I'm sorry if a lot of these replies aren't what you were expecting. It's probably hard to hear.
The truth is, to people on the outside looking in, it may well look like a baby isn't a good idea. Your DD - quite reasonably - will see this from her perspective. You're seeing it from yours. What will make you happy - new partner, new baby - does impact on your other children.
Tread carefully too, if you've been talking to your DD about hypothetically having a baby when you're actually already pregnant. I wonder if you were hoping you could bring it up as a hypothetical, have them get excited, and then be able to spring the happy surprise that you are pregnant. And now that's not working out as you'd hoped.
Please be gentle and patient with your DD. You have her for life. Your partner - like anyone's new partner, not singling yours out - is new and may not be forever. But she is.
Wishing you a happy Christmas, OP. And all the best for the future too.
Edited by just roses, 24 December 2018 - 01:42 PM.