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#1 Chicken Pie

Posted 12 August 2019 - 12:19 PM

Very timely post around screen use had me want to ask you all...what are your rules around amount of screen time for your kids around:

weekdays (school term)

when you feel its impacting them, how do you manage it?

#2 rabbit hyde

Posted 12 August 2019 - 12:47 PM

DD6 isn't allowed screentime between Monday and Thursday. But is allowed it from Friday afterschool, all weekend and throughout school holidays.

When she is allowed screentime we just make sure it's being balanced with actual play (Lego etc) being outside in the yard and will usually try to fit in a bushwalk or quick visit to the park so it's somewhat balanced and just keep an eye on her moods and behaviour.

The only issue we really had was when she was only wanting to watch those stupid YouTube kids channels which just focus on unboxing and buying new toys and could get very frustrating when we were at the shops because she so desperately wanted things because XYZ channel had them.  We guided her towards more of the DIY/Craft channels which she loves so that

#3 Popper

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:02 PM

TV is allowed with no restrictions. iPads allowed 1 hour on Sat/Sun only. We don't have an X-Box and kids don't have phones.

We are very active with extra curricular and home work so TV time through the weekdays doesn't bother me at all.

#4 ERipley

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:04 PM


Edited by ERipley, 19 August 2019 - 10:21 PM.

#5 ~Jolly_F~

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:05 PM

We have no real restrictions.

If we feel they need a time out from it, we take their devices. That’s rare though.

It’s not really something that had been an issue in our house, so haven’t needed to enforce any strict rules.

#6 PrincessPeach

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:07 PM

Mine are 3 & 5.

The 3 year old gets the ipad only in exceptional circumstances, like extra long car trips (over 3 hours), if im sick or we've had a few extra long medical appointments lately so he has had it then.

5 year old - we sit down together with the ipad to do either speech or school homework, no time limits, just however long it takes.

TV - weekdays it doesnt go on before 4pm at the earliest & they loose kids tv at 5.30pm for us to watch the local news. They then get an episode of shaun the sheep or hey duggie before bed.

Weekends - usually a movie on one day, if its wet weather or me/they are unwell they get more (i value my sanity).

Its not set in stone, its going to change massively as they get older & im following closely for suggestions. But mine are just as happy at the moment to play outside on their bikes & scooters or do puzzles & play lego.

Edited by PrincessPeach, 12 August 2019 - 05:00 PM.

#7 aquarium2

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:10 PM

View Postrabbit hyde, on 12 August 2019 - 12:47 PM, said:

DD6 isn't allowed screentime between Monday and Thursday. But is allowed it from Friday afterschool, all weekend and throughout school holidays.

dd8 is exactly the same.

#8 Sentient Puddle

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:12 PM

View Post~J_WTF~, on 12 August 2019 - 01:05 PM, said:

We have no real restrictions.

If we feel they need a time out from it, we take their devices. That’s rare though.

It’s not really something that had been an issue in our house, so haven’t needed to enforce any strict rules.

Same at our house - we have a 12 and 14 year old.  They don't tend to watch tv - so ipads are their downtime.  They do lots of extra curricular activity - so they are allowed to play x-box or on their ipads once all homework and music practice is finished.

#9 JBH

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:20 PM

Our time based “rules” aren’t rigid, but the kids (8 and 12) know we will move to rigid rules if things aren’t working.  Monday to Thursday there is little screen time outside what they need for school work. We might occasionally watch something together, but there isn’t any gaming.  Friday evenings they spend with their grandparents and I think they have a fair bit of screen time. On weekends, we have a fair bit on with sports and social things. However, we try to make some time on at least one afternoon where if they have finished homework and done music practice they can play some games. If sport is rained out, they might play more, if it’s lovely weather there might not be time at all.

Our key rules are on substance and place. No internet in bedrooms, no games/programs/YouTube channels you haven’t cleared with us. Younger is not allowed to chat, elder can only chat with people at his current and former school and only on the sofa in our main lounge room. If the mode of interaction makes him feel uncomfortable, drop out of the chat. We’ve Only had one breach of trust, which was self reported when he felt bad.

#10 Lees75

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:20 PM

View Post~J_WTF~, on 12 August 2019 - 01:05 PM, said:

We have no real restrictions.

