB were all but deminished. I have done all i could in such a short time in trying to resource a MW who would be willing to attend a HB here.( unsucessfully)
I thankyou VERY VERY much for trying to help us.

Kahomie - i really dont think that our little part of red dust out here is nice lol.. were only out here so we can be a family. My dh works on the mines and was fly in fly out on a 2 weeks on 1 week off basis.. and with a 4 months old at the time.. wasnt what i had intended for a good family life.. hence the move to the middle of Nowhere.

Me(Niz)- 23
Dh (Jay)- 26
DS - 5
DD - 2
TTC#3 20 months - finally pregnant original.gif EDD 8th December

#54 sunbunny

Posted 04 October 2005 - 08:21 AM

Hi there,

I've pm'd you storming summer


#55 wearethinkingof4

Posted 04 October 2005 - 09:58 AM

Sunbunny - thankyou so much for the contact original.gif i will keep you informed of what happens and weather or not she will be able to attend or not original.gif

If i could expess how happy you made me this am i would tell you. but in short 30 week pg woman sitting on a chair almost jumping up and down doing happy dance original.gif

Me(Niz)- 23
Dh (Jay)- 26
DS - 5
DD - 2
TTC#3 20 months - finally pregnant original.gif EDD 8th December

#56 magenta

Posted 04 October 2005 - 02:36 PM

storming summer-
Dont give up!!
wow-three kids!
are you worried that you wont be able to handle the noise?
my son is 4 in dec and ive got my sister to be with him thru the birth.....theyre so cheeky together tho-
i hope they both behave!!!
the PUPPPS thing is quite rare i think....jeez -it was hell!
I really hope i dont get it again.it really puts a downer on being pregnant.
I spoke to my friend who was 4yrs when she watched her brother and sister being born at home and she has NO negative memories or perception on birth or babies!
My midwife is a ledgend.this month shes bringing the book 'hello baby' for my son to read.

no sheebee in about 4 days!!! do you think?......

#57 Shebee

Posted 06 October 2005 - 09:34 PM

No such luck, I'm still here! Now 3 weeks and three days more pregnant than I ever got to with Sebastian! Still, I'm only three days past the due date, so I've still got some time up my sleeve.

I had a show last Tuesday and have had more loss since then. I'm having bouts of braxton hicks, some of them get pretty good. The last 24 hours my body seems to be cleansing itself IYKWIM (TMI)! So, my midwives are happy that everything is heading in the right direction, its just a matter of time!

The last couple of days have seen me delving deeper into myself and having some pretty amazing realisations about myself as a Mother and my connection and relationship with this child. Also, about the continuing relationship that I have with my Mum (who died while I was pregnant with DS). It has all been pretty special and I so love pregnancy for that. Both times now I have found it a really powerful time for healing and growth.

Niz - sending positive midwife vibes your way. I so hope that homebirth is available as an option for you -keep us informed.
I commend you on making the move for your family too. It cant have been an easy one to make!

Magenta - My DS was born in a public hospital. He is now 3yrs 8mths old, so close to your DS age.
Our midwives gave us Hello Baby too and it has been really good for opening up discussion!
Just keep talking to your son about it. Who will be there, what is likely to happen. Keep it really simple. You know him and what might be likely to surprise or upset him. Address those things before hand.
The things I though Sebastian might worry about were the sounds that I will make and the blood. I explained to him that I might growl and howl and yell and cry out. One day he told me that the noises might worry him. He wanted to KNOW what noises I might make, so I started making some! I started howling and growling and screaming and crying out. He was bit surprised at first but soon joined in and we ended up in stitches on the floor! We've done that a couple of times now and he calls them "your noises". So he has a real example of what to expect and will have a reference for it when/if it happens.

I explained that there might be a lot of blood and "goo" come out with the baby (he doesnt like blood) but that it is ok and the midwives will clean it all up. He seemed happy enough with that. We look through pregnancy books together and he's seen pictures of babies crowing in diferent positions. I just let him flip through the books when I was having a read of them and if he stopped at something or asked a question I'd answer it as simply as possible. When he got used to seeing some of the pictures I'd point out where a baby was crowning and say that I might get on the floor like I was crawling too (hands and knees), to have this baby. Just to give him an idea.

