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#1 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 18 December 2019 - 06:24 AM

So DD11 has started asking for TicToc.  She doesn't have a phone, just uses the iPad at home.  I'm leaning towards a 'not yet'  but I'd like to know of others' experiences.

Cheers

#2 boatiebabe

Posted 18 December 2019 - 06:32 AM

If you want to forever lose your child in social media and have them lose hours and days of their lives on something completely inane - then yes!

Otherwise no.

#3 .Jerry.

Posted 18 December 2019 - 06:36 AM

Here is some info about it:
https://www.commonse...-reviews/tiktok

It is the app of choice at the moment for teens / tweens.
Does come (as do all social media type platforms) with possible dangers.

#4 Bereckii

Posted 18 December 2019 - 09:13 AM

Excellent question. Thanks for starting this thread.

My almost-11yo (who doesn't have a phone) really really really wants it too. She feels that she is the "only one" in her her peer group that doesn't have it (yes, I know, we have all been there) and that she is "out of the loop" because of it.

I am really reluctant.

I'd love to hear the experiences of others, good and bad.

#5 KittyTsui

Posted 18 December 2019 - 10:17 AM

Big no from me. Social media in general is toxic.

#6 rowsmum

Posted 18 December 2019 - 10:28 AM

We don't allow it.  DP downloaded it to his phone and found pornographic videos within 30 seconds.

#7 elly35

Posted 18 December 2019 - 10:42 AM

I know nothing about it but a well-known cyber expect that speaks on this topic is a definite no to kids using tic to . According to her the managers of the app have apparently been given a long list of known pedophiles who are using it but refuse to stop giving them access.

#8 seayork2002

Posted 18 December 2019 - 10:45 AM

I have never heard of it, so I googled it and I am still none the wiser, I don't think DS12 has ever mentioned but I am thinking if he does it will be a no (not that I know what it is but going by this thread!) so a genuine thank you for this

#9 Kiwi Bicycle

Posted 18 December 2019 - 10:49 AM

You Tube Kids is a far safer place than Tik Tok. But if course that's probably considered for babies.
Wonder if the FTC will pull a COPPA on Tik Tok next ( of course if they are based outside of the US probably not).

#10 cinnamonnutmeg

Posted 18 December 2019 - 12:05 PM

I would be hesitant too. DS (10) watches tik tok videos on youtube. 90% are just funny stupid things but some more adult content gets through to him.

#11 DogsLife

Posted 18 December 2019 - 12:35 PM

You can set it up as a private account and only let her invite her friends.  This needs to be monitored closely but will stop her seeing unfavorable content as long as it is just her close friends and can be trusted not to add random people.

This was all the rage for my Year 6 early in the year and we monitored it closely.  She deleted it about six months ago as she finally saw how much time and effort she put into it daily!

#12 BeAwesome

Posted 18 December 2019 - 03:03 PM

I've told my 11 year old she can have it for watching content, but not publishing content.  She knows I'm heavily monitoring it.

Before allowing it, I spent an hour trawling her YouTube history, which turned out to be 70% space and science educational videos, 20% 'how to draw'videos, and 20% cat videos and memes.

She doesn't have any other social media yet, as none of her friends do either, so it hasn't been requested.

#13 MrsCee

Posted 18 December 2019 - 03:38 PM

View Post.Jerry., on 18 December 2019 - 06:36 AM, said:

Here is some info about it:
https://www.commonse...-reviews/tiktok

It is the app of choice at the moment for teens / tweens.
Does come (as do all social media type platforms) with possible dangers.

Great link!

I’ve found Commonsense Media a really sensible resource over the last couple of years. There’s no way as a parent that I can be across all apps and platforms and have found their guidance really helpful.

Edited by MrsCee, 18 December 2019 - 03:39 PM.


#14 Manicmum

Posted 19 December 2019 - 06:52 AM

It’s a no from me for my 10yo and 11.5yo. In fact it’s not even a not yet at this point.

#15 KittyTsui

Posted 19 December 2019 - 06:55 AM

View PostMrsCee, on 18 December 2019 - 03:38 PM, said:

Great link!

I’ve found Commonsense Media a really sensible resource over the last couple of years. There’s no way as a parent that I can be across all apps and platforms and have found their guidance really helpful.

Agreed. My go-to site for so many things :)

#16 Prancer is coming

Posted 23 December 2019 - 08:59 PM

My kid is 13 and I have let her have an account.  I would put it off until 13, as I believe it says it is for 13 plus.  I am generally into being a stickler for ratings and great at banning things, but now my kid is a bit older I am trying allowing a few things with supervision.

I monitor her account regularly and can point out a few issues, rather than just specific ones about social media.  It is basically just lip syncing to videos and dancing, but I imagine there is potential for them to be teased about their videos.  I have certainly seen the videos from my kid’s friends and there are some out there attention seeking, seeming depressed and having a dig at someone. There was one dancing in a very skimpy bikini as well.  If your kid is likely to air things on social media that are probably more private matters, I would stay right away from it.  There are also some funny skits or rhymes that can use swear words or inappropriate themes.  In my opinion it is nothing different to what goes on in the school yard, but we do have a younger sibling as home and my kid occasionally will share something or sing something not that appropriate for the younger children, and we have had chats about removing it if this continues.

basically, my DD does not use it that much so I am ok with it.  It does also give me an opportunity to see what her friends are  posting!

#17 CallMeFeral

Posted 23 December 2019 - 09:20 PM

The user comments on that CommonsenseMedia link are pretty revealing.

I read some pretty scary articles about it so it's a no so far. I think I'm just going to try and hold the line that if it has an age limit, they can't have it before that. It's tough though, DD is that age and apparently 'everybody' has it and she's getting left out in conversations.

#18 annodam

Posted 23 December 2019 - 09:53 PM

My eldest only got TicTok in the last 3mo or so, she is 18½ though.  
However, my kids aren't SM obsessed like other peoples kids seem to be.
I don't give a flying fig if all their friends are on SM.
My youngest who is 11 tells me apparently he is the only one in his class with no SM.    
Now that may be the case, who really knows but it could also be BS!  Like I'm really gonna believe an 11yos version of events!
He doesn't have access to the Apple ID p/w so he cannot download any apps.  
There's a reason as to why these things have an age restriction & those dumb ass parents who allow their kids access to this sh*t are asking for trouble.  
There have been numerous incidents in my sons class these past 2yrs with SM.  Thankfully, only 1 involved DS when he was Air-Dropped inappropriate content in Yr 3 by another girl in his class.  
To say I lost my sh*t that day is an understatement!
DD is always telling me how many dramas there are on SM with her friends & she knows to just stay right out of it.
My philosophy is, keep the kids busy with other activities & not rely heavily on SM.

#19 Hands Up

Posted 24 December 2019 - 06:35 AM

A friend of mine has allowed her eight and ten year old girls on it. She and her husband have the passwords and go through and check it every day. When a forty year old man started following the ten year old they had a serious chat about who you accept requests from etc. They think it’s a good way of teaching social media safety without the girls being left out. I don’t know, it still seems way to young for me.

#20 stormimusik3

Posted 28 February 2020 - 12:12 PM

My girls 10 and 8 have no interest in social media and after showing them the segment on 7.30 Report there’s more reason to not ever be on it.

#21 Lucrezia Bauble

Posted 28 February 2020 - 01:52 PM

i watched a report on it on 7.30 (I think? might have been 4 Corners) - there seems to be some concerns over the PRC gaining access to your kids data. i know this sounds like crazy tin foil hat chinese govt paranoia stuff, but the people they interviewed seemed credible. dunno. neither of my two are into it (yet) - i had no idea what it was until about three weeks ago - i was leaving a restaurant with my cousin who pointed to two teenage girls outside the restaurant who were dancing in front of their iPhones - my cousin said “oh - they’re on tik tok” - i just assumed they were on insta! i’m out of touch.


#22 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 02 March 2020 - 10:46 AM

View Poststormimusik3, on 28 February 2020 - 12:12 PM, said:

My girls 10 and 8 have no interest in social media and after showing them the segment on 7.30 Report there’s more reason to not ever be on it.

have you got a link for that?

#23 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 02 March 2020 - 11:13 AM

Both my kids had it (10 and 12). After about 6-9 months, both decided to quit it and delete their accounts. Eldest one realised it was simply sucking up hours of time and was kinda brain-dead.

DH and I always had access to their TT account, could see what they were posting up (if anything), who they were interacting with, etc.

Personally, I think it has to be one of the more useless, inane SM apps available.

#24 Dirty Cat

Posted 02 March 2020 - 11:22 AM

I like to call is unsocial media because nothing good comes of these apps

#25 Bigbaubles

Posted 02 March 2020 - 11:35 AM

A lot of the issue is the addictiveness of it. I teach teenagers and they have some real impulse issues with not using it!




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