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#26 LUV-MY-KIDS

Posted 28 December 2016 - 10:58 PM

Being school holidays age gap drives me crazy and find it hard to do family time.  16year old and 7 year old.  Prior to last couple of years it was ok, but since she hit 14/15 trying to do things together has become hard.  i find now we hardly do anything as a family and as my DD keeps pointing out it's her that has to compromise all the time and she is right, so this holidays we are doing it totally seperate, I took him away for a week and I'm going away with her to watch tennis soon.

#27 babybug15

Posted 28 December 2016 - 11:03 PM

 LUV-MY-KIDS, on 28 December 2016 - 10:58 PM, said:

i find now we hardly do anything as a family and as my DD keeps pointing out it's her that has to compromise all the time and she is right, so this holidays we are doing it totally seperate, I took him away for a week and I'm going away with her to watch tennis soon.

I'm glad you realised this and I hope your daughter appreciates you are making the effort to spend quality time with her. I am 4 and 12 years older than my siblings and was very frustrated as a teen that we always had to do what I saw as "baby" things and my parents ignored the fact I was turning into a young adult. As an adult I understand more now, but it still hurt and felt like I was ignored at the time.

#28 LUV-MY-KIDS

Posted 28 December 2016 - 11:31 PM

 babybug15, on 28 December 2016 - 11:03 PM, said:



I'm glad you realised this and I hope your daughter appreciates you are making the effort to spend quality time with her. I am 4 and 12 years older than my siblings and was very frustrated as a teen that we always had to do what I saw as "baby" things and my parents ignored the fact I was turning into a young adult. As an adult I understand more now, but it still hurt and felt like I was ignored at the time.

Luckily my dad was in same situation with his siblings him and his brother are only a year apart and then a 10 year age gap and then his twin brothers.  He was the one that pointed out her venting was a legitimate one and it's exactly how he felt growing up.

Now I've done holiday with him I can see where she is coming from, this time last year we had a dreadful holiday as she was just over having to do things with him and having to do and go places she had no interest in.  it does take a lot of effort though as this week I do one day with him and then take her out the next day, so no down time for me, but in the end it's less conflict so more pleasant all round.

I can see why my parents after dads experience were keen to have us all close together.

Edited by LUV-MY-KIDS, 28 December 2016 - 11:34 PM.





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