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Is this poor wedding gift etiquette?

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#1 Jelly Bee

Posted 20 April 2019 - 07:25 PM

We are getting married later this year, around 60 people.

We live outside our major city where most friends live, so we will have a website for accomodation and transport details for the weekend. It’s been suggested that we should put gift arrangements on there.

Neither of us like registries, and we would prefer people didn’t give us cash also. We both agree that we don’t expect gifts but if people do want to give them, we’d like them to choose something they think we’d love.

This is where we get unstuck.
One relative says actually that’s harder for the guests than if you just have a registry.

So I thought perhaps we could say, we don’t expect gifts but if you’d like to give one, please choose something you think we’ll enjoy, and if you’re stuck for ideas, here are some stores we like and things we enjoy doing

But then that sounds too much like what we don’t like about registries! We don’t like the idea of specifying gifts, to us they should be given freely if at all and what the giver wishes to give.

Is it poor form to give no registry details or ideas at all?

Is it poor form to suggest a few general places people might look for gifts?

This whole thing feels so awkward!

#2 Rosepickles

Posted 20 April 2019 - 07:36 PM

I just had a wedding invitation with no mention of gifts. I loved getting whatever people thought we would like. I got so many things I wouldn't have picked and i still treasure them. A few gave cash as they weren't sure, but most just picked us something they wanted to give.

#3 Jelly Bee

Posted 20 April 2019 - 07:57 PM

Oh good both of these are reassuring! Thank you!

Also accidental double thread, could a mod pls close this one?

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