I RSVPed to the mother of birthday girl 2 weeks ago. I double checked the drop off and pick up times. (Drop off 4pm, pick up 10am)
I dropped DD off at 4pm, walked with her to the door and again double checked pick up time for the following day. The mother said anywhere around 10ish was fine. I said 'ok sounds good, but my hubby will be picking her up as I am working tomorrow morning'. All good.
I get to work yesterday morning and luckily had my phone on me. (Usually it is left in my locker.) Phone was on silent, but I felt it vibrate and saw a message from DD saying 'birthday girls mum has said we all have to go home now because she has had enough.' This was at 7am.
DD had tried to contact hubby, but he had missed her call. (Was asleep and is a heavy sleeper!!)
I managed to get hold of DH and told him to jump in the car and pick her up.
When I got home I asked DD what had happened. She said (and I believe her) that the girls had been up most of the night (which I would expect at a slumber party for young teens), but the mum got upset as she said they were too noisy and that they should have gone to bed. DD said all they were doing was watching movies, putting make up on each other etc. (What I would think is typical young teen behaviour.) DD said she was asleep at 645am when her friend woke her up and said that her mum said that all the girls had to ring their parents and get them picked up immediately. My daughter was not even offered breakfast or even a drink when she was woken up!
So WDYT? Obviously I will not be saying anything to the mother (don't even know her, although I would have had words if it had been me picking up DD. The mother didn't even show her face at the door when DH picked DD up. DD came to the door alone.)
I just think it is very low to do that to not only your own child on her birthday, but also to her friends, and then further more to be getting children to call their parents at 630am on a Sunday morning as the mother said she 'needed to sleep.' (She has 1 other child who is 1 year older, so not like she has young children to attend to, and if you did, why on Earth would you allow a slumber party?!)
I know if it was me I would bite my tongue and just wait till the kids had been picked up at 10am and then gone to bed for a few hours.
Anyway rant over!!
Edited to add: As for further info, I asked my daughter if she had been the last one picked up, and she said no she was second to last. She found out at school yesterday that the last girl had been made to wait alone on the end of sleepover mums driveway whilst her parents got there. So yeah, I guess the duty of care went right out of the window when you are making a 12 year old stand at the bottom of your driveway at 7am with bag, pillow and sleeping bag in hand.
Edited by KylieferalMin0gue, 17 September 2019 - 10:49 PM.