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4.5yo toilet training- Pulling hair out!

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Posted 14 May 2019 - 11:31 AM

HR - I hope you are ok. There is some good advice in this thread.

I too reached a tipping point with my DS at a similar age. And lost my sh*t several times. Whilst he was a good talker, he was late toilet training and he was defiant and had low impulse control as well as delayed gross motor and fine motor skills.

We had him assessed at 4 when his defiance was out of control and showing no signs of abating.  As it turned out he is on the spectrum and getting the diagnosis when we did gave us the funding and the time to get him ready for school - intensive ot, social skills etc, as well as the school understanding him and having the knowledge to be able to support him.

#52 Paddlepop

Posted 14 May 2019 - 08:45 PM

View PostSoontobegran, on 14 May 2019 - 05:15 AM, said:

No I do not but thanks for your suggestion that people with lots of children may not notice the behaviours of the latter ones. Why do you suggest that ? Because they are busy? Don't like them as much? Don't care ?

View PostExpelliarmus, on 14 May 2019 - 09:10 AM, said:

I think you’ve also over extrapolated what Paddlepop was saying.

Expelli is right. What I meant is that it doesn't matter how many children a parent has, they won't necessarily notice differences about their child that might need further examination. Being a parent doesn't make someone a developmental paediatrician, OT, speechie, child psychologist or anything else. It makes them a parent. No matter how many or how few children a parent has they might still miss the signs of developmental issues that their child has.

#53 gracie1978

Posted 14 May 2019 - 08:51 PM

OP after reading this thread last night, I emailed our dev paed.
He has referred us to an continence clinic at our local public hospital.

#54 MsLaurie

Posted 21 May 2019 - 07:22 PM

Something that helped with our stubborn and late to train daughter-
Linking “trying” with watching a DVD. So “if you want to watch Frozen, you have to try to do a poo in the toilet”. It had the advantage of being something she wanted and something that was easy for us to grant or deny.
This linked with a course of stool softeners to get out of the avoiding-it hurts-avoid more horrible cycle started to get results.

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