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Wedding dress cognitive dissonance

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#51 Missy D

Posted 26 June 2019 - 06:57 PM

Another vote for follow your heart. I’m a believer in you don’t choose the wedding dress the dress chooses you!

I too was a career woman who had very fixed idea of what I I wanted (simple, elegant, evening dress) and what I didn’t want (strapless, tulle) and then tried on the traditional wedding dress and feel in love.  Sadly the modern ones looked gorgeous but not on me. I loved my dress and have no regrets.

#52 Bereckii

Posted 26 June 2019 - 07:01 PM

Yay - pictures!

Both are absolutely gorgeous!

If you love the frothy dress - do it! It is not at all what I was picturing, I was thinking much more 1980's merangue. But it isn't, it's beautiful! Love it!

Love love love the first one too! But if trusted friends are giving genuine feedback that you look best in the 2nd one, I would be listening to that!

Also - love that your groom knows what he wants and is doing it!

Have an awesome wedding!

#53 Bereckii

Posted 26 June 2019 - 07:05 PM

View PostMooGuru, on 26 June 2019 - 06:54 PM, said:

They are both gorgeous - I will say for the first one I suspect that may be a very unforgiving bodice area if there is any hint of not a supermodel weight.

Yes, good point about it looking unforgiving in the bodice area. Agree with this. Gorgeous though!

#54 Jelly Bee

Posted 26 June 2019 - 07:06 PM

I’ll be real with you all.... I am a lady of the gunt

The first dress does nothing to hide it while the second dress would hide it, my groom and both my dogs

#55 Daffy2016

Posted 26 June 2019 - 07:25 PM

Doooo iiiiit!

I agonised over how to make white look good on me for my wedding. And then - when I was getting my dress made because I am a lady with capital B boobs and needed some serious structural engineering - I spotted some gorgeous grey blue silk at the dressmakers.

I told her how much I loved the colour. She got so excited at making a non-white dress I couldn’t resist. And I loved it!

Weddings are all about going with your heart. Go frou frou and critics he damned!

#56 ERipley

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:04 PM

The second dress looks way more fun. The first one is gorgeous but really unforgiving.

#57 a letter to Elise.

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:10 PM

They are both gorgeous, but I’d go the second one. It looks like it’s much easier to be comfortable in all day, doesn’t need lots of support garments. I don’t think it’s over the top either. But then, I wore pale pink frothy tulle...

#58 EsmeLennox

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:11 PM

Both are beautiful.

The second dress is not frothy! It’s stunning and feminine.

This is frothy:

#59 Jingleflea

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:13 PM

OMG that's a flouncing dress if ever I saw one EsmeLennox!

#60 BeAwesome

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:15 PM

I love the second dress.

First one is nice, but I'd feel I couldn't eat or breathe in it.

#61 Romeo Void

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:27 PM

Not often that I see two gowns in a row that I think are stunning but these both are.  Wear either, they're both gorgeous!

#62 magic_marker

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:28 PM

View PostEsmeLennox, on 26 June 2019 - 08:11 PM, said:

Both are beautiful.

The second dress is not frothy! It’s stunning and feminine.

This is frothy:

Are they sure it was 1980's or 1890's?

Love the 2nd dress.

#63 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:34 PM

Second one for the win!

#64 Tinky Winky Woo

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:34 PM

I like the second one.  It is frothy but has a sense of being unique and the first one looks too generic to me.

#65 Jelly Bee

Posted 26 June 2019 - 08:53 PM

Oh I am so loving all of you for giving me the confidence to wear the dress I love!

#66 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 26 June 2019 - 09:53 PM

Get married in the first, wear the second to the after-party.

#67 Veritas Vinum Arte

Posted 26 June 2019 - 10:04 PM

View Postmagic_marker, on 26 June 2019 - 08:28 PM, said:

Are they sure it was 1980's or 1890's?

1980s..... tacky manufactured lace. Remember it is the era of Di’s big dress


#68 Caribou

Posted 27 June 2019 - 12:11 AM

I adore the frothy dress! If you’re worried about the bodice, can you source a bolero? They can really add to wedding dresses.

#69 Gudrun

Posted 27 June 2019 - 01:34 AM

I think the frothy one.  That's the whole idea isn't it?  Go bridal, go a dress that you would only choose for your wedding.

#70 Anon63

Posted 27 June 2019 - 04:35 AM

I'd have a friend take some photos of me in the dresses to help decide. Make sure you have the right underwear on for the dress so as to get the correct effect.

#71 JustBeige

Posted 27 June 2019 - 06:06 AM

Love them both, but I'd go #2.

Its the dress you can slouch or sit down and relax in and let gravity back in :)

The other one is gorgeous and if you are going to be standing all night it would be fine. However if you sit and slouch even a little bit the whole look of the dress will change.

#72 nom_de_plume

Posted 27 June 2019 - 06:59 AM

They’re both lovely. Agree that number 2 looks more comfortable though.

DP and I are engaged but no wedding planned as yet because too much organising required. I want a coloured wedding dress. I’m paranoid I’ll try dresses on and end up with a traditional white gown!

#73 Jelly Bee

Posted 27 June 2019 - 08:25 AM

So smart! People say they barely eat their own wedding meal because of all the chatting but I can’t see that being me 😂

I’m a bottom heavy size 14 so second is more flattering, I can see that

#74 ponky

Posted 27 June 2019 - 09:19 AM

I was 37 when I got married and had the big ball dress, 3 bridesmaids and two flower girls and I loved every minute of it.

Even if I had my day all over again, I would not change a thing.

#75 RichardParker

Posted 27 June 2019 - 09:21 AM

I think I prefer the second one.

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