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#26 Cheesy Sanga

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:21 PM

OP you're allowed to BF wherever and whenever.

I used to BF standing up as well. With my booby monsters I'd never get anything done if I didn't multitask.

Maybe people are looking at you remembering their own BF days, maybe they are thinking "wow she's co-ordinated", maybe they're wondering if they should offer you a chair?

#27 alchetta

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:23 PM

I feed anywhere and everywhere. I've fed on the street, in shops, in specialist appointments, at work, at a concert, in the car leaning over the car seat (not entirely legal probably but better than having the driver completely distracted by 4 hours of screaming).

Sometimes people might be surprised to see you on your feet, they might be jealous, they might wish they were getting pregnant more easily, they might have had a bad morning, they might not have found the shoes they were looking for, they might be in a rush. I just wouldn't look at people's faces if you're feeling self conscious, or look, smile broadly and carry on.

#28 Toddlerandme

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:30 PM

View PostEllie bean, on 04 December 2018 - 10:05 PM, said:

I’m just jealous you can bf standing up, my boobs were so huge I couldn’t do it unless I was sitting down with a pillow, one hand holding the baby and the other holding up my gigantiboob!
You should be able to feed anywhere you like

View PostMagnolia2, on 04 December 2018 - 10:06 PM, said:



Hells yes I'd be staring at you because I was JEALOUS! Standing to feed is a feat of amazingness!

(Finished BFing a few months ago, and I was the sort who needed to go back to the car to feed because I had about 47 pillows I needed to prop all around me to make it comfortable/hold my extremely heavy, wriggly DS.)

This was me too... my pillow went everywhere with me when I was breast feeding.

Buddha, the other day at the shops I saw a lady with a little baby in a carrier and was sort of looking across to see the baby, and then realised she was feeding. I looked away pretty awkwardly, because I didn’t want it to look like I was looking at the mother’s breast. So maybe the looks aren’t all disapproving, some could be awkward like me and some could be amazed/jealous at your ability to multitask!

Either way it says more about the people looking than it does about you. If you are able and comfortable to feed your baby wherever then you can do so.

#29 Prancer is coming

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:43 PM

Yep, feed where you want!  When my DS was little, I would always wake him for school pick up.  I would put him straight in the car and then by the time we got to his sibling’s class he would need a feed.  I was so focused in what I was doing that at first I was oblivious to some people staring.  I noticed a glare and the teacher of the class came out once and told me how lovely it was to see a breastfeeding child yadda yadda and I realised part of her saying that was she had noticed the staring too.

I then realised I had never seen anyone else bf outside the classrooms.  My care factor was zero.  The baby needed a feed and I wasn’t waking him an hour before pick up just to make sure he was fed.  So just focus in your baby and how cute they were and you won’t even notice anyone else.

#30 Mollyksy

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:58 PM

I too have looked and marvelled at the coordination of mamas who can feed and walk! If you are comfortable and bubs comfortable then go for it OP. You know you two best.

#31 Kallie88

Posted 04 December 2018 - 11:08 PM

View PostEllie bean, on 04 December 2018 - 10:05 PM, said:

I’m just jealous you can bf standing up, my boobs were so huge I couldn’t do it unless I was sitting down with a pillow, one hand holding the baby and the other holding up my gigantiboob!
You should be able to feed anywhere you like

Omg I'm not the only one! Lol. I get jealous of people who can bf and have 1 hand free left alone standing/ walking around.

OP you can bf anywhere you want, ignore the looks, some people are just a**holes, others may not have realized you could bf standing up. Either way it's none of their business what you do

#32 hotsonfornowhere

Posted 05 December 2018 - 05:45 AM

I stand to breastfeed when out in public sometimes, depending on DS and his mood. I think some people get confused initially and it takes them a bit to work out I'm actually breastfeeding :lol:

#33 daisy007

Posted 05 December 2018 - 05:52 AM

I would be very impressed if I saw you pushing a pram and feeding. Any movement at all from me and my baby pulls off and gives me a horrified look! Apparently he doesn’t like his milk shaken up!