If we feel they need a time out from it, we take their devices. That’s rare though.

It’s not really something that had been an issue in our house, so haven’t needed to enforce any strict rules.

Same in my house.

DS15 is not in to gaming. He has an X-box, but really only uses it occasionally in the school holidays, or if he has mates over for a sleep-over. In between football and homework commitments, he is free to watch TV, as he pleases. Some night he will watch TV with me, other nights, he will watch something different, other times, he will play guitar all night. He is a focussed, social kid, so I have never put restrictions on him. He is constantly on his phone, texting his girlfriend, snap-chat, etc, but I don't really care, as he never lets it stop him from getting other things down.

DD12 is also not in to gaming. She spends borderline too much time socialising on her phone, but when I prompt her, she will leave it and read a book, write in her journal, play with slime, etc.

We all like to watch TV together and are currently working our way through Big Bang theory, their choice.

Between their sporting, drama, musical commitments, as well as living between 2 homes, their lives are busy, so I don't mind if they want to use screen-time as down-time.

#11 PooksLikeChristmas

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:23 PM

We don’t have any restrictions, I just intervene if there are issues like I do with anything else.

#12 ECsMum

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:33 PM

Way too much.

If there is any poor behaviour then the device goes on the fridge for whatever time has been stated.

#13 kadoodle

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:35 PM

If there’s fighting or annoying each other around a game or program, the screen goes into time out. No screens at the table or in bed.

#14 EPZ

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:38 PM

Weekdays - none. Extra curricular sport a few nights. Read for before bed.  My DD would be too wired to screen at night, she already finds it hard to switch her brain off.

Weekend - Maybe an hour or two, depending on arrangements.

Holidays - Guess around 4 hrs a week?

#15 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:42 PM

DSD16 doesn't really have any restrictions, but she works really hard (she's in year 11) and knows the consequences if she doesn't. We've never really had an issue with her being on her phone in the night or it affecting if she's meant to be doing something. She is happy as a pig in mud to go on a bushwalk with no phone reception.

DSD14 we only have in school holidays, so no restriction, unless she is on her phone late, in which case she has to put in our room to charge. But we haven't had to do that for about 12 months.

They also don't really have a bedtime. They know what time we need to get up, and they are expected to be up and not complain. They pretty much always do what we ask.

DS2 (almost 3) gets to watch about 30 mins of TV after his shower with Daddy at night before bed. Sometimes it's only 10 or 15 mins depending on how late we finish dinner. It's only started the last few weeks. It tends to be Andy's Prehistoric Adventures and then maybe a show before that if we're early enough.

Often the tv is on for either the morning or the afternoon, but it tends to be something the adults are watching and he isn't interested in and he completely ignores it. He far more interested in playing and being outside than tv. He has started to become interested in Blippi and also watching garbage trucks on youtube (via our tv). But that is maybe 1 hour once a week.

He does use the iPad for reading eggs. But again only about 15 mins a day, and not every day.

Edited by FeralRebelWClaws, 12 August 2019 - 01:45 PM.

#16 Renovators delight

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:44 PM

Children are in Year 2, FYOS and a 3yo.

Before school, the only thing we have is ABCKids once they are downstairs, dressed etc. They have it on while they eat breakfast.

During the day, I often leave it on for DS3 and he plays with the TV in the background. If we go upstairs to do washing or anything, he usually brings an iPad. Sometimes he asks for the 'big TV' - the one with Netflix etc. He's currently watching ABCKids streaming Andy's Safari Adventures.

After school, once they have done reading, lunchboxes etc I sometimes let them watch the big TV, sometimes have iPads (usually they share) but that's probably only 1 or 2 days a week.

Weekend mornings they have ipads or Netflix. Often get a lot of it during the day, and often some video games like Switch or xbox, usually with DP.

We are relatively relaxed, and I do encourage various other things, I regret that often the only way I can get peace and quiet is with an electronic babysitter but I am very grateful for them on cold, wintry wet days.

#17 AllyK81

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:46 PM

I will start by saying we are not big TV people. We also work full time so weekends are so full of other stuff we couldn't fit it in if we wanted to.

