ilovethebeach, on 03 December 2019 - 07:19 PM, said:
Id like to thank those who all gave useful suggestions.
Just to clarify as some people seem to be ‘infering’ things from what i said/ didnt say - can i say which were pretty much all wrong.
I was asking about reporting as i knew nothing about mandatory reporting. I have no intention of making a report.
I would encourage those that have come in attacking others to maybe be a bit kinder.
Also I dont want fiction to get in the way of facts, so romeo vid re your comment about my need for control as I apparently ‘raised’ him yes i did raise him & im fantastically proud of it you dont have much choice when your mum dies & your dad takes off permanently because he cant deal with his grief or raise 2 teens. Some of us dont have picture perfect lives im sorry if you find that hard to understand.
On that note im asking the mods to turn off comments.
Have a great night & give your kids a hug
Seems a little unfair that you want a more general discussion to stop because you didn't like all of the answers.
I have no doubt that you raised your brother. Plenty of people parent their younger siblings, stuff happens and some kids are more responsible that the adults who walk out on them.
I don't think anyone doubts that, but without context, its a bit hard to gauge how vested you are in continuing to parent your brother, and if you need to draw the line.
I am not a fan of small dogs. I am not a fan of untrained dogs, god knows I've spent enough time training dogs over the years. It is a really horrible, and sadly preventable, accident. I think you are wise to ask the question of your brother about what he is doing, and make your decisions about visiting based on that.
Which is pretty much where you should be involved. Your brother gets to make the decisions about his dog and medical treatment of his son. If you don't like the way he sought medical treatment, report your brother the DHS for neglect. If you think the dog is dangerous, report it to the council if your brother doesn't have it PTS. And I'm sure your brother will totally appreciate you making decisions for him and challenging his judgement when it comes to his family.
Which is what we've said - you already told us what he'd done in response, and we're telling you that you don't need to step in and parent your nephew or your brother.