DS7 has a new and fairly intense friendship this year. There have been a few things I've been concerned about, but his teacher called me last week to discuss. She has said the friend has started treating DS terribly during class time and that it has been spilling over to lunchtime too. We first got wind of this a few weeks ago when DS was getting super upset and refusing to go to school, and had observed similar behaviour from this kid.
Basically he will tell DS that he's awesome and his best friend, requests lots of playdates etc. He then alternates this with calling DS names, telling him he's stupid (all the time), not letting him play together and regularly threatening not to be his friend. The worst is that when DS tries to play with others (after being rejected) he then tells the other children not to play with him. This has been witnessed by a number of teachers.
The school and teacher have been excellent. The other mother keeps messaging for playdates but I have said we are not available and I've decided not to facilitate any more of these. This morning the other kid ran over to DS saying he was so happy to see him. He even joined an extra curricular activity this week that he had no interest in before, I suspect in part to see DS.
I'm not sure what to do? DS just can't seem to get his head around what is happening and tbh I can't either. The other kid repeated a year so is over a year older. DS is gifted, some ADHD characteristics (not enough for diagnosis) and a friendly but slightly awkward kid, so very much lives in the moment of this "friendship".
Edited by Orangecake, 12 June 2019 - 04:26 PM.