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Posted 13 May 2019 - 03:12 PM
My 2.5 year old seems to have a constant complaint about having a sore tummy. I am 99% sure that she is faking it for attention.
She knows who will give her more attention (aka grandma and daddy) so she will always put it on for them. It seems to be escalating more lately. Today she had a sore tummy, a sore chin, a sore hip (yep, her words) and sore fingers. She also will quickly change from not feeling very well, to being completely fine in a few seconds.
She also seems to feel 'not very well' when she's in trouble or when she has to go to bed or has to finish doing something that she's enjoying etc.
I keep talking to her about maybe that she's not actually feeling sick but she's feeling sad or upset about something etc. she's generally pretty good with her feelings and emotions and will tell us when she's feeling sad or upset.
I did take her to the doctor who said he couldn't find anything wrong wth her tummy but suggested to get her to drink more water incase she was constipated, but she poo's regularly and they look normal (I am the gross parent that checks the toilet).
Any advice as to what I can do to try and fix this issue assuming she's not sick? I don't want her faking illness so that we don't believe her when she's actually sick.
Posted 13 May 2019 - 09:15 PM
Could it be a touch of anxiety that is making her feel sick maybe?
Posted 13 May 2019 - 09:52 PM
My DD did similar at about the same age. I think for her though it was part of learning words for body parts, as the ‘sore’ body part frequently changed, rather than trying to get out of bedtime, etc. so aside from (initially) worrying that she was hurt it wasn’t really a problem. It was a phase that lasted a month or so (and did progress from just arm or leg, to more complex body parts) and then just stopped, so it may be something your DD stops doing without you doing anything?
One thing I did do if she was saying something was sore and I wanted to work out if she was pretending or really hurt was to turn it into a game, and pretend to be a doctor, ‘Dr mummy says it is time to go to bed and rest so your sore arm/leg/tummy can get better’. If I checked whether teddy had a sore tummy too that would often get a giggle out of her and I would know she was pretending. Or I would pretend to have a sore arm and get her to bandage it with a tea towel. If she just kept saying sore leg, sore leg, then I knew she was actually hurt.
Posted 13 May 2019 - 10:05 PM
It could be anxiety. For years my DD would say she had a sore tummy, lots of tests done, nothing! Once she started with her psych, they explained that was how she expressed her anxiety.
Or she could want more attention. You have a new baby, maybe it’s her way of saying she is feeling sad about less time for her these days.
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