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#1 Minnie80

Posted 16 January 2020 - 08:18 PM


So, my 4 year old has mild ASD so everything is delayed. I don't even know what is considered normal.
Now, my 11 month old doesn't point. Her cousin started pointing at about 11 months. Apparently, he just started doing it by himself. Am I supposed to teach my daughter how to point, or do kids pick this stuff by themselves?
My second question is regarding receptive language. I keep reading that kids this sge should be taught basic instructions. Like what? My baby knows what no means. What other basic instructions can I teach her? Give me that? Put it down? Come here? What else can I teach her?

#2 joeyinthesky

Posted 16 January 2020 - 08:57 PM

I think pointing is something that children just pick up from repeated mutual exchange.. you know those random conversations where you see something interesting and point it out to them?! Plane going over, big red fire truck, snail climbing up a post, funny dog in the book you’re reading together etc?

I definitely don’t think you’re required to teach them to point, and it’s not something I’d be concerned about them not doing at less than one year old.

#3 joeyinthesky

Posted 16 January 2020 - 09:03 PM

Re the receptive listening/basic instructions... that would be more along the lines of “please pass me the cup”, “would you like red socks or blue” or “let’s wash your face with the cloth” without really expecting a decision from them...
So giving them an explanation or a name or simple information about what’s happening. No way is an 11 month old able to listen and follow instructions.

#4 Bereckii

Posted 16 January 2020 - 09:32 PM

Re the receptive listening/basic instructions, at that age I did loads of talking where I did both the asking and the answering (basically like talking to myself, but all directed at baby)

"Hmmm... shall we use a fork or a spoon?Let's use a spoon"

"Are you ready for a drink? Here's your cup. Can you do it yourself? Have a drink. Nice cold water, yum!"

"Let's go outside to hang out the washing. Can you come and help me? Shall I carry you out? Come on then, up you get"

"What can you see up there? There's a birdie! What's he doing? He's walking on the roof. He's a funny little thing, isn't he?"

#5 Amica

Posted 16 January 2020 - 09:33 PM

Are you visiting a child health nurse? If so, tell them your concerns with development. They may have you fill out an Ages and Stages Questionnaire (ASQ). There is one for 9 months and the next at 12 months. If there are any grey areas, you can discuss from there.

#6 Islander

Posted 16 January 2020 - 09:49 PM

I’m sure you are modelling pointing in natural situations- both to close objects (the puppy in the book) and far away ones (an aeroplane!) and that is all you need to do.

With receptive language, just make sure you’re using short phrases and sentences when you play with her sometimes. So labelling objects (shoes, hat, car) and people, greetings (Hi, bye bye), verbs (run, jump, drive), comments (yummy, red, big), possession (mine, yours, his).... etc. But just in one or two word phrases... so instead of “lets go and get your shoes before we go outside, I think it’s going to be hot out” Just say “where’s shoes? Shoes on. Let’s go! Outside!” with big pauses for responses between.

#7 Prancer is coming

Posted 16 January 2020 - 10:10 PM

I think it is hard when you have one diagnosed with something, as you are very aware of symptoms.  Which can be a good thing, but at the same time can also be stressful!  

My littlest did not wave (can’t remember about pointing) until he was over 2.  No one seemed that fussed when I mentioned it.  I was very aware it was a red flag for ASD, but he did not have any other symptoms.  Now at 7 he only has an ADHD diagnosis and I don’t have any concerns about ADHD.

Does your older child see a paed?  If so, I recommend having tacking a quick chat with your paed about your younger child. Or speak to some of the other professionals you are involved with, or your GP or health nurse.  I believe it would be hard to get a diagnosis at this age, but certainly you can follow up with specialists re any delays.   Or just a general chat with it being proactive in your parenting of your younger one.

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