Originally I had thought that I wanted to prepare him as much as possible and show him birthing movies etc to help. After speaking to my midwives they suggested that for young children it can be too graphic and not relevant to them. The video is not set in his home, with his parents, his midwives and his support people. Seeing a strange woman making strange noises might have been far too abstract for him to relate to and have frightened him, rather than given him confidence in the situation. That made sense to me.

We have two support people lined up for him, though we will see how things develop as to when and if we call them to attend.

Based on how he has responded to my check-ups and tests throughout this pregnancy I would not be at all surprised if he has his head right in the action, is asking a million questions and giving a running commentary of the entire birth! But, if he decided its not for him, he can make himself cosy with his toys or movies etc and just do what feels right for him.

All that done, I am still nervous as to how he will cope and how I will cope with him there. I just have to trust that I've done all I can, there are support people and his Dad to care for him, our midwives are fabulous at including him and explaining what they are doing and that this will be an exciting and positive experience for him!

Well I have gone on! Cant tell whose due and trying to pass the time eh?

Best wishes and thoughts to all,

Me 29
dh 32
DS   Sebastian 16th Feb 2002
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#58 magenta

Posted 07 October 2005 - 10:29 AM

when is yr sons bday??
my son(Miles)is 30dec.its not a very convenient day for a birthday party!
I got a DVD of gentle waterbirths and about 20 photo albums of homebirths.he loved the wwater births as there was no blood and nice piano music playing(im watching thinking' YEAH RIGHT!!!)
he actually got excited when the babies where crowning!i was sooo proud of him.
as for the pics-they didnt go down very well.hes quite alarmed by the placenta and blood.so i kept most of them away.ive just started introducing him gently to the concept of 'good' womens blood(ie periods etc)
I tried explaining that in mummy 'uterus' evry month
my body makes a special pillow incase dad and mum put a baby in there(?).and that if theres no baby-the pillow comes out as good blood-but im not bleeding.
he was surprised and said:
'well,my sister(!!!) can use my pillow and sleep next to me!!'
i think he might still be little too young for such things!!but i think it will help him with the bleeding in birth.
I really cant wait to see how you go!
Im soo happy and excited to have my homebirth and im actually looking forward to it!!
can you tell IM biding time till maternity leave??

#59 Kaohmie

Posted 07 October 2005 - 08:07 PM

Hey girls original.gif

Oh Shebee - I'm glad that you are making the most of the pregnancy - it sounds like you are getting very spiritual - and maybe the baby is waiting for the 'right' moment.  

You have really thought about Sebastian and his needs - he sounds like he will be fine - which I am sure is helping you too.  I hadn't thought about getting out video's etc of births - my three seem very content to flick through the pictures.  My DS (almost 5) is the one that I am most concerned with though - as he displays so much compassion for others when they are in pain - to the point where he will start to cry if his sisters are showing pain/fear.

My 2 supporters for the children are starting to gear up and think seriously about their roles and responsibilities - our 'team' meeting with the midwives is 3 weeks away and I am really looking forward to it - it will make everything seem real IYKWIM.

I'm so big with this little one that everyone thinks that I am 39/40 weeks atm LOL  Little do they know that I am going to grow much, much bigger!!  I get to carry my own table with me biggrin.gif  I'm short and well padded wink.gif normally - so add the extra of the bub and I get to be huge! LOL

Shebee - have faith that everything is going according to plan - the cleansing sounds like a good sign - and so does the show.  Enjoy these last moments.

Hey magenta - so are you having a girl??  Does your DS know something that you don't know? original.gif  According to my eldest DD I am having a girl - and according to DS I am having a boy and according to youngest DD (just turned 2) I'm having a baaaaabeeeee wink.gif

OK - better go - keeping you in my thoughts, Shebee.


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#60 Kaohmie

Posted 07 October 2005 - 08:10 PM

Niz (sorry - meant to post in the last one  blush.gif )- I'm so excited for you too!  I hope that everything works out well original.gif  


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#61 Kaohmie

Posted 08 October 2005 - 05:07 PM

Heya all - I hope everyon eis having a good weekend so far original.gif  It is starting to heat up in Brisbane - so now I really do feel as though I am getting to the end of my pregnancy wink.gif

I sent a pm to the mods about establishing a forum specifically for homebirthing/non hospital births and got a very favourable response.  Thank you to Magenta for first suggesting it.  Apparently it will be considered in the new site upgrade that is happening soon??

Until then I was wondering if it was worth trying to move the two existing homebirthing threads into the one forum???  

