Kids where I am definitely expect them. Once I forgot to give out and kids were asking where the lolly bags were while their parents shushed them, I was glad we had some.
That said, they can be minimal, I think it's more the gesture of something to take home, not that it has to be much. We used to do proper bags but one year it was a Mr Men/Miss book, another a bubble wand with a tube of Mentos, one year they made some craft thing and took it home. But there sort of needs to be something to take home.
Alcohol is awesome. We had a few home parties and had it, but since going to halls have had to stop as we have to get special permission. It matters less once they hit school and parents stop staying, but was a godsend for small child parties. I was always so grateful when I turned up to a small kids party and there was alcohol, I just hate small kid parent-hover parties so much.
We have never had siblings ask. I usually do 2-3 extra because there is always some misunderstanding (once I forgot I had invited someone, another time someone who had said they would not come did come, etc) and if there are spare it's a treat for the birthday kid.
ERipley, on 17 July 2019 - 12:07 PM, said:
Ok, no alcohol I think. Poppers are a good idea. I wonder if or still serve fizzy drink? I’m a bit worried about those kids who are sugar-free.
I went to a party where there was juice and milk. I was surprised, I never thought of milk, but they had strawberry, chocolate and plain and the kids LOVED it there was a constant milk queue. Since then we've done it too - this year we had one young fellow who ate nothing, drank nothing else, but had about 8 cups of plain milk (had only really brought plain for the tea) - so I was glad we had it!
I have fizzy drinks for school age kid parties - they seem to expect it. But below that age juice and milk have been great.