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40 and trying for a fourth after a four year gap. Worried

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#1 Apple-Rose

Posted 14 September 2018 - 08:08 PM


My partner and I have decided to try for a baby. I am forty and I don’t feel time is on my side. I have three children from a previous relationship. This is our first month but I am worried as in the last two months my cycle has become shorter and I don’t notice cm like I used to......should I be worried?

Edited by Apple-Rose, 14 September 2018 - 08:42 PM.

#2 marple

Posted 14 September 2018 - 09:07 PM

I was in exactly the  same situation in 2012 but the result  is 6 now, and the glue of our family in a way.
ETA - Can't help with the other stuff, just wanted to give you a hopeful story for your situation. I was actually 41 when I had him and I was nowhere near the oldest in the hospital.

Edited by marple, 14 September 2018 - 09:09 PM.

#3 Apple-Rose

Posted 14 September 2018 - 09:14 PM

Thanks Marple. I don’t know why but I am really worried about it. Have made an appointment for the next couple of weeks with my Dr

#4 marple

Posted 14 September 2018 - 09:19 PM

Wishing you all the best x

#5 cvbn

Posted 14 September 2018 - 09:41 PM

I had my last baby at 41, after a 5 year gap. It took me 6 months to get pregnant.

I definitely didn't notice the CM being as 'abundant' shall we say and I was also warned the chance of miscarry was higher.

We  all adore our 'grande finale' she makes us laugh everyday.
Good luck!

#6 Rhoxie

Posted 14 September 2018 - 10:00 PM

I'm  expecting in December and I'm  41. This will be my 4th baby but the age gap from the 3rd is 14 years (or 20 years  to my eldest).
So far it's  been a really easy pregnancy  with no problems at all. We conceived in the 3rd month of ttc.

#7 kerilyntaryn

Posted 14 September 2018 - 10:11 PM

I had my 3 a few weeks before my 40th, a surprise after going through treatments with the other 2,  all mine are 4 - 5 years apart

#8 PabloS

Posted 14 September 2018 - 10:20 PM

Some will say they conceived easily over 40. Many others will have problems. See how you go.

#9 Holidayromp

Posted 15 September 2018 - 10:09 AM

I conceived ds2 and our fourth and final a month after my 40tu birthday. There are exactly three years in between each child.
Fertility is individual but as your cycles are getting shorter you are on the right path by seeking medical assistance.
Good luck :)

#10 born.a.girl

Posted 15 September 2018 - 10:43 AM

I could tell you the stories of my sister and my closest friend, but they;'re not going to help you without also telling you the stories of the ones whose fertility had diminished dramatically by 35.

Fertility starts to drop about ten years prior to menopause.  Family history might give you an idea of that, but that's not all there is to it.  One of my sisters was 50 (gave up trying for another at 40), another was early fifties (got pregnant the first month she tried at 44) and I was late fifties (and still madly ovulating in mid forties, after getting pregnant the first month I tried at 38).   Mine had been artificially 'moved along' from being severely underweight as a teenager, and not having first period until nearly 18.

All you can do is investigate how your body's doing, and see if you need some assistance getting pregnant.

Good luck.

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