#34 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:13 AM

i’m sorry you had to deal with this OP.

breastfeeding standing up and rocking/walking was the only way ds1 would latch on at first...for some strange reason! just a quirk of his at the time. you should be able to do this anywhere...no one would look twice at someone bottle feeding a baby while walking around.

#35 WTFJerk

Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:27 AM

If I saw you pushing a pram while breastfeeding I would stare with my mouth open thinking "how does she do that!!"

Then I'd realise that I'd said it out loud and spin around in embarrassment.

#36 born.a.girl

Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:46 AM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:48 PM, said:

Oh okay. I stand to feed a fair bit. Maybe that is what is odd.


Give the looks the best possible interpretation.   If they're women who've breastfed, they're probably thinking 'oh wow that's clever, wish I could have done that'.

People can be startled by seeing something they don't expect.

#37 Hands Up

Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:51 AM

I would probably do a double take. Not in judgement I promise, more like wow how does one do that?! I had huge bfing dramas....

#38 Sarzie

Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:55 AM

I feed in a carrier walking around the shops all the time. I use a manduca. I don’t pay attention to other people.

#39 Teds

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:07 AM

My favourite photo of me breastfeeding is at Alcatraz, at the top of the stairs where one goes into the actual jail. Sitting breastfeeding as all the tourists wandered up the stairs and past me. I had a big wrap, but for my benefit amd comfort noone elses. If I can feed my child there, I can anywhere was my takeaway feom that.
Standing up and feeding, I'm dead impressed.

#40 Pooks Combusted

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:08 AM

View PostLucrezia Borgia, on 05 December 2018 - 06:13 AM, said:

i’m sorry you had to deal with this OP.

breastfeeding standing up and rocking/walking was the only way ds1 would latch on at first...for some strange reason! just a quirk of his at the time. you should be able to do this anywhere...no one would look twice at someone bottle feeding a baby while walking around.

Yeah I think they would. I used to give DS his bottle while pushing a supermarket trolley to try and distract him long enough to actually buy a few things, and I got stopped a couple of times to get told how I was doing it Rong.

It probably is a bit unusual and that’s why people are doing a double take, but still, you should feel supported by your community, not judged. Wrangling babies is hard enough as it is.

#41 CallMeFeral

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:23 AM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM, said:

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

No. But it's more unusual, so some of the looks you are getting COULD just be "wait, what?" double take kind of things. And of course some would be dicks.

I'd probably look. I'm so jealous of people who can feed standing up while doing stuff. A friend of mine used to do it and I definitely used to look as I was so amazed at how chill both her and bub were with it. It was always awkard and a bit stressful for me. The most memorable time I did it was once while trying to get through a supermarket shop with a baby feeding in the carrier, and a baby sitting in the supermarket trolley picking things up from inside and throwing them out onto the floor (where I had to bend with feeding baby to pick up). It was so traumatic. I feel like a hero but I was so stressed by the level of multitasking.

So go you! You're doing great!

Edited by CallMeFeral, 05 December 2018 - 07:23 AM.


#42 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:34 AM

I once (only once) saw a lady BF while walking around a clothes shop. I may have gawped a bit. Because not only was she shopping during baby’s feeding time, she was BF standing up, while moving! And that is not something I could have ever done. Ever. Shopping was done between feeds where possible and feeding was definitley done sitting, with a pillow. Preferably at home, or my boobs wouldn’t cooperate.

So I’m sure it’s amazed gawping, not judgemental glaring.

#43 Future-self

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:50 AM

A shop, a pool, a beach, a cafe, a beautician... thwre’s nowhere where you have to stop and say “this is a different matter, I can’t feed here”. Ever .

I fed Dd while getting my eyebrows done; also in a shoe store while trying on shoes but I felt like My weirdest place was Ikea - DS lost the plot so I sat in this wonderful house scene that was set up like a summer queensland deck. On an outdoor rocker. DH sat in the other one and we chatted like we were part of the scene.
I wanted to buy the rocker when we were finished , it was so comfortable!


#44 cvbn

Posted 05 December 2018 - 07:58 AM

I used to feed pushing my trolley around Woolies, I did get a few glances but more 'What is she doing...ohhhh, feeding' and then they would move along.

I do remember feeding my DS (now 22) in a Burnside Village coffee shop and a man spat on me and left. I was so upset but the shop owner yelled after him and gave me a coffee and a cake.

Otherwise, plenty of looks but more curious or some people really like seeing babies feed.

I am sorry you feel pressured.

#45 Kallie88

Posted 05 December 2018 - 08:07 AM

View Postcvbn, on 05 December 2018 - 07:58 AM, said:

I used to feed pushing my trolley around Woolies, I did get a few glances but more 'What is she doing...ohhhh, feeding' and then they would move along.

I do remember feeding my DS (now 22) in a Burnside Village coffee shop and a man spat on me and left. I was so upset but the shop owner yelled after him and gave me a coffee and a cake.

Otherwise, plenty of looks but more curious or some people really like seeing babies feed.

I am sorry you feel pressured.

A man spat on you!? What a feral *can't say those words on eb..

#46 born.a.girl

Posted 05 December 2018 - 08:39 AM

View Postcvbn, on 05 December 2018 - 07:58 AM, said:

I used to feed pushing my trolley around Woolies, I did get a few glances but more 'What is she doing...ohhhh, feeding' and then they would move along.

I do remember feeding my DS (now 22) in a Burnside Village coffee shop and a man spat on me and left. I was so upset but the shop owner yelled after him and gave me a coffee and a cake.

Otherwise, plenty of looks but more curious or some people really like seeing babies feed.

I am sorry you feel pressured.


Oh wow, how revolting.  What piece of scum.  You remember those things too, like it was yesterday.


I'm in the fortunate position that the only moment I can remember (and I fed when and where I wanted - sitting though!) was at a large shopping centre.   A man my age (40sih) came through a door and looked at me, as you do when your eyes just happen to land on something, then he registered what I was doing, gave me a quick smile before looking away.

As a result, it's something i try to remember to do myself if I inadvertently find myself 'looking at' someone who's feeding, because it's obvious it's still getting disapproving looks from some, and with my resting b**ch face, I don't want to add to that tally.

#47 Mrs Zee

Posted 05 December 2018 - 08:50 AM

I'm so sorry cvbn. What a hideous person. It's lovely that the owner responded kindly.

I just saw this article. https://www.heraldsu...804f2e7b5428460

#48 Milly Molly Mandy

Posted 05 December 2018 - 10:07 AM

I was a star at breastfeeding walking around. I think it was due to the fact that I have tiny little boobs (Sadly even when breastfeeding - I thought it would be my moment but alas no) so it was really easy. I have 3 kids, oldest now teenagers and I dont recall EVER receiving a sideways look or disapproving looks. I dont think anyone cared that I was feeding and I did it everywhere any anywhere. Maybe I just didn't care what people thought and thats why I didn't notice it.


ETA the only time I asked if it was OK was when I did reading groups at school with my youngest when my eldest was in year 1. The teacher said no problem go ahead.

Edited by Milly Molly Mandy, 05 December 2018 - 10:09 AM.


#49 AllyK81

Posted 05 December 2018 - 10:34 AM

I used to feed DS in the ergo. It never quite worked for DD, but DS would feed and then nod off. It was lovely.

#50 Future-self

Posted 05 December 2018 - 11:16 AM

View Postlucky 2, on 04 December 2018 - 09:38 PM, said:


I presume you are not bf in the shop, IE a clothes shop or shoe shop. That would be different!

It’s not different .
I was browsing a shoe shop for sandals, DD woke up and wanted a feed after I chose a few I wanted to try on. I put DD on the boob and she fed while I went about trying on sandals. Including walking in them and looking in the mirror. I chose the ones I wanted. Burped her while paying for said sandals. I don’t get why I shouldn’t have done this?




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