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Incompetent cervix or infection?
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Posted 06 December 2018 - 08:53 AM
So the last week has been pretty awful and I haven’t been able to stop wondering what went wrong. I’d love to have any advice from women that miscarried from an incompetent cervix or infection, to see if the story matches better with one or the other. It’s going to be a bit of a long post.
I was 16.5 weeks pregnant and everything was looking perfect on scans (done at 5,7,12 and 15 weeks due to some spotting). On Thursday last week I had my first midwife appointment and they heard the heartbeat and she even felt the baby move which she was surprised about but I’d been feeling him since 14 weeks so I wasn’t!
On Friday night I went to the toilet and felt something shift down there, moving downwards. I had a little feel and could feel something like a water balloon right at the entrance of my vagina. I called the number the midwives had given me and the lady on the other end just said that she had never heard of this water balloon feeling (having since googled it and found so many people describing the same feeling the night before their waters broke I feel like she was hopeless). She said if there was no pain or cramping then don’t worry about it.
Next morning I woke up to find my waters had broken and we went to emergency, were taken immediately to the birthing suite and after a doctor had checked, he said my waters had broken, I was 5cm dilated and would have to deliver the baby. It could take a couple of days for labour to start and I just had to wait in hospital until it happened. They took me down for a scan and baby was moving with a perfect heartbeat. That was hard to see. My temperature was taken and it was normal.
By the end of the day, of course, my DH and I were both distraught and exhausted from crying all day and I still had zero signs of labour. Being my first baby and sitting in the birthing suite listening to women scream with full term deliveries I was terrified of having to go through it all and not have anything to show for it. I’d also been reading about women who have a proper labour at this stage, 4-20 hours. I asked the doctor whether he could knock me out and do it all for me (D&C) or at the very least, induce me to get it over with. He said because the baby was alive he couldn’t do anything to help.
At about 11pm they gave me some sleeping pills and checked my temperature. Temp was 39, blood pressure and pulse were sky rocketing. They put me on a drip of antibiotics immediately and said that because I had an infection, it was now a life threatening situation for me which meant they were allowed to induce even though baby was still alive. They checked my cervix again and it was back down to 2cm. They gave me some pills and at about 2:45am contractions started, gave birth at 3:15am. We chose not to look at or name him but they told us it was a boy. The placenta came naturally which they told me in the morning was very lucky because a D&C with a raging infection would’ve been very risky.
The next morning they said that they couldn’t say whether it was the infection that brought on pre-term labour, or an incompetent cervix that had been open for a little while and let an infection in. Either way next time my pregnancy will be monitored closely and to be honest I don’t know which diagnosis I would prefer.
They kept me in hospital in the maternity ward until Tuesday to try to make sure the antibiotics were working. The microbiology results came back and found a multi resistant form of E. coli in the placenta, the baby and on my swabs. The doctors treated it very seriously when they got that result, suddenly everyone had to wear gown and mask to come into the room, big biohazard signs everywhere etc.
Anyway as I said, I’m interested to hear from anyone with a similar experience. I feel so unlucky that this happened to us, nobody in my circle of friends or family have ever had a severe pre term birth or second trimester miscarriage so it really was a bolt from the blue. It’s been a traumatic experience. We will be meeting with the doctors again in jan to get the full results from baby’s autopsy and to put together a treatment plan for next time.
Posted 06 December 2018 - 09:10 AM
Hi Mulli, I'm so sorry you went through this. Losing my baby is the hardest thing I've ever gone through. It was also traumatic, though in different ways.
I don't think I had either of those issues you ask about - however I do understand the need to know what went wrong, as here I was talking about it again last night with DH, bringing up other possibilities (almost 6mths later).
All I can say is it sounds like you may get a definitive answer and I hope that helps you emotionally and for your future.
It's a really tough, long journey. Use all the support you can to get through.
Big hugs to you x
Posted 06 December 2018 - 09:21 AM
happy for you to pm me
you are not alone, there is a large supportive community for ic ladies
Posted 06 December 2018 - 09:22 AM
Mulli, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I experienced very similar with my 2nd pregnancy and did go on to have a successful (though premature) pregnancy.
Can I recommend you join the group Incompetent cervix Australia on Facebook when you’re ready? They have lots of advice and really do get it.
Posted 06 December 2018 - 09:46 AM
I’m so sorry you had to go through that, it must have been incredibly hard. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to heal, you and your husband have had a hell of a time.
I don’t have any insight into that situation but do look into the support groups others have mentioned, they can be a fantastic support and get what you are going through.
Posted 06 December 2018 - 09:57 AM
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I will send you a PM.
Posted 06 December 2018 - 10:59 AM
Mulli I am so sorry to hear this. You were so kind to me when I posted about my miscarriage. Sending so much love your way at this terribly sad time xoxo
Posted 07 December 2018 - 05:08 AM
Hi all thank you for your very kind replies and advice. I’ll definitely join the IC support groups - based on your replies and an appointment with my doctor yesterday it does sound like that’s what happened. She’s given me a referral to the OB that the midwives all recommended so I’ll see if I can get an appt with him in January as well for more guidance.
I’m flying to Europe tomorrow for a pre planned white Christmas holiday with my mum so hopefully that helps me take my mind off all of this and puts some distance between me and all the memories I keep reliving from the last 7 days.
Posted 07 December 2018 - 04:54 PM
Mulli I’m sorry.
Honestly I did similar, I had a still birth, when I got clearance I flew to UK & US for a month, it did wonders to get distance and able to deal with everything without anyone hovering.
Hope you are doing ok
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