I've been a brides maid quite a few times and quite frankly, it turned me off getting married. So much to do for just a few hours of 'fun'.
We got married giving our 3 x surviving parents an hour's notice. Everyone else arrived for what they thought was a BBQ for my birthday in the evening.
Was in a dress shop one day with daughter looking for 21st outfit, shop also sold wedding dresses. A woman was there on her own trying on dresses, sounding quite stressed about it.
We were chatting a bit and I just said jokingly 'maybe you should elope'. Her fierce response was 'I wish we had - I had no idea there was this amount of palaver involved, that so many people had to be involved, and it was so much work'.
I often wonder how many women that happens to.