Still no news Shebee??  I keep checking in to see how you are doing original.gif


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#62 magenta

Posted 10 October 2005 - 12:24 PM

While i REALLY feel for you  being in the heat up there(im in sydney!)im still working and stuck in aircon all day!!(probably sounds like heaven to you!!)
im sick of congested noise!!
also we have over 16 levels in our building and everytime i go in the lift-i feel like the baby will fall out!!!!
anyway,i wish we could have a separate section for homebirths.but well see!
i could not find this section till someone pointed it out for me!
when i think of 'natural therapies' i think of aromatherapy or something!!!
anyway-lets see what happens.
i really cant wait to hear from sheebee!
enjoy being in the fresh air!!
go for a swim for me!!!

#63 magenta

Posted 10 October 2005 - 12:25 PM

whoops-i meant congested nose!!

#64 Kaohmie

Posted 10 October 2005 - 05:18 PM

Hey Magent - I hear you about the congested nose.  I have found that using a nasal rinse seems to really help.  
Just think about how strong your pelvic floor will be after using the lift and trying to keep the baby in! original.gif  

Shebee . . .. how is it oging??


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#65 magenta

Posted 11 October 2005 - 01:13 PM

just posted my first birth story!!
(this is a hospital birth by the way!)

#66 magenta

Posted 12 October 2005 - 12:40 PM

--geez-its quiet here!--

#67 Kaohmie

Posted 12 October 2005 - 05:24 PM

Hey Magenta,

THanks for posting your first birth story.  It is sometimes hard to do, isn't it?  

My midwife has just given me a book about optimal foetal positioning to encourage our little one to engage the 'right' way.  So now I am leaning forward and doing what I call the scrubbing position so that hopefully in labour our little one will be anterior.  

I'm sure that your midwife will talk to you about it though.  I hope that the Pupps won't return - do they think that they will???

I hope everyone is doing well.  Shebee - thoughts are still with you.


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#68 magenta

Posted 13 October 2005 - 11:19 AM

oooh-give me some tips on positioning!!
im only 23 weeks.when can you start?

#69 Kaohmie

Posted 14 October 2005 - 07:23 AM

The book recommends for first time mums that you start at 32 - 34 weeks and for second and subsequent pregnancies that you start at 36 weeks.  

I'm sure tha your midwife will go through it with you - but mainly it is a lot of leaning forward  - sitting backwards on chairs and such to encourage the baby to face the right way.  


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#70 Shebee

Posted 15 October 2005 - 05:42 PM

Quick, quick message!

YES YES YES we've done it!!!!!

At home, everything was just amazing, she was born really quickly and gently too!

YES I said "SHE"!

Jazz Iris arrived at 9:01pm on Tuesday night (the 11th). Our midwives arrived with 10 mins and 3mins respectively to spare, before she arrived! VERY GOOD TIMING!

She is 7lb 6 1/2 oz (3360), 51cm long, 34cm head circ, breastfed within 15mins and is just perfect!

I'm on cloud nine!

Hate to keep it so brief, will be back as soon as I can!

Best wishes to all

Me 29
dh 32
DS   Sebastian 16th Feb 2002
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#71 Kaohmie

Posted 16 October 2005 - 11:08 AM

Congratulations!!!  Fabulous to hear!!!  

Welcome to the world Jazz Iris !!!  

Great to hear that the family is doing well original.gif

Yeah!!  I'm so excited for you!  Glad to hear that the midwives got there on time wink.gif


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This message was edited by Kaohmie on Sunday, 16 October 2005 @ 11:08 AM

#72 babalon

Posted 16 October 2005 - 03:29 PM

Yay! congratulations Shebee! I'm so glad every
thing went so well.

Jazz Iris is a beautiful name. Well done!

#73 ruthieroo

Posted 17 October 2005 - 11:32 AM

Shebee!! Yay!! I haven't been around in ages but I came especially to see if you'd had your baby yet. Way to go! Congratulations on your sweet little girl.:-D

#74 magenta

Posted 17 October 2005 - 03:04 PM

youre a fantastic aspiration!
I bet yr family and newie are sooo happy!

#75 Kaohmie

Posted 26 October 2005 - 09:38 AM

Hey Lovely Mum - good to hear that the pregnancy is going well.  

Will this be your first homebirth??  I wasn't sure if you meant your second baby or your second homebirth. wink.gif


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