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#76 KC1979

Posted 23 January 2019 - 09:15 PM

I realise this is a long dead thread but I wanted to reply as I could see my beautiful father in law in this situation. He was brought up in a very strict catholic household. He was taught as a teenager it was wrong for him to ever have an impure thought (about women) or to get an erection. He went to seminary school where this was reinforced. He eventually left the school and married my gorgeous MIL and they had 2 kids and were wonderful parents. Fast forward to these days and due to my FILs upbringing plus the stories in the paper/social media, he feels very uncertain about taking his grandkids to the park. He is scared to even look at other kids in case someone thinks he is doing wrong. He hates bathing his male grandchild now as the 3 yr old got an erection once (something that is perfectly normal and happens in warm water and with the parents). He is a wonderful person and def not someone I would ever worry about but due to his upbringing he carries worries he doesn't need to. The OPs father may have been brought up in the same way. Not every man is a paedophile.

#77 eponee

Posted 23 January 2019 - 09:30 PM

View PostKC1979, on 23 January 2019 - 09:15 PM, said:

I realise this is a long dead thread but I wanted to reply as I could see my beautiful father in law in this situation. He was brought up in a very strict catholic household. He was taught as a teenager it was wrong for him to ever have an impure thought (about women) or to get an erection. He went to seminary school where this was reinforced. He eventually left the school and married my gorgeous MIL and they had 2 kids and were wonderful parents. Fast forward to these days and due to my FILs upbringing plus the stories in the paper/social media, he feels very uncertain about taking his grandkids to the park. He is scared to even look at other kids in case someone thinks he is doing wrong. He hates bathing his male grandchild now as the 3 yr old got an erection once (something that is perfectly normal and happens in warm water and with the parents). He is a wonderful person and def not someone I would ever worry about but due to his upbringing he carries worries he doesn't need to. The OPs father may have been brought up in the same way. Not every man is a paedophile.

How sad for your FIL :(

#78 *Ker*

Posted 23 January 2019 - 10:16 PM

My dad said to me at Xmas "what the hell? DD is all grown up. She's gorgeous". I didn't feel weird about it.




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