So TV - none at all. I can't stand the sound of it being on mindlessly in the background.

We might watch a movie as a family once in a blue moon but it is an active thing we all do together.

ipad - reading eggs maybe once a month if they ask for it for max 45 minutes or so.

Mine are little so I assume this will change. Right now I cannot see the purpose of it.

#18 No Drama Please

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:48 PM

We don’t have any restrictions apart from you can only use them after everything else is done (homework, dinner, showers etc) and not on school mornings (don’t have time).

They’re pretty good kids though, especially at self-moderating, and checking what’s okay to watch or play. If they weren’t it might be different.

#19 Lucrezia Bauble

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:50 PM

no real restrictions here...older ds is pretty sensible and will self regulate ...younger ds i am a *little* worried about.....we had a quiet in-doors weekend just past and i think perhaps he was on it a bit too much...i pulled the pin on him at around 4 and we did something else. i’ll keep my eye on him .... both of them are generally minecrafting when they’re on it. fortnite did not appeal to older ds.

neither of them really watch TV. we have a nintendo switch and they’ll sometimes play mario - older ds is into a city skylines game on that...kind of like sims city maybe?

#20 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 12 August 2019 - 01:57 PM

Primary school kids here (12yo and 10yo)

iPad screentime cuts off at 8:30pm on school nights, 11:00pm on Fri/Sat nights. No ipad/tv allowed in the morning when getting ready for school unless they are all packed and ready to go (if it turns out they aren't as ready as they think & we end up waiting for them, they lose their ipad privileges that afternoon/night). They can go on their ipad after school once chores have been done and homework has been completed.

On the weekend, they go on their devices as much as they can, but they play sport and we always have at least one family activity each weekend, so while it feels constant, it's not.

Neither of the kids use the TV much, except if they are practising their dancing using YouTube clips.

Devices get confiscated if they behave badly,whinge about chores or don't get homework done. DD1 finishes off a one-week ban tonight for whinging about doing the washing up last week.

#21 IamzFeralz

Posted 12 August 2019 - 02:05 PM

My kids are 16 and 13.

The older child gets excellent grades, has a part time job, so there are no restrictions for her.  She often switches between school work and watching a Netflix show.  It works for her and I’m not going to upset the Apple cart.

The younger 13 year old son I do turn off at 8 pm using a separate profile for him on the router.  He then does his washing and tidies his room.  He is really into a Roblox and Minecraft.  He is however keeping up with homework despite having learning difficulties and some behaviour issues related to disability.  He is happy to come out for activities in the school holidays, so not a total addict.

#22 Claudia Jean

Posted 12 August 2019 - 02:11 PM

12 and 10 year old aren't allowed on personal devices (phone, computer, tablets) after 7pm on weekdays and after bedtime on weekends.

We watch TV together and I turn it off when I deem we've had enough!

#23 Riotproof

Posted 12 August 2019 - 02:17 PM

I don’t have tv on before school. I used to be steady re no iPads either but ds gets ready for school and has time to kill, so I think it’s okay then.

I banned those unboxing only because of reaction and I’ve also recently banned poutube.
After school I’m pretty flexible. I used to say he had to do some homework first, but now I say “it’s due on Friday, when you do it is up to you. Let me know if you need help”.

#24 seayork2002

Posted 12 August 2019 - 02:22 PM

DS11 (nealry 12) is allowed a little before school and when he gets home (school days) more on the weekends - for his Ipad

He plays on the play station weekends for a bit

He is 90% ok with what we let him do so he is well aware he pushed it we ban it (he has 2 bans since he got his Ipad 4 years agin from memory)

Some nights we allow some after dinner and we may allow more freedom sometimes and yes he whinges sometimes but his behavior is not effected by it and he is generally a pretty
good kid overall so it will continue until anything changes in him.

High school next year so the above may change then anyway?

#25 annodam

Posted 12 August 2019 - 02:29 PM

This is for the 10½yo.
Screen time iPad turns off at 9:00pm, all Homework must be done before that time (usually is).
We don't have gaming consoles & would never buy them, so no issues there.

Obviously, no such rules now for the 18yo.
Actually, we never really had specific "rules" for her, she was/is responsible.

TV goes on whenever, no set rules there.

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