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Bridesmaid etiquette

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#1 Megustas

Posted 30 June 2018 - 10:08 PM

So I am a bridesmaid for a very good friend. Last time I was a bridesmaid was 24 years ago for my sisters first marriage.... I am not very up with the wedding norms (had very casual & untraditional wedding myself). Any tips on what I should (or shouldnt!) do?

#2 purpleblaze

Posted 30 June 2018 - 10:37 PM

I would ask the bride what are her expectations.  Know this from the outset so there are no assumptions from both ends.  What does she expect you to do, what do you/her pay for etc.

#3 luke's mummu

Posted 30 June 2018 - 10:53 PM

I would ask early on about who’s paying for what so you don’t get a nasty shock a few days out from the wedding! ( as myself and another bridesmaid did cough cough). Ask what she’s planning regarding hens night, kitchen tea etc

Edited by luke's mummu, 30 June 2018 - 10:54 PM.

#4 my*xmas*kiddies

Posted 30 June 2018 - 10:55 PM


Joking. Like pos have said, ask, ask and ask :yes:

ETA...oh and be honist from the get go yourself. Dont feel obligated to say yes if you know it's going to put you in a pickle

Edited by my*xmas*kiddies, 30 June 2018 - 10:57 PM.

#5 Riotproof

Posted 30 June 2018 - 11:02 PM

Ask about budget for dress, shoes, hens and any other wedding related party

#6 born.a.girl

Posted 30 June 2018 - 11:22 PM

I've been bridesmaid three times - three dresses plus shoes etc that were never used again.

It's definitely a privilege for someone to consider themselves close enough to you to ask you to do this.

That said, it's not a cheap exercise, if you are strapped for funds, as per pp, you need to be very clear up front what expense is involved for you.

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