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#26 sandy34

Posted 02 December 2016 - 07:49 PM

Those melting fondant things might be raw(ish) eggs but most puddings I would think are safe?

I never eat a full 3 course meal. I'd happily skip entree and dessert. Simply, I can't eat that much. My preferred meal is a small entrée and desert. Even that is pushing it.

No restaurant is ever going to say they're pregnancy safe just in case something happens.

I skipped a night out tonight too OP. Too tired and nauseous.

#27 *Jasmine*

Posted 02 December 2016 - 07:57 PM

Restaurants often use raw egg and undercooked / cured meat. Hence they requested the pregnant woman ask for special meals. Something I wasn't willing to do.

I'm so glad I stayed home, too, Sandy. After being at work all day and feeling ill at the best of foods the last thing I feel like is dodging foods I can't eat or even stand the scent of. I'm in bed!

#28 *Jasmine*

Posted 02 December 2016 - 08:02 PM

View Postmeursault, on 02 December 2016 - 05:09 PM, said:

No. one. Cares.
Thank you for your well thought out input.

Unfortunately I do care, and was asking the fellow due in July mums about how to avoid these situations around Christmas.

It might not be a big deal to others, but it is to me.

#29 kittn

Posted 03 December 2016 - 09:30 AM

View PostFroyo, on 02 December 2016 - 04:29 PM, said:

kittn can you just hide the post from everyone but her?

I tried, but it still showed up elsewhere in feeds (my husband checked).
Then people started commenting on it... :rolleyes:

#30 Silverstreak

Posted 03 December 2016 - 09:54 AM

Hey, this was me! I was about 11 weeks pregnant at my work Christmas party. I told everyone that I'd been ill and was on antibiotics, so couldn't drink. Then I only ate the food that came out nice and hot. I'd have a big breakfast and snacks in the bag, just in case there's little you can actually eat at the party.

#31 Silverstreak

Posted 03 December 2016 - 09:56 AM

Or pack a yummy sandwich and excuse yourself at one point!


Edited by Silverstreak, 03 December 2016 - 09:56 AM.

#32 JBH

Posted 03 December 2016 - 10:16 AM

I think it's so rude that anyone would "guess". There have been several times I have been pretty certain colleagues or friends are pregnant. The appropriate response is to keep your mouth shut, and if and when they tell you that news you congratulate them and don't spout off about how you already knew. I would never, ever "out" someone. I realise that is not universal.

#33 *Jasmine*

Posted 03 December 2016 - 10:31 AM

I wouldn't either. My SIL was huge and I knew 100% she was pregnant but respected that it's her news to give and not mine.

A couple of my colleagues would be oblivious, or at least polite, but a couple would take great glee in guessing correctly and outing a person. I'm one of three child bearing age women and one made the mistake of mentioning she wants to try so hasn't heard the end of it, and while I feel terrible for her it's been great at deflecting the attention from me.

I think I will have to go with the food poisoning / antibiotics line. I'm slim so claiming a diet unfortunately won't work and it's quite likely that one will bring nothing but cheeses I can't eat, or maybe a cheddar with a shared knife with the potential bacterias from the other cheeses anyway. I can't stomach it either way (almost left very obvious evidence of pregnancy on the lunch table after trying to brave some cheese)

Maybe if I go with the sick line eating just plain crackers would make sense. I know people say others won't notice but seriously being in a group of less than ten women with one eating nothing but dry crackers I'd be more surprised if someone didn't notice or say anything!

#34 sandy34

Posted 03 December 2016 - 04:00 PM

You'd be surprised OP. With my first I didn't eat ANYTHING in front of people (deathly sick), went out for lunches etc and either picked at a shared plate or just drank mint tea. Made a lot of excuses.
I was outed by my brother at 18 weeks because my boobs were massive. I had been waiting to tell my mum/dad but didn't get the chance.

#35 *Jasmine*

Posted 03 December 2016 - 05:28 PM

View Postsandy34, on 03 December 2016 - 04:00 PM, said:

You'd be surprised OP. With my first I didn't eat ANYTHING in front of people (deathly sick), went out for lunches etc and either picked at a shared plate or just drank mint tea. Made a lot of excuses.
I was outed by my brother at 18 weeks because my boobs were massive. I had been waiting to tell my mum/dad but didn't get the chance.
Thank god my brother is oblivious to that sort of thing. Annoying brothers don't stop being annoying brothers even as adults!

Gee you seem to have it rough with the MS :(

#36 *Jasmine*

Posted 03 December 2016 - 05:30 PM

I guess it's not even so much being outed as pregnant that worries me, but people noticing something is odd and questioning me about it. I'm a terrible liar and I'll get really defensive if anyone asks.

I personally would notice if one of the biggest eaters in the office was suddenly eating nothing but plain crackers. Perhaps not necessarily think pregnancy but would wonder if something was up.

#37 Lou-bags

Posted 03 December 2016 - 06:05 PM

I understand, Jasmine.

I both work with, and have within some of my social circles, people who would immediately notice AND openly question me if I avoided foods or alcohol.

PPs who haven't experienced that are lucky, IMO.

I remember once opting out of the annual Melbourne cup lunch as I had a big experiment planned that day and didn't think I'd be able to fit lunch into my schedule. No less than 3 people in the department 'joked' that I must be pregnant (both alcohol and cold chicken were served at this event every year).

And no sooner had DH and I got married, the alcoholic drink observing started. Many times my not drinking drew comment.

I'm also a rubbish liar.

My most recent pregnancy (with DS2) was revealed to some when I declined a cold and flu tablet proffered by a colleague when he'd noticed I was unwell. He joked that I must be pregnant and I froze like a stunned mullet giving the game away. He was suitably apologetic and it remained between him and I (and his office mate) until I openly announced my pregnancy at 9 or 10 weeks. Which I had to do because I'd started showing and was drawing raised eyebrows and comments and I didn't want it to get back to my supervisor on the gossip grapevine.

#38 *Jasmine*

Posted 03 December 2016 - 06:09 PM

^literally exactly what I'm talking about!

I get that a lot of people wouldn't notice or care. It's just unfortunate I happen to be colleague to those who would lol.

#39 Amelie_

Posted 04 December 2016 - 07:19 PM

I know exactly how you feel, Jasmine! People that I work with are always watching and guessing with the young coupled-up girls in the office. It doesn't bother me, but I know it had bothered others.

Luckily it's become a bit of a running joke, so I just laugh it off as usual. I've been "accused" of being pregnant a few times in the last couple of weeks! I'm also really lucky in that we've decided to postpone the Xmas party and have a new year party in January, so no having to make up excuses for not drinking